We have a new born baby, only 10 days old at the moment. Thing is he will not settle anywhere other than in our arms. Putting him in his Moses basket results in constant screaming.
We know he's been fed, is clean and isn't too hot or cold, in short he just wants a fuss and some attention.
My opinion is that providing he is clean, not hungry and as far as we can tell not in pain, we should let him cry it out and get himself off to sleep. My fear is that constant picking up whilst crying will create a pattern and we'll have problems further down the line at 6 months.
My partner thinks this is a little too extreme for a 10 day old baby and that we should pick him up and give him a cuddle and sooth him back to sleep.
Neither of us are sure which option is correct so I'm looking for the experiences of any parents on the board who have had similar situations. Am I being too extreme given he is only 10 days old?
Haven't read all the replies so sorry if this is repeating the same info.
We learnt pretty quickly that our daughter soon got used to whatever we did and would cry until she either got it or tired herself out.
Some say that babies take up to 3 days to get used to new routines or new ways of doing things... doesn't help when you're sleep deprived.
I think that you know your own child, you're getting to know the cries and the hungry cry is different to other cries.
For us, if our daughter started to cry we would go in and check her and then give her 15 minutes and check on her again - that said, if she was getting so worked up then it wouldn't be fair to leave her for that long and could also cause her to get overheated.
It really is a guessing game. For us, we had problems with colic which we must have tried every bottle, teat, formula and medication (herbal and non-herbal).
Our daughter was in her own room after 2 weeks as we couldn't get any sleep with her snuffling about (we had monitor in our room and doors open so we could hear her).
A colleague of mine still has to put her hand on her son's chest and rub his chest until he falls asleep (nearly 4 now) and they have started to do the same with their daughter (now 1 year) and they will NOT sleep unless this is done - talk about a rod for your own back. Would I worry about doing this for a 10 day old, no, but ultimately if something works then why not! We used to prance around the kitchen when our daughter was weaning in order for her to eat... it worked though! Only once did I take my daughter out in the car to get her to sleep - it was such a hassle that there was no way I was going to do that again.
Our philosophy was don't start something we weren't willing to carry on.
Occasionally from about 6 months our daughter would wake in the night and want milk (bottle fed from 1 month) and we would give in as she would be ill or teething... she soon got used to this and would wake up and ask for milk when there was nothing wrong, we ended up putting water in a bottle in her bed and she would just drink that and go back to sleep... took a few nights to get her out of the habit of wanting milk though!
Parenting is all about trial and error but once you've nailed it, it'll all change again anyway so you won't get used to having a clue for long. It did get a bit easier after 12 weeks. Plus, each child is different so what worked for one child, isn't necessarily the case for the other.
Some things you could try, if you haven't already: those white noise devices or phone apps worked great for us, one of my wife's t-shirts that smelt of her in the cot, cellular blanket in a sausage around her the top of her head and each side of her.
We also learnt to listen to all advice given to us but only tried those things we 1) felt comfortable with and 2) were practical in our situation without putting unrealistic expectations upon ourselves.
. By all means dont panic to pick it up but I'd certainly advise against leaving a baby of that age to cry for legths of time.
. I'm not advising this but it is illustrative of the the fact is you have to find something that works for you. Each child is different. 
