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Brenn47;30497443 said:
So I ask again. If you want to stop drinking, what are you doing to stop drinking? What have you done today to stay sober?
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So I ask again. If you want to stop drinking, what are you doing to stop drinking? What have you done today to stay sober?
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Brenn47;30498470 said:It was rare that I'd start drinking in the afternoon, I usually waited till 9pm.
Anyway, haven't drunk booze for a week now, sadly still feeling slightly rough, despite sleeping OK.
You're focusing on details which paint the picture that you've not got a problem with alcohol. Not all alcoholics drink in the morning and not all alcoholics drink every day. Alcohol becomes an out of control problem when it starts costing you more than money. Alcohol has cost you your health, therefore I'd say alcohol was a problem for you.
You need to know and accept that, not just intellectually, but deep down. You've run out of time, you cannot afford to dip your toes in the water of sobriety, to play with the idea of getting sober. If you want to live much longer, you need to take action to help yourself get better.
Take action today. NOW. Not tomorrow, not after you feel better but now. No one got me sober, nothing did it for me. I worked at it. I work at it every day. I'm the type of alcoholic that needs to recover every day, I'm ill like a diabetic without insulin unless I have much medicine. You want to get better? Work at it too.
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/AA-Meetings/Find-a-Meeting
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Been deciding whether or not to post in here, but **** it. I've had a stumble for the last two weeks. A series of events led me to believe, yet again, that a few drinks one evening would be fine. :redface:
Anyway - back on track. No booze last night. Onwards and upwards.
Brenn47 - I really do wish you all the best with regards to your drinking problem. Good luck with it matey o./
Anyway - back on track. No booze last night. Onwards and upwards.
Brenn47 - I really do wish you all the best with regards to your drinking problem. Good luck with it matey o./
Trust me ... I do! I don't miss it when I don't drink, 8 days sober .. haven't missed it one bit. *ALMOST* fell off the wagon yesterday, managed to flood the kitchen badly whilst unblocking a drain. Stood there in a puddle with no idea how to stop the leak, really considered buying a bottle of whisky. Didn't though, soldiered on and fixed it. Problem is, all the stress gave me a massive pain in my chest, had it now for 28 hours .. almost called an ambulance as the pain was 10/10 ... luckily on the right side, but no idea what caused it ... spent the day sat motionless on the sofa trying to find a position where it doesn't hurt so much.
Seen that link before .. that's a hell of a lot of AA meetings!
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I shouldn't laugh but if the above is accurate then you need to seek help today, if a small flood makes you want you to drink a bottle of Whisky after what you have apparently been through then I'd be booking into the nearest GP , AA or any other help I could source. I would be going private if I had to as well , in the grand scheme of things its only what you would spend on booze anyway.
Correct me if I'm wrong but you still haven't looked at my recommendations for help or anyone else in any seriousness way.
Just thought I would highlight these bits, how can you nearly fall off the wagon if your not missing it?
Nearly fell off the wagon due to my kitchen being seriously flooded! I wasn't happy and found it really stressful!
My point is your not finding it easy, life is always going to throw up situations like your kitchen flooding, things breaking etc. Seek help mate.
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Nearly fell off the wagon due to my kitchen being seriously flooded! I wasn't happy and found it really stressful!
You're allowed to be stressed, a flooded kitchen is stressful and being stressed by it is normal. Your reaction isn't. You'll drink again unless you learn to live life on life's terms. Unless you develop some defences, some healthier coping mechanisms you'll come to a time when the situation is too stressful, or you're too ground down to resist and you hit the #### it button and drink.
This guy is right. You survived by skin of your teeth this time. What happens next time? You've been given a number of suggestions for getting help in staying sober yet apparently done nothing. Since you've fallen off the wagon every other time you've tried to do it yourself that seems doomed to failure. YOU need to do something right now to help keep yourself sober today.
I wish you luck Brenn47, but until you get serious and are really ready to stop drinking, what ever it takes, there isn't much more that I or anyone can do. My offer of a chat by email is still open. I'm happy to share with you exactly what it was like, what happened, and what its like now. I'm happy to take some details from you and arrange a phone call from your local AA helpline who can arange someone to come and take you to a meeting, but you need to be the driving force.
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I do find it easy, but in stressful situation it's easier to be drunk. I actually enjoy being sober.. great waking up without a hangover. On the help front, it's limited on the NHS, there's no rehab centres, just a doctor who prescribes various pills. At one stage I was on 19 a night!
When I was in hospital, the alcohol nurse came to see me, we had a long chat. She said I wasn't an alcoholic, I just like to drink a lot. Which I though summed it up perfectly.
I think this is day #9, clean!
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I don't have to do anything to help stay sober, except staying away from the village shop does help.
I'm planning on going to AA next Sunday. Still feel a bit rough for this week.
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I don't have to do anything to help stay sober, except staying away from the village shop does help.
I'm planning on going to AA next Sunday. Still feel a bit rough for this week.
Yes you do have to do more than avoid the village shop because 1. You can't avoid all shops forever, and 2. That was your strategy before and It failed because you CANT stay away from the shop.
Are you seriously having a laugh? You came close to relapse just days ago over a flooded kitchen, but you're not an alcoholic, and you love being sober? If I had that head I'd be off to the nearest meeting even if my leg was hanging off! A little rough indeed.
Time to get real or die. I don't expect you to make it until next Sunday sober, certainly I couldn't if I was thinking like you and wasn't attending meetings, and it doesn't soundas if you can afford another relapse. My advice would be get to a meeting tonight. No excuses.
I'm sorry if this sounds rough or judgemental, believe me I write with the best of intentions. Sugar coating isn't going to work, gently nudging and suggesting isn't working so I'll try the tougher approach.
My ex brother in law nearly died through alcohol ,he ended up with pancreatitis,spent the best part of a month in hospital, on discharge he swore blind that he would never drink again.I don't have to do anything to help stay sober, except staying away from the village shop does help.
I'm planning on going to AA next Sunday. Still feel a bit rough for this week.
But after a year of sobriety, he decided that having a few pints would be ok, obviously the few pints turned into all day sessions ,followed by a bottle of whisky at night!!
His turning point was being found by the police ,laid in the local grave yard ,talking to a headstone, fully believing he was talking to Johnny Cash !!!!
He turned his life around by doing 3 things ,obviously stopping the drink being the first ,secondly ,he purchased a caravan ,and put it on a little site just outside Whitby (around 60 miles away from the village we live in) he went there every Friday -Sunday with his dogs ,to remove himself from temptation. Thirdly he goes to church every Sunday ,I asked him why he went ,his reply was it just gives him the strength to keep off the drink !
He's now been sober for years ,he DOES sometimes feel like drinking (funerals etc) ,but the difference now is he will talk to someone about it ,be it just a txt ,or quick call, he also does things now he wouldn't have dreamed about before ,i.e. he does the Great North Run every year ,has walked the Coast to Coast etc ,all these things stop him getting bored.
The steps he's taken suit him ,and he's never looked ,or felt better, but he also realises that if he drinks again ,he WILL DIE.
Please take this in Brenn ,if he can do it ,you can ,take care and be safe
I've never seen someone look so bad and live tbh ,to see someone,s stomach so swollen and solid was pretty scary.
I know that hearing some random bloke on an Internet forum trying to tell you what to do means very little ,but please keep off the drink ,its just not worth the damage its doing
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Bet you I do, another night sober ticked off!
I hope you prove me wrong. Let us know how you're getting on
STILL feel a bit rough, although that might be down to not getting any sleep due to the pain in my chest. Hurts like hell!
Finding giving up booze pretty easy.
