Pretty ****** Off!!

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:17

Neoni said:
are you kidding me? why... yes its young but nothing was rushed nothing is sneaky... everything is out in the open. i am in university i have a job, i have qualifications, she is doing well, its not like im a down and out. age doesnt come into it in my eyes, i love her, she loves me, why should it stop us.

Mmmm 12 weeks and you're in love lol.

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:17

M0T said:
My friend seems to have a thing for the younger ladies, he is 20 and has dated several 16 and 17 year olds.

When we have met them they are all really immature, and I have a 16 year old sister myself so know that they all have a lot of growing up to do.

The reason he dates them is because it's fairly easy. You only have to see them at weekends and they look up to you and are eager to please, its an easy lay.

Her step dad probably knows this and thinks you are only after one thing, regardless of your actual intentions. Unfortunatly since you are dating a child you have to follow the rules of her parents.

all my girlfriends have been 18 or 19, i stopped dating for a while until i met her, all her friends are immature not her, if she acts stupid at times i jus ignore and she knows, yes she has growing up to do, but so do i .

BenST · 9 May 2007 at 23:18

Neoni, one thing you'll learn about these forums (and surprised you haven't learnt already considering your join date) is that you should never post for advice with a girlfriend issue. Really, as long as you're comfortable in your relationship you shouldn't feel the need to justify yourself to anybody.

Deal with your problem, cancel this thread and don't get your back up with comments posted so far.

Kell_ee001 · 9 May 2007 at 23:18

iamdjdz said:
Fair enough she's not allowed round to yours on her own, probably her step-dad thinks it's too much responsibility, and fair enough to the phone calls - I wouldn't want people ringing my house that late if I had a family. But it's a shame about the night ou etc - you'd think that if you're known by her family then she'd be allowed..

I understand that you get lonely - I do all the time and I've a good few mates about - it's really hard to find motivation and occupy yourself when you're like that..

Just be pleasant to her step-dad even if you think he's a ****. That's probably the best way, and when he sees it's more than just a little thing then he'll relax.

This boy speaketh sense..eth!

M0T said:
Her step dad probably knows this and thinks you are only after one thing, regardless of your actual intentions. Unfortunatly since you are dating a child you have to follow the rules of her parents.

So does this one

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:19

VIRII said:
Mmmm 12 weeks and you're in love lol.

12 weeks when its been really serious, i had been seeing her much longer than this... and yes its easy to fall in love when you find somebody who you think is lovely, and has an amazing personality.

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:20

Neoni said:
well... she stays every friday saturday, and we share the same bed they both know this, they even know we sleep together, they are ok with it, its not her dad, its her step dad.

If I was entrusted with responsibility for another persons child I might be even more protective of that child than of my own. It might be why he acts the way he does or maybe he doesn't like you.
He doesn't *have* to want people ringing his house after 10pm, he doesn't *have* to like a chap who is nearly 20 watching a girl who is merely 16 getting dressed. Why does he *have* to play it your way?

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:20

BenST said:
Neoni, one thing you'll learn about these forums (and surprised you haven't learnt already considering your join date) is that you should never post for advice with a girlfriend issue.

Deal with your problem, cancel this thread and don't get your back up with comments posted so far.

lol. its not really a gf issue tbh, more like a gf step dad issue, i dont take much notice of posts such as "NO, you shouldnt be dating a 16 yr old"

Kell_ee001 · 9 May 2007 at 23:21

Neoni said:
lol. its not really a gf issue tbh, more like a gf step dad issue, i dont take much notice of posts such as "NO, you shouldnt be dating a 16 yr old"

Tbh you seem to not be taking notice of any posts :confused:

BenST · 9 May 2007 at 23:22

Neoni said:
i dont take much notice of posts such as "NO, you shouldnt be dating a 16 yr old"

Well you obviously do.

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:22

VIRII said:
If I was entrusted with responsibility for another persons child I might be even more protective of that child than of my own. It might be why he acts the way he does or maybe he doesn't like you.
He doesn't *have* to want people ringing his house after 10pm, he doesn't *have* to like a chap who is nearly 20 watching a girl who is merely 16 getting dressed. Why does he *have* to play it your way?

see it might just be me, but im not even bothered about looking at her when shes getting changed, probably because im a bit older, im not into the whole "i want sex, go find random girl" i like relationships. plus its her mobile i ring, i dont ring it anymore, so im obeying that rule.

Mr Jones · 9 May 2007 at 23:22

VIRII said:
Mmmm 12 weeks and you're in love lol.

Don't see anything funny about that TBH.
The feeling between them 2 is not questionable by others as you're in a passive view. I've seen quicker marriages than 12 weeks that last...

(I'm not picking a fight here, just thought it's rather rude to throw an opinion to question people's feeling when you're not in a position to - i.e. do you know them personally?)

/2cent

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:23

Kell_ee001 said:
Tbh you seem to not be taking notice of any posts

im taking notice, im trying to see it from his perspective it is shedding a bit more light on it, but i still dont get that when shes allowed at mine every weekend, every night, they know everything that goes off, her mum is fine shes happy for her to come to mine. but step dad is not.

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:23

Neoni said:
12 weeks when its been really serious, i had been seeing her much longer than this... and yes its easy to fall in love when you find somebody who you think is lovely, and has an amazing personality.

I've been with my wife for nearly 16 years. Base on experience I would say that 12 weeks is really not long enough to be declaring "love". Lust sure. Puppy love maybe. IMHO "love" is something forged over much longer periods of time based on shared experiences and dependencies. At 19 I had had many girlfriends, some serious (year plus relationships) some far less serious. I had quite a few more before I finally met my wife. On reflection I think it unlikely that you two are "in love", not impossible but if I was her father I'd think you had much growing up to do.

Nitefly · 9 May 2007 at 23:23

Neoni said:
i dont take much notice of posts such as "NO, you shouldnt be dating a 16 yr old"

Its your failure to appreciate some people's response to the age different that is your greatest strength and your greatest weakness.

Nah, just japing. Its just the latter.

theleg · 9 May 2007 at 23:23

geez hes only 19 himself guys....its not as though hes some old perv cracking onto young girls.

Kell_ee001 · 9 May 2007 at 23:26

Neoni said:
but step dad is not.

You're quite simply going to have to accept that, whether you agree to it or not.

What you should be doing now is working out a way to get everything done Friday including feeding the dogs instead of fuelling this fire.

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:26

Balddog said:
geez hes only 19 himself guys....its not as though hes some old perv cracking onto young girls.

@ VIRII- on the love thing, how would you know? some people just have chemistry there from day one.

as for my age yes ive just turned 19 well january, i hadnt had a girlfriend for about a year before i met becky my current gf, i never went out on night times, im at uni, in a gigging band, work in a hotel on weekends, yes theres something strange about me. thankyou balddog for that.

Ripper · 9 May 2007 at 23:30

I think some of you are being a little harsh on him. Without knowing him, her or the situation they have you can't really judge them based on their age.

I started going out with my girlfriend when she was 16 and I was 19, like the OP. I'm now 21 and we're still together. Yes there are a hell of a lot of ***** doing their best to get laid with barely legal girls but you really need to know the person and the situation before you can come out and start saying how wrong it is.

I think you should maybe speak to her step-dad and explain the situation with the dogs. If he's still arsy then just leave it and put it down to him being a ****. As for him stopping her from staying with you, I guess thats his decision and you should just respect it if you want to get on his good side.

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:31

Neoni said:
see it might just be me, but im not even bothered about looking at her when shes getting changed, probably because im a bit older, im not into the whole "i want sex, go find random girl" i like relationships. plus its her mobile i ring, i dont ring it anymore, so im obeying that rule.

I think perspective changes when you become a father yourself, particularly to daughters.

BenST · 9 May 2007 at 23:31

Why are you still attempting to defend yourself? You shouldn't need to! This thread will end in tears and if you're the intelligent person you claim to be then I;d suggest calling it a day and accepting that further posting in this trread will not in any way help with your resolve.