Pretty ****** Off!!

[Neoni]

My mum and dad have gone to egypt for a week i had to stay behind to finish my first year in uni, its like my last two weeks for all work to be done and dusted. now my girlfriend has been given a key for the house, because ive got work etc.

the dogs are normally taken to kennels but i said id look after them being at home, so now i have work on friday and satuday, my girlfriend was asked to look after the place while im at work, feed the dogs etc, i have no family etc around here, no friends, so its pretty lonely by myself... and now her parents have told her (my girlfriend) well her step-dad who is a complete **** told her she is not allowed to leave the house tomorrow even though it was arranged for a night out at the movies, meal etc, and now also not allowed around while im at work. she is younger than me yes, but what the hell am i to do i hate being by myself, its awful got so depressed from it... no one can feed the dogs friday til like 2am.

Hes also told me im not allowed anywhere near her while shes getting dressed, and im also not allowed to ring her after 10pm, and he then turned arounds to me yesterday and said its now 9.30 because you rang her the other day after 10pm, im not a kid surely i can ring her when i want?

im 19 and she is 16 by the way a bit of an age difference but its a strong relationship and its going well, im just pretty upset over things.

-Neon

 

[Hxc]

Parents are protective, to be honest until she either plucks up the courage to tell him whats what, or she moves out there is nothing you can do really mate.

The age difference isn't major, but her dad will probably still think of her as just a kid rather than an adult.

Sorry though, mate.

 

[VIRII]

I wouldn't want some 19 year old lad hanging around my 16 year old daughter.
I don't like receiving phonecalls after 10pm myself.

 

[Neoni]

Parents are protective, to be honest until she either plucks up the courage to tell him whats what, or she moves out there is nothing you can do really mate.

The age difference isn't major, but her dad will probably still think of her as just a kid rather than an adult.

Sorry though, mate.

her family are protective yes, her mum really likes me, she knows we have done stuff i.e, in the bedroom she said shes fine with that sort of thing because she knows i look after her and im good to her.

but god damn!

 

[Tute]

Some parents are just like this i'm afraid, unless you can really risk upsetting them then you're just going to have to stick to it until she's a bit older.

 

[Neoni]

I wouldn't want some 19 year old lad hanging around my 16 year old daughter.
I don't like receiving phonecalls after 10pm myself.

Hanging around? shes my girlfriend, for about about 3/4months and her family know me were always at eachothers houses, for her birthday i asked to take her out, they are fine with me, they know im a decent guy.

 

[Stiff_Cookie]

Well, he dad can set the rule on when his daughter is allowed to talk to people and who she is allowed to talk to.

He cant stop you from calling her but he can most certainly stop her from answering the call.

Its one of those things about living with ones parents. IMO, its their house, their daughter, their rules as long as she lives there and depends on them for food, money, warmth, shelter etc.

 

[Replicant]

I dont understand

Your gf is supposed to be looking after dogs whiile your parents are away than meeting you for a night out after you finish uni or whatever?

But her dad aint plying ball and keeping her in the house.

Never mind bud, just stay in with the dogs and chat on here and go out with her another time

 

[Replicant]

I wouldn't want some 19 year old lad hanging around my 16 year old daughter.
I don't like receiving phonecalls after 10pm myself.

Well thats above the age of consent, a lot of girls these days see guys in there 20's etc, i'm sure she has a mobile anyways lol.

 

[Neoni]

I dont understand

Your gf is supposed to be looking after dogs whiile your parents are away than meeting you for a night out after you finish uni or whatever?

But her dad aint plying ball and keeping her in the house.

Never mind bud, just stay in with the dogs and chat on here and go out with her another time

basically i have uni on friday etc and to make it to work on time i have to go straight after uni, to work, making it impossible to go home and feed the dogs check the house etc.. so my parents gave her a key for it. she offered to help out, but her step dads being a fool, tomorrow i finish uni early, and we were gonna go out for the night, she was suppose to be staying friday and saturday. like every weekend.

 

[Stiff_Cookie]

Honestly, I am not a dad but I have a sister who is almost 16 and I would be very sceptical and look down upon some 19 year old dating her.

 

[Neoni]

Honestly, I am not a dad but I have a sister who is almost 16 and I would be very sceptical and look down upon some 19 year old dating her.

are you kidding me? why... yes its young but nothing was rushed nothing is sneaky... everything is out in the open. i am in university i have a job, i have qualifications, she is doing well, its not like im a down and out. age doesnt come into it in my eyes, i love her, she loves me, why should it stop us.

 

[Kell_ee001]

Sorry but I don't think he's doing anything wrong here. He doesn't want his 16 year old daughter staying at her 19 yr old lads house while his parents were away, what's unreasonable about that?

I doubt I would have been allowed to either, although tbh it wouldn't have acrossed my mind to even ask.

 

[Nitefly]

are you kidding me? why... yes its young but nothing was rushed nothing is sneaky... everything is out in the open. i am in university i have a job, i have qualifications, she is doing well, its not like im a down and out. age doesnt come into it in my eyes, i love her, she loves me, why should it stop us.

If you you can't appreciate how her father feels, then I think you are acting a bit younger than your apparent age.

Of course, thats not to say it must not be irritating, I sympathise with you.

 

[Neoni]

Sorry but I don't think he's doing anything wrong here. He doesn't want his 16 year old daughter staying at her 19 yr old lads house while his parents were away, what's unreasonable about that?

I doubt I would have been allowed to either, although tbh it wouldn't have acrossed my mind to even ask.

well... she stays every friday saturday, and we share the same bed they both know this, they even know we sleep together, they are ok with it, its not her dad, its her step dad.

 

[Neoni]

If you you can't appreciate how her father feels, then I think you are acting a bit younger than your apparent age.

Of course, thats not to say it must not be irritating, I sympathise with you.

i cant appreciate it because his attitude is really ****ed up, its not just this i could list hundreds of stuff what hes done and said infront of me.

her actual blood mother tells her to ignore it, but whenever hes around she goes with it, like she was drunk last week and i told her i didnt agree with his attitude she said just let it fly over your head, she says it all the time.

 

[Stiff_Cookie]

are you kidding me? why... yes its young but nothing was rushed nothing is sneaky... everything is out in the open. i am in university i have a job, i have qualifications, she is doing well, its not like im a down and out. age doesnt come into it in my eyes, i love her, she loves me, why should it stop us.

No I am not kidding and TBH, if it were my daughter I wouldnt let them date. Because she is 16, WTF does she know about love or life? She hasnt lived outside her parents house and is probably still in school. I would also be sceptical of anyone who is dating my sister who isnt even in high school any more. Did you guys meet in high school or at a club.

 

[zain]

Understand...you are home alone with no one about and a young vulnerable girl, natural for the parent to worry surely??

 

[Stiff_Cookie]

i cant appreciate it because his attitude is really ****ed up, its not just this i could list hundreds of stuff what hes done and said infront of me.

He doesnt like you? He doesnt have to like you and until his daughter moves out and isnt dependant on him any more, his opinion matters because he can control who his daughter sees.

 

[Neoni]

No I am not kidding and TBH, if it were my daughter I wouldnt let them date. Because she is 16, WTF does she know about love or life? She hasnt lived outside her parents house and is probably still in school. I would also be sceptical of anyone who is dating my sister who isnt even in high school any more. Did you guys meet in high school or at a club.

we met through friends at a party. take a look around you if i were you, there is 15 year olds dating 26 years olds, teens with prams. not me and her.