Got that up and running now thanks.
What mods are we using currently?
Most of the plugins we use are for managing the server and not so much about added functionality, depending on the type of server you want run (survival, creative etc). Here are some of the ones we currently use:
Plgsetspawn (allows spawn location to be set and changed)
Plgessentials (admin utilities)
TeleConfirmLite (player to player porting with permission)
Lockette (chest locking)
LogBlock (logging of changes with rollback facility)
MyHome (setting and sharing of home locations)
BorderGuard (setting of map boundary to limit map size)
Tele++ (admin porting tool)
WorldEdit (admin tool used for moving stuff using schematics, and deleting builds)
Whitelist (dynamic changes to whitelist without need for restart)
Permissions (used by some of the above plugins to control who has access to which commands)
HeroicDeath (fluff messages about how you died)
OnlineUsers (provides list of who is online as well as making it available to external applications)
Those are the main ones I can remember but to be honest for a private server with you and your son and maybe some friends, most of the above are unecessary and have a lot of other uses that we don't utilise. Things like Logblock and Lockette is to protect users and allow us to deal with griefers.