Pretty ****** Off!!

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:33

BenST said:
Why are you still attempting to defend yourself? You shouldn't need to! This thread will end in tears and if you're the intelligent person you claim to be then I;d suggest calling it a day and accepting that further posting in this trread will not in any way help with your resolve.

im just watching now. im not putting anymore input into it, but if people have opinions or ideas then go ahead.

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:33

Dr Jones said:
Don't see anything funny about that TBH.
The feeling between them 2 is not questionable by others as you're in a passive view. I've seen quicker marriages than 12 weeks that last...

(I'm not picking a fight here, just thought it's rather rude to throw an opinion to question people's feeling when you're not in a position to - i.e. do you know them personally?)

/2cent

Given his description of the stepfather and his expectations as to what is "OK" and his admission that he has some growing up to do and my own life experiences, marriage and so on then I think the chances of this being "love" are incredibly small.
To put it another way how much would you wager that their relationship doesn't last 18 months?

Replicant · 9 May 2007 at 23:35

M0T said:
My friend seems to have a thing for the younger ladies, he is 20 and has dated several 16 and 17 year olds.

When we have met them they are all really immature, and I have a 16 year old sister myself so know that they all have a lot of growing up to do.

The reason he dates them is because it's fairly easy. You only have to see them at weekends and they look up to you and are eager to please, its an easy lay.

Her step dad probably knows this and thinks you are only after one thing, regardless of your actual intentions. Unfortunatly since you are dating a child you have to follow the rules of her parents.

Rubbish, your basically stereotyping a whole age group based on what i suspect is probably very limited observations.

Stiff_Cookie · 9 May 2007 at 23:35

VIRII said:
Given his description of the stepfather and his expectations as to what is "OK" and his admission that he has some growing up to do and my own life experiences, marriage and so on then I think the chances of this being "love" are incredibly small.
To put it another way how much would you wager that their relationship doesn't last 18 months?

Ill put money on that one! Nothing like a sure thing!

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:36

Neoni said:
@ VIRII- on the love thing, how would you know? some people just have chemistry there from day one.

I have not claimed to *know* merely offered my opinion that what you are experiencing is not love based on all the reasons previously posted.

Burly · 9 May 2007 at 23:38

you bunch of pessimists

of course if you feel a special sort of attractive towards a person you will feel "love" - if you haven't experienced something of a higher degree then you will claim this. does it really matter as its all relative? no.

You can't just make blanket statements that you jsut wouldnt want a 19 year old hanging around with a 16 year old. It speaks lengths about your outlook i.e. trust to daughter, impression of the guy. What are you doing basing something solely on a few years difference. And arent girls more mature than their age.

but then what do I know

theleg · 9 May 2007 at 23:38

Stiff_Cookie said:
Ill put money on that one! Nothing like a sure thing!

Is that a serious offer?

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:39

Burly said:
you bunch of pessimists
of course if you feel a special sort of attractive towards a person you will feel "love" - if you haven't experienced something of a higher degree then you will claim this. does it really matter as its all relative? no.

You can't just make blanket statements that you jsut wouldnt want a 19 year old hanging around with a 16 year old. It speaks lengths about your outlook i.e. trust to daughter, impression of the guy. What are you doing basing something solely on a few years difference. And arent girls more mature than their age.

but then what do I know

Do you have a daughter? I have 2.

theleg · 9 May 2007 at 23:40

VIRII said:
Do you have a daughter? I have 2.

Both the mother and real father are fine with the relationship...I dont think its fair to claim any father would feel as the step dad does.

Stiff_Cookie · 9 May 2007 at 23:40

Balddog said:
Is that a serious offer?

Well, if I was in the UK and there was a way to prove the relationship lasted 18 steady months than yes but since IM not in the UK and the relationship cant be proven, then no.

theleg · 9 May 2007 at 23:40

Stiff_Cookie said:
Well, if I was in the UK and there was a way to prove the relationship lasted 18 steady months than es but otherwise no.

I see.

Stiff_Cookie · 9 May 2007 at 23:41

Balddog said:
Both the mother and real father are fine with the relationship...I dont think its fair to claim any father would feel as the step dad does.

Both the mother and the father of the little girl who was kidnapped were fine with leaving her alone, that doesnt mean they were right.

It doesnt mean we are right either, just two different opinions

Mr Jones · 9 May 2007 at 23:42

Burly said:
you bunch of pessimists
of course if you feel a special sort of attractive towards a person you will feel "love" - if you haven't experienced something of a higher degree then you will claim this. does it really matter as its all relative? no.

Sums up what I think really...

VIRII said:
Do you have a daughter? I have 2.

How old are they and what age do you think they are going to be "allowed" to have a relationship independently?

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:43

Balddog said:
Both the mother and real father are fine with the relationship...I dont think its fair to claim any father would feel as the step dad does.

the mother is fine, the father is more than fine, he comes around when shes here, to drop her clothes money off etc, even offered to give me money to take her out with, i refused, the mother and actual father have spoken together about me they both really like me, her mother is letting me take her away for a week on holiday on a canal boat, with 4 of my friends who are 24-26 years old. she has no problems, she said just look after her, i said you know me amanda, she said i know i know. that somes up what her mum thinks of me in my eyes.

Calder · 9 May 2007 at 23:44

Respect their decision and stop whining about it if you ask me.

Burly · 9 May 2007 at 23:44

VIRII said:
Do you have a daughter? I have 2.

Am I not allowed to talk then? I have only drawn from my own experience with my gf and her dad.

VIRII · 9 May 2007 at 23:44

Dr Jones said:
How old are they and what age do you think they are going to be "allowed" to have a relationship independently?

I think they'll be allowed relationships in their 30's or when I die, whichever is sooner

Nearly 5 years and nearly 1 year. As for independently .... you are independent when you don't rely on your parents for a roof over your head.

theleg · 9 May 2007 at 23:45

Stiff_Cookie said:
Both the mother and the father of the little girl who was kidnapped were fine with leaving her alone, that doesnt mean they were right.

It doesnt mean we are right either, just two different opinions

What a completely stupid analogy...I cant believe you just said that.

Neoni · 9 May 2007 at 23:47

VIRII said:
I think they'll be allowed relationships in their 30's or when I die, whichever is sooner
Nearly 5 years and nearly 1 year. As for independently .... you are independent when you don't rely on your parents for a roof over your head.

she doesnt need her mum or stepdad shes talking about going to live with her actual dad. where her little brother lives.

Stiff_Cookie · 9 May 2007 at 23:47

Balddog said:
What a completely stupid analogy...I cant believe you just said that.

Why is it stupid? Because YOU said so?

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