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Axeboy said:
Our second arrived at 1031 this morning. A wee girl, Katie, at 7lb 15. What a difference to the first time, very smooth, planned and everyones enjoying the time.

Took to feeding instantly and has slept most of the time.
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Congratulations! Are both girls? I never thought I'd be the kind but I feel destined to being a girl dad. Absolutely love it. So much so that if we were to have another I'd almost want to guarantee it would be a girl!

Hope you and the mother are both well :)
The Funktopus said:
Been trying to get my daughter into nursery seeing as she turned 3 in August, and we qualify for 15 hours of free childcare. She’s only doing an hour and a quarter between 1.15 and 2.30 at a nursery attached to the Primary school she’ll hopefully be going to , but even then that’s proving too much for her, and a few times now either my wife or myself have been called in to come and get her due to her undergoing a meltdown that the staff can’t manage.

We’re trying to arrange a meeting with the school’s SENCo (special educational needs coordinator) to discuss the way forward, and look into whether she can find out from her contacts within the local authorities whether they would accept a private Autism assessment to access further help. With the diagnosis from the assessment she should qualify for one-to-one support, which would mean there’d be another teaching assistant in the class, dedicated to helping with my daughter, as right now the class only has 1 teacher and 1 TA for 26 children, which is the absolute bare minimum ration of 13:1, which means when Anna does go into meltdown, they can’t spare anyone to try and calm her down.

The only other thing I can think of is that we pull her out of the school nursery and put her into a private nursery that’s better equipped to deal with her. We’re lucky that with my change of career earlier this year, we should be able to afford it, the only issue now is that my wife resists any effort to have anyone other than either myself, her or her mother look after our daughter for any significant amount of time. Infact, any amount of time.
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Hope you find something that suits you all well. I wouldn't beat yourself up too much about nursery though. We sort of had our hand forced and had to put our daughter in nursery from 11 months old. Hated the first few weeks as she would be in floods of tears when we dropped her off. Though after 6 weeks she absolutely loves nursery now and gets excited to go and see the staff. I know it's super hard to see your child upset but it's really worth it in the long run

Anecdotally as I am not qualified in anyway shape or form and only have 1 child but I feel the tears of the first few weeks were totally worth it. Her development seemed to shoot through the roof compared to other children the same age who didn't go.
 
dlockers said:
Best of luck; but that position from your wife/mother in law would be a relationship ender for me.
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I’m having those thoughts to be honest. Every time I try to raise how we’re bringing up our daughter or suggest a way forward different to what my wife thinks, it either get’s shut down or she’s “too upset to talk about it”.
 
Anyone elses young one insists on playing with your hair whilst they're falling asleep? My 2Yo will not go to sleep without playing with my hair.
 
willhub said:
Anyone elses young one insists on playing with your hair whilst they're falling asleep? My 2Yo will not go to sleep without playing with my hair.
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That's kinda sweet... But I have no hair so can't relate. :D :o

Our kids have been given permission to come in for snuggles on the weekends at 7am. No earlier. Since the eldest can tell the time, they literally wait till 7am and then surprisingly quietly come into bed with us and we'll have a 30 min cuddle. It's so wholesome and lovely - I long for the weekends! During the week I'm up before everyone, but they always come down (if I'm not in the office) and give me a cuddle first thing in the morning - it really sets me up for the day.
 
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willhub said:
Anyone elses young one insists on playing with your hair whilst they're falling asleep? My 2Yo will not go to sleep without playing with my hair.
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Haha no but my next door neighbors lad when I was growing up used to LOVE playing with my ear to make him go to sleep. Think I was 6 and he was about 2 or 3.
 
willhub said:
Anyone elses young one insists on playing with your hair whilst they're falling asleep? My 2Yo will not go to sleep without playing with my hair.
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No.

Mine is more sinister. She loves grabbing my neck or adams apple. Luckily she has small hands but I'm worried I'm raising a killer with a penchant for strangulation :p
 
Junglist said:
No.

Mine is more sinister. She loves grabbing my neck or adams apple. Luckily she has small hands but I'm worried I'm raising a killer with a penchant for strangulation :p
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I've got an adams apple grabber as well, right before she gets put in her bed to sleep. Just looks me in the eye and then goes for it...
 
Junglist said:
No.

Mine is more sinister. She loves grabbing my neck or adams apple. Luckily she has small hands but I'm worried I'm raising a killer with a penchant for strangulation :p
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I'd had a MASSIVE sore in my mouth for the past week where my son threw the GF's iPhone 12 Pro max at me and thought it was funny :mad:
 
If I’ve got hold of my daughter in my arms and she decides she needs a bit of leverage to turn around, she usually just crushes my windpipe with her forearm. Another favorite of her’s has been to press down on my carotid artery while I’ve been carrying her to turn around too.
 
Junglist said:
No.

Mine is more sinister. She loves grabbing my neck or adams apple. Luckily she has small hands but I'm worried I'm raising a killer with a penchant for strangulation :p
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t2na said:
I've got an adams apple grabber as well, right before she gets put in her bed to sleep. Just looks me in the eye and then goes for it...
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It's so funny you both mention this; a really senior guy I worked for has just been away and posted about 20 pics of his 3 y/o doing what he described as the "Vulcan Death Grip".
 
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They are little buggers aren't they. My two have got a medley of horrible things they do.

The little opening and closing hand in the armpit when you are holding them.
The gently opening and closing of the hand on another body part. Obviously ensuring that the tiny micron thin nails are heavily involved.
The kick you or punch you in the balls manoeuvre when they are sitting on you.

My favourite though is when they both hold my partners chin when shes holding them or feeding them. Its become a game and I've joined in. See how long you can hold her chin without her noticing. :p
 
Junglist said:
Congratulations! Are both girls? I never thought I'd be the kind but I feel destined to being a girl dad. Absolutely love it. So much so that if we were to have another I'd almost want to guarantee it would be a girl!
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You say that now. Wait until they start bringing boys, girls or thems home.

I wanted girls before I had my two boys and its completely changed my mind. I think that you just can't imagine anything better than what you have so you automatically want more of that. I wouldn't mind a girl if we had another but I would be perfectly happy with either.

With some of the poos they have been doing lately however I am glad they are boys for the cleanup! :(
 
Babies on planes are ok - in fact they’re pretty easy as they don’t want for too much apart from milk and a clean nappy. It’s toddlers you want to watch out for! The danger years are 1.5 - 4. We’ve been on a number of flights with our young kids and they’ve been brilliant. A fantastic tip is to wrap loads of tiny things in wrapping paper - snacks, pens, toys etc etc. My wife suggested this and I thought she was crazy. I wouldn’t go on any holiday with young children without doing this now. Unwrapping takes some time and attention and they can play with or eat the contents (or both!). Also works for meals out and about when on holiday.
 
tom_nieto said:
Babies on planes are ok - in fact they’re pretty easy as they don’t want for too much apart from milk and a clean nappy. It’s toddlers you want to watch out for! The danger years are 1.5 - 4. We’ve been on a number of flights with our young kids and they’ve been brilliant. A fantastic tip is to wrap loads of tiny things in wrapping paper - snacks, pens, toys etc etc. My wife suggested this and I thought she was crazy. I wouldn’t go on any holiday with young children without doing this now. Unwrapping takes some time and attention and they can play with or eat the contents (or both!). Also works for meals out and about when on holiday.
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Being a parent seems to be largely about outwitting your children to do what you want.

When my partner was younger her dad told her that at night all the sharks come out of the water and sleep on the beach. Thats why you can't go near the water after sunset. Those sand sharks kept her safe for many years while her parents enjoyed their meals by the beach.
 
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