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It can happen - bad luck, children's immune systems are still developing at nursery age and there can be a succession of illnesses in the group. I remember calling the little ones petri dishes!
Hopefully things will be good for a long while after you get over this bad patch
 
tom_e said:
Since our little one started nursery in Feb I can't remember the last time either her, my wife, me or a combo of all three of us haven't had some sort of snotty lurgy.
There's no a lot you can do when the crawl/toddle around sticking everything and anything in their gobs all the time :o other than tie them to a chair :cry:
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Try feeding them anything with loads of raw garlic everyday and tins of baked beans. Certainly for breakfast.

It may not cure anything or even provide antibodies but it may the limit the amount of times that other children interact with them
 
Slam said:
It can happen - bad luck, children's immune systems are still developing at nursery age and there can be a succession of illnesses in the group. I remember calling the little ones petri dishes!
Hopefully things will be good for a long while after you get over this bad patch
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The succession of illnesses (apart from developing immune systems) is caused by inconsiderate parents dropping off kids with snot pouring out of their noses, or coughing with temperatures or with some sort of gastric issues akin to amoebic dysentery and expecting teachers to take of it. Of course they cough, splutter and sneeze over every surface and suck every available toy they missed.
 
Just panicking out loud. Probably nothing but my partner has started panicking because her period is a week late. She always has these wacky periods that can be anywhere between 4-6 weeks so to my mind it's nothing unusal.

But to her, she is saying she feels similar to how she felt when pregnant with our first. The house has basically been ground zero for germs the last 3 or 4 weeks so I think she's late due to that and other bits of stress but she isn't convinced. Full disclosure; she thought it was the covid vaccine making her late last time - spoiler, it was not.

I'll be back in a few days to confirm if she was right to panic or not :o
 
Wife was in tears the other day, she found out that George is purposely getting left out of private parties.
Couple of mums were talking about a party she over heard. Turns out George is the only one not invited, she mentioned it to a couple of other parents and turns out it's not the first time, the ones she talked to said they'd wondered why George wasn't at such and such party as everyone else was there.
Weirdly in class the girls party who it is is one of George's closest friends.
No idea why some are leaving him out.
 
robj20 said:
Wife was in tears the other day, she found out that George is purposely getting left out of private parties.
Couple of mums were talking about a party she over heard. Turns out George is the only one not invited, she mentioned it to a couple of other parents and turns out it's not the first time, the ones she talked to said they'd wondered why George wasn't at such and such party as everyone else was there.
Weirdly in class the girls party who it is is one of George's closest friends.
No idea why some are leaving him out.
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Its always easy to forget how ****** children can be and how exclusionary they are based on nothing more than perceived popularity. I guess its the same as an adult but you have far more agency just to do something else or find different friends. I always found it ridiculous at school how some people were deemed uncool and excluded. I never found anyone at school to be someone I couldn't hang out with.

I assume you haven't had any explanation. Parents can be super weird as well. Far too many people have no drama in their lives and use their children to manufacture some. Either that or their lack of/or break from a career has left them channelling their competitiveness and neurosis into their children.
 
We never invited the whole nursery group/school class for ours as its too expensive. Once they get old enough they pick who they want anyway. Fair warning though, it might be that some parents feel their kid was left out of a party so won't invite yours. I know that's what mine did when I was young.

Also mine are now 7 and 10 and then must have have been ill may e 2 or 3 times through the whole of nursery. Fortunately they did both pick up chick pox as that's not something I'd want them to miss as I believe it's really bad if your older and haven't had it.
 
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robj20 said:
Wife was in tears the other day, she found out that George is purposely getting left out of private parties.
Couple of mums were talking about a party she over heard. Turns out George is the only one not invited, she mentioned it to a couple of other parents and turns out it's not the first time, the ones she talked to said they'd wondered why George wasn't at such and such party as everyone else was there.
Weirdly in class the girls party who it is is one of George's closest friends.
No idea why some are leaving him out.
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Are you in a WhatsApp group? Most of these things are quick texts into a group.
 
Will Gill said:
Mine is 4 tomorrow, where on earth has that time gone :eek:
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I call our little one a time vampire.

She's three next month....strange thing is as fast it's gone I can't picture her when she was smaller now.

On another note I put her to bed last night and she didn't want to sleep , anyway after book number 5 and her looking like a zombie I told her to get to sleep and for the first time ever she said we can read daddies book then picked up Dr Seusses bed time and let me read it to her and went zzzz.

She normally hates it with a passion.
 
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fez said:
When do children stop being permanently ill when it comes to nursery? I reckon we are currently ******* about £1500/month up the wall between nursery fees and lost earnings for myself due to one or both of the boys being ill and me having to spend time off work to take care of them. Thats ridiculous considering they are only in nursery 2 days a week.

People don't tell you this about having kids. My partner is working 0.8 of her normal hours so there goes 20% of her income. We're paying £125 for a nanny one day and then £170 a day for the other 2 days my partner is at work. Overall I reckon we are about £30k down/wasted purely due to childcare related loss/wastage/reduced work.
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I think it's kid dependant, but most nurseries are breeding grounds for viruses. Our daugher was pretty much permanently ill during nursery. She'd get better, go back in and immediately catch something else.
Just think of it as stimulating the immune system really well. Unless they're becoming seriously ill, they'll eventually start to become immune to most of it. Took our daughter till about year 1 of infants to stop catching things soo much, but she was a little asthmatic as well.
 
t2na said:
I always thought it was a bit of ******** when parents said it goes by so quickly - but our daughter is 2 in a few weeks and it genuinely feels like she was born last week.
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isn't it something like "the days are long but the years are short".

Did another test last night. Still negative. She's a week late but we think we've had a stressful month so perhaps that's why things aren't kicking into flow.

What is amusing is both of our reactions. Neither of us are panicking like the first child. This just feels like more of an inconvenience than anything really bad

Nutty667 said:
I think it's kid dependant, but most nurseries are breeding grounds for viruses. Our daugher was pretty much permanently ill during nursery. She'd get better, go back in and immediately catch something else.
Just think of it as stimulating the immune system really well. Unless they're becoming seriously ill, they'll eventually start to become immune to most of it. Took our daughter till about year 1 of infants to stop catching things soo much, but she was a little asthmatic as well.
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I've genuinely never been as ill in my life until our daughter started nursery. It is relentless.
 
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