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Being exposed to chickenpox as an adult (for example, through contact with infected children) boosts your immunity to shingles.

If you vaccinate children against chickenpox, you lose this natural boosting, so immunity in adults will drop and more shingles cases will occur.

Dunno why you need a vaccine for something that we've just allowed to circulate naturally for a long time. Chickenpox party if your that worried.

Pretty sure the evidence points to that not being the case, US has been using it since 1995 and Germany 2002 I think so plenty of evidence now.

Chickenpox can badly scar you for life, my brother had it and he's a mess from the marks left over.

Also I had chickenpox as a kid and also ended up with shingles later on in life, stress related at the time I believe.
 
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Our daughter actually had chicken pox last month. Luckily it wasn't too bad and now we are glad it's out of the way with.

conversely, I didn't have chicken pox until I was 16. Was horrid and I still have scars all over me now from where I couldn't resist scratching them. Fair few on my face! Luckily K only has a single one which has scarred
 
Not as much a 'Dad' question but more a question I feel more comfortable with anonymity talking about with you guys.

My partner and I are hitting the 7 year mark next year. My best friend got engaged today and I'm beyond made up for her but now realise it leaves me and my partner as the only ones not engaged/married and it'll only be so long until it's my turn.

I can't imagine life with anyone else but her and I love the life we've built together yada yada yada but for some reason I am petrified of asking 'the question'. Not through fear of her saying no, not through fear of commitment but for something super trivial and stupid. I am scared of a day where all the focus is on us and I have to do a big speech. It's not in my make up. I know a wedding can be as big or as small as you wish but we both have fairly big families and a massive group of friends.

How did you find your big days and how did you go about asking? I already have thought about the asking part but I need to get the cajones. Though I think realistically I have another year. Maybe :o
 
Not sure if this helps @Junglist but you'll be as "blended in with the background" as the confetti and chairs. The day is about her entirely TBH. You just need to get your mates there and get battered. The speech for the groom is as a simple as thanking the bridesmaids.
 
Not sure if this helps @Junglist but you'll be as "blended in with the background" as the confetti and chairs. The day is about her entirely TBH. You just need to get your mates there and get battered. The speech for the groom is as a simple as thanking the bridesmaids.

That has actually helped. Massive introvert typically so the idea of more than 6 sets of eyes looking at me at once feels like the world is going to swallow me up.
Though the whole getting battered part with mates sounds quite achievable

It certainly matters more to her than I but I do see the appeal with us all having the same name. Plus there's tax benefits too right? Extra money always sways me
 
Not sure if this helps @Junglist but you'll be as "blended in with the background" as the confetti and chairs. The day is about her entirely TBH. You just need to get your mates there and get battered. The speech for the groom is as a simple as thanking the bridesmaids.
Pretty much this. I am 100% not a get up and talk in front of a room full of people person but a couple of Guinness between the ceremony and the speeches I basically just had a little ramble thanked everyone and sat down.

The best mans speech is the one anyone really cares about and then yeah the rest of the day is hers you're just wondering around consuming whatever is put in your hand :D
 
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Not as much a 'Dad' question but more a question I feel more comfortable with anonymity talking about with you guys.

My partner and I are hitting the 7 year mark next year. My best friend got engaged today and I'm beyond made up for her but now realise it leaves me and my partner as the only ones not engaged/married and it'll only be so long until it's my turn.

I can't imagine life with anyone else but her and I love the life we've built together yada yada yada but for some reason I am petrified of asking 'the question'. Not through fear of her saying no, not through fear of commitment but for something super trivial and stupid. I am scared of a day where all the focus is on us and I have to do a big speech. It's not in my make up. I know a wedding can be as big or as small as you wish but we both have fairly big families and a massive group of friends.

How did you find your big days and how did you go about asking? I already have thought about the asking part but I need to get the cajones. Though I think realistically I have another year. Maybe :o
I really struggled with my speech, I got myself in a massive mess about it, panicking, started being stressed, started smoking again, so I totally feel your pain.

I do public speaking well, I do it for my job, getting in front of total strangers but I'm at ease as 99% of the time I know that I know more than the people in the room.

In the end people said my speech was amazing, there was loads of laughter, and my delivery was on point. Best man speech topped it though, his was amazing.

Not much help apart to say that I get where you're coming from.
 
Not as much a 'Dad' question but more a question I feel more comfortable with anonymity talking about with you guys.

My partner and I are hitting the 7 year mark next year. My best friend got engaged today and I'm beyond made up for her but now realise it leaves me and my partner as the only ones not engaged/married and it'll only be so long until it's my turn.

I can't imagine life with anyone else but her and I love the life we've built together yada yada yada but for some reason I am petrified of asking 'the question'. Not through fear of her saying no, not through fear of commitment but for something super trivial and stupid. I am scared of a day where all the focus is on us and I have to do a big speech. It's not in my make up. I know a wedding can be as big or as small as you wish but we both have fairly big families and a massive group of friends.

How did you find your big days and how did you go about asking? I already have thought about the asking part but I need to get the cajones. Though I think realistically I have another year. Maybe :o

You are me lol.

Asking was easy she kept telling me to ask her so did it whilst walking around in meadowhall as we had our child and would rather we all had the same surname.

We are having zero speeches at our wedding, I don't want to do them and my friends would rather not if given the chance.
Your wedding, do what makes YOU comfortable, if your missus wants speeches, tell her and her mates to get up, equal society and all that jazz.
 
Any sensible suggestions for transporting a 2 year old and a new born baby out of the house?

I'm adamant we don't need a double buggy, we're both pretty happy with 'baby wearing' in various slings etc so hoping that will cover most bases of newborn in a sling and the toddler in the pram. However when it comes to taking both kids out solo it gets a little bit tricky, our toddler is a decent walker but no where near ready to be out of the buggy full time... also his perception of where he is actually walking is obviously atrocious.
We were gonna pick up one of those buggy board things to stick him on as a solution and see how gets on but does anyone else have any practical experience? What worked for you?
 
Unless you've got broad shoulder I am not sure a single buggy/boogey board will work. I gave up on any buggy with my 2y/o and it was just a pain. There was only one instance where I almost dumped her in favour of retaining my groceries :D

Edit: or get a city mini GT from marketplace. They are dirt cheap and pretty wicked.
 
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Any sensible suggestions for transporting a 2 year old and a new born baby out of the house?

I'm adamant we don't need a double buggy, we're both pretty happy with 'baby wearing' in various slings etc so hoping that will cover most bases of newborn in a sling and the toddler in the pram. However when it comes to taking both kids out solo it gets a little bit tricky, our toddler is a decent walker but no where near ready to be out of the buggy full time... also his perception of where he is actually walking is obviously atrocious.
We were gonna pick up one of those buggy board things to stick him on as a solution and see how gets on but does anyone else have any practical experience? What worked for you?
We did the buggy board thing, my son liked it at first, but after a while would much rather be walking, its good enough for short trips out on your own (shops, nursery etc). The main issue is when they are both tired, or you actually want them to sleep, then you need a better solution. We ended up also getting a fold up Maclaren thing for when there were two of us and we wanted to get places.
 
My 2yo has been waking up in the night and going mad will only settle when in bed with us, and same won't go to sleep if in the bed with us at bed time.

So we've started trying to get him going to sleep in his own bed.

It's really stressful, feel so neglectful, he's screaming and screaming, then kind of stops and is twiddling his hair then does it again followed by a swift hard headbutt on the bed rail and then repeats it all.

He's shreaking now and like so stressed he like of gargles he's trying so hard. Don't even know what we should do :(
 
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My 2yo has been waking up in the night and going mad will only settle when in bed with us, and same won't go to sleep if in the bed with us at bed time.

So we've started trying to get him going to sleep in his own bed.

It's really stressful, feel so neglectful, he's screaming and screaming, then kind of stops and is twiddling his hair then does it again followed by a swift hard headbutt on the bed rail and then repeats it all.

He's shreaking now and like so stressed he like of gargles he's trying so hard. Don't even know what we should do :(
Do nothing. He'll learn quickly that his current approach is pretty boring. He isn't in pain or at risk so just get over it yourself too. If you find yourself doing bad habits maybe get a sleep coach.
 
Do nothing. He'll learn quickly that his current approach is pretty boring. He isn't in pain or at risk so just get over it yourself too. If you find yourself doing bad habits maybe get a sleep coach.

We ended up giving him to him, he started like head butting repeatedly like "bang bang bang bang", I can't imagine this won't be hurting him, its mad.
 
My 2yo has been waking up in the night and going mad will only settle when in bed with us, and same won't go to sleep if in the bed with us at bed time.

So we've started trying to get him going to sleep in his own bed.

It's really stressful, feel so neglectful, he's screaming and screaming, then kind of stops and is twiddling his hair then does it again followed by a swift hard headbutt on the bed rail and then repeats it all.

He's shreaking now and like so stressed he like of gargles he's trying so hard. Don't even know what we should do :(

We are in the same boat with our 2yo, she is still being breast fed and the only way to settle her is to feed.

We're going to stop after Xmas and we'll be in a similar place to you now, it's stressful, and we've also got a 6yo and 9yo and it effects them as well.

It feels so wrong to ignore them, have you looked into the controlled crying technique, whereby you gradually increase the time between going in to soothe them? It feels so wrong but from the research I've seen it doesn't actually do them any kind of long term damage! (Hard to imagine when they are banging their heads on the cot side!!)

All the best
 
I feel for you guys going through that! We were quite ruthless and had our daughter sleeping in her own room from about 3 months on. She's now 19 months and will come into our bed as long as it's after 6am but otherwise we're quite strict in the sense that our bed is ours and her bed is hers.

Though I think we've got super lucky. She was sleeping pretty much through the night bar one feeding since about 10 months. She's a really good sleeper unless she is ill. Last night was 7pm-6am with maybe one stir around 11pm.
 
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