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azazl187 said:
Random and personal question incoming.

How many of you guys have found that sex has almost completely dropped off the table once having kids? I don't mean for the few weeks after birth but for 2/3/4 even 5 years and beyond?

For me it has just slowly become less and less common and now is down to once or twice a month where as before the frequency was once a week at least. I've personally not changed, it just seems to be that the wife is just not up for it anymore.

I'm not looking for advice as I've covered all bases in regards to supporting her and I'm in clean, good shape myself. I'm just wondering who else may have experienced this particular lack of intimacy since having kids.
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Slow decline and now we are at once every month or two, 6 years down the line.

She has said she just never feels like it anymore. It is tough going.
 
Devrij said:
Not gonna give medical advice, but we called 111 when our daughter had a super high fever and she was just flopped on the sofa completely lethargic and barely moving. We were freaking out a bit. They sent an ambulance round, they got her out of all her clothes, she didn't cool down. The ambulance made a balloon out of a rubber glove and sharpie and took her to hospital. When we got there, she was fine. Playing with all the toys in the waiting area, chatting away with the nurses etc.

Similar experience the other way round. She was like 35C, called 111, advised to visit out of hours doc. Doc continuously checks her temp like she can't believe it. Off to hospital on their advice. We get there, they chuck her in a bed and before you know it she's up and playing with the toys.

In short, you will have many moments where you think your child is close to death, and you will typically feel embarrassed after their miraculous recovery at the hospital, but you should always make the call and go with their advice if you are concerned. If 999 say they are too busy, call 111 and get their advice. Which might be "get in the car at 2am only to have your child make you look paranoid" after waiting a couple hours for a call back. But you will always feel better safe than sorry.
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Cheers for the reply bud, yeah it gets scary at times especially when you feel like you've done everything you can do, she seems to be getting better, not 100% as she's still not sleeping through the night due to coughing fits, me and our little girl have been on the sofa the last 3 nights as I've now got man flu so the missus doesn't want me in the bed :cry:
 
Devrij said:
Slow decline and now we are at once every month or two, 6 years down the line.

She has said she just never feels like it anymore. It is tough going.
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I thought I was having it bad with it dropping to once a week. Same reason though its like my Mrs cba. Its OK though as we've no download limit on the Internet usage:eek::cry:.
 
azazl187 said:
Random and personal question incoming.

How many of you guys have found that sex has almost completely dropped off the table once having kids? I don't mean for the few weeks after birth but for 2/3/4 even 5 years and beyond?
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So we're on 4 years since our last child and sex is maybe once every 2/3 months, although we moved into the new home the other day and I had it twice in one night, i have a very high drive for it but since having kids she has been nowhere near as interested in it and comes up with some great excuses :cry:
 
We have 2 children. Last time for us was May/June time and I can’t remember the time before that - may have been early 2022. She’s never really been interested in it so it came as no surprise (pun intended) :D
 
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Our lad, 10, rarely gets ill. Maybe 2-3 times we can recall, mild temp and gone within a day.

I went to the states and brought COVID home a couple weeks a go.

He has been sick since Thursday night. Temperature going from 37.5-38.7.

It'll be 4 nights tomorrow night.

Other than temp, and very annoying cough he seems fine.

As it's such a rarity, we're both a little stressed. But everything we read suggests it's just flu and take a a few days to get the temp down.

Never really been here before.

Given him some paracetamol, and cough medicine, but nothing really makes a difference temp of coughing wise.
 
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lnoton said:
Our lad, 10, rarely gets ill. Maybe 2-3 times we can recall, mild temp and gone within a day.

I went to the states and brought COVID home a couple weeks a go.

He has been sick since Thursday night. Temperature going from 37.5-38.7.

It'll be 4 nights tomorrow night.

Other than temp, and very annoying cough he seems fine.

As it's such a rarity, we're both a little stressed. But everything we read suggests it's just flu and take a a few days to get the temp down.

Never really been here before.

Given him some paracetamol, and cough medicine, but nothing really makes a difference temp of coughing wise.
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My 2.5 year old is coughing this week really bad too. Just what it is.
 
4 out of the 5 of mine have scarlet fever / strep at the moment. It's been very horrible, 39.6 temps across all 4 of of them at times, doctors prescribed antibiotics anyway but I had an absolute mission going to try and get any from the pharmacy. I had to travel to 12 different ones to get the first lot the other day, then had to go another 2 hour journey all over the place a couple off days ago for the others!

There is a real bad shortage of penicillin around here at the moment! It's one of those times that when your children and very sick you need to get what you need and quickly, well this county can't seem to provide that anymore and it really worries me.

Then you read on the news that the health dude says no shortages, well that wasn't my experience over the last week.
 
It seems very clear to me that a lot of blokes suffer from a lack of intimacy from the other half.

Infact it seems very common. Why were we not told about this before we got married and had kids?!
 
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I split with my wife back in July, lots of reasons but another was sex. Apparently I only touched her when I wanted sex. Not quite true, I always tried but she always said it felt forced and of course the old I have to instigate it always as she never did. Women !! They are a serious danger to your mental health. Glad to be out of it now.
 
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I split with my wife back in July, lots of reasons but another was sex. Apparently I only touched her when I wanted sex. Not quite true, I always tried but she always said it felt forced and of course the old I have to instigate it always as she never did. Women !! They are a serious danger to your mental health. Glad to be out of it now.
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That's the sort of thing that worries me. I'd say 99% of the time it's either me starting it or her feeling guilty in that we've not done it for a while.
 
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Whitewater said:
We have 2 children. Last time for us was May/June time and I can’t remember the time before that - may have been early 2022. She’s never really been interested in it so it came as no surprise (pun intended) :D
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Good to know - I thought mine was the only one.:mad:
 
I have always found that once or twice a month is perfectly fine for my needs. I also find I have to catch the wife when she is ovulating which is usually just after her period, at this point it doesn't matter what I do she is mostly always up for it. If you happen to try at a time just before her period or too far after ovulation then your in for a much tougher time.

of course its almost always me who initiates these things but it has been known to not be me, which comes as a right shock when it happens :cry:

This is probably why we have so many children lol
 
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Glad others have an intermittent sex drought and not just me.

Understandably wife had some body confidence issues after the birth so gave her plenty of space. It can be weeks or months inbetween, however i'm already so knackered myself, I don't mind so much.

One thing i'd say, make sure you're doing your fair bit around the house, whether that's directly supporting with your children or helping with cooking, cleaning and washing for additional support. If you're just focused on work to bring in money and consider that enough and get complacent, other half will subconsciously start to register you as a dependent along with the child and she will, without realising it herself, lose interest in you in a sexual way.

BRB - doing all the housework as want this year to go out with a bang ;) :D
 
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Anyone else's kid just won't eat? Ours is 15 months old and is tallish for his age but still fits into 12 month old clothes because he's a thin or according to the GF "lean" baby. The health visitors and all that ain't bothered and think he's fine but he just won't eat much.

Are all little toddlers this picky with food? Do I need to take him to Cosmo for unlimited buffet?
 
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