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neocon said:
I'm taking my daughter out of reception to go and see her grandparents overseas. She will miss 4 weeks of reception. I don't mind the £60 fine, but could it be more?

The school don't respond other than to say it will be an unauthorized absence.
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Its £60 per parent, so if you are with your daughters mother still, then its £120.

Also is it 4 weeks of missed school or is it possible to stagger the trip over a half term or end of term period to lessen the impact by a week or two?
 
Syla5 said:
Its £60 per parent, so if you are with your daughters mother still, then its £120.

Also is it 4 weeks of missed school or is it possible to stagger the trip over a half term or end of term period to lessen the impact by a week or two?
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£120 (£60 per parent) is the basic fine, as per the link I posted if the council get involved the fine could be up to £2500.

Taking your child out of school for a month is very likely to incur council involvement unless mitigating circumstances (dying parent, etc).
 
Syla5 said:
Its £60 per parent, so if you are with your daughters mother still, then its £120.

Also is it 4 weeks of missed school or is it possible to stagger the trip over a half term or end of term period to lessen the impact by a week or two?
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It was way more expensive to go staggering Easter. Couldn't use avios either. I'm taking thousands here.
Still it all seems like a bad idea in retrospect, I'll just have to wait and see how bad the punishment is.

My wife doesn't work, how will she pay? :D Child benefit I suppose.
 
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The half/end term time flight/holiday prices are so extortionate we previously worked out it's cheaper to go on a holiday during term time and pay the fee's (£600) for a week away.

We haven't done it yet but can't lie, it's very tempting.
 
SixTwoSix said:
The half/end term time flight/holiday prices are so extortionate we previously worked out it's cheaper to go on a holiday during term time and pay the fee's (£600) for a week away.

We haven't done it yet but can't lie, it's very tempting.
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The is the first year we've done it but ours will miss the first couple of days of the summer half term for the same reason.
 
Gimpymoo said:
My son has been given a 45 minute detention for 2 lates this term, I know, I took him/was the reason he was late.
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Is this not an early lesson in responsibility? That he may be held responsible for the faults of others. Thus you should go and sit the detention with him.

Anyway, I trust that you have written to the headteacher? Don't speak to them; put it in writing. And if you don't get an answer, write to whoever's in charge of education at your local council.
 
Quartz said:
Is this not an early lesson in responsibility? That he may be held responsible for the faults of others. Thus you should go and sit the detention with him.

Anyway, I trust that you have written to the headteacher? Don't speak to them; put it in writing. And if you don't get an answer, write to whoever's in charge of education at your local council.
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His Mum/my Wife is dealing with brain damage (which is the reason for the lates) so I think he is having enough lessons on "how life can be ****".

A child is just that, and should be protected when needed. Sometimes life is an opportunity for learning, sometimes, nothing needs to be said.
 
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Gimpymoo said:
His Mum/my Wife is dealing with brain damage (which is the reason for the lates) so I think he is having enough lessons on "how life can be ****".

A child is just that, and should be protected when needed. Sometimes life is an opportunity for learning, sometimes, nothing needs to be said.
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I find it so strange that the school, even though they are aware of the situation, would still give your son detention.

Have they said anything else about it to you at all? It's a while since I was at school now, but when I was 12/13 a friend of mine's mum had terminal cancer and wasn't given particularly long to live. His dad did as much as he could in the circumstances but he would be late to drop off at times or some days he wouldn't be at school at all - and the school did everything they could to support and help. No detentions etc. because that helps no-one in this situation.
 
t2na said:
I find it so strange that the school, even though they are aware of the situation, would still give your son detention.

Have they said anything else about it to you at all? It's a while since I was at school now, but when I was 12/13 a friend of mine's mum had terminal cancer and wasn't given particularly long to live. His dad did as much as he could in the circumstances but he would be late to drop off at times or some days he wouldn't be at school at all - and the school did everything they could to support and help. No detentions etc. because that helps no-one in this situation.
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They cancelled the detentions after I rang them to once again point out the situation they were already aware of. We are talking two instances of no more than 5 minutes each. All they had to do was talk to my children.

Is soo frustrating when you are having to deal with the pressure of the school ontop of everything else when common sense would prevail.

They could not be any less helpful unfortunately. These self proclaimed "high attaining/Ofsted excellent" schools are awful in how they treat their pupils and parents.

They operate at the worse level corporate minded management you can imagine and think they can get away with it because why they are teachers and they are correct about everything.

In Judge Dredd voice, "WE ARE THE SCHOOL".

My kids have been brought up to be honest and accept your punishment if you done wrong but also defend yourself if you have done no wrong. The school do not like that one little bit. They are not interested in right and wrong, just what they say is right and wrong.

Because I challenged the detention and got it cancelled, the teacher who issued it will see it as a challenge to their authority and will do their best to give my kids another. It is almost bullying, pathetic.
 
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just received the email for nursery fees. going up 9% just shy now of £1,5k / month :(. lukcily the 30hours free kick in in April that should soften the blow.

who knew potty training was this hard or i should say no 2s are. no.1s been fine and no accidents during the night either even though he is wearing night nappies. but still refuses to let us know he needs a poo. anyone got any tips?
 
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dr_volki said:
just received the email for nursery fees. going up 9% just shy now of £1,5k / month :(. lukcily the 30hours free kick in in April that should soften the blow.
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Yeah, our daughter hasn't even started nursery yet (starts in May) and we've already been told the cost is going up. It's more than our mortgage at this point.
 
Son started nursery in December last year, the inevitable happened last week where we, my wife and son all had sickness/bum gravy at the same time. It was a brutal 24 hours, who knew it was so hard to look after an ill child when you fill like absolute garbage yourself.

Back out the otherside now, can only be described as character building I think.
 
Both of ours have just gone through chicken pox fortunately at the same time. At least that box has been ticked. They were both fine as expected for a mild illness.
 
OG said:
Son started nursery in December last year, the inevitable happened last week where we, my wife and son all had sickness/bum gravy at the same time. It was a brutal 24 hours, who knew it was so hard to look after an ill child when you fill like absolute garbage yourself.

Back out the otherside now, can only be described as character building I think.
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I ended up hospitalised after the last bout of bum gravy. I got so dehydrated my organs were at risk of failure. Not sure why my daughter hates me to generate such biological warfare but what doesn't kill me makes me stronger. Character building, exactly like you said :cry:
 
dLockers said:
I copped out and paid for the vaccine.
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It's not a cop out. It's your choice as a parent and no one can judge you either way. You know your kid(s) and will do what you feel is best.

It all just happened but I'm glad it's done now so we don't have to worry about it.

I'm a bit blasé about this sort of stuff which I probably shouldn't be, but I have yet to get ill so until that happens I guess I'll be fairly myopic about it.
 
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