Pretty ****** Off!!

theleg · 10 May 2007 at 00:02

for the record, im with VIRII..theres no way in hell id allow a daughter of mine to sleep with a guy at 16...if it was under my control....whether he was 19 or 16 or any age for that matter..

Neoni · 10 May 2007 at 00:02

VIRII said:
My parents (mostly my mother) were funny about my wife and I sharing a room in their house before we were married even though we owned our own home together lol. Not sure what her issue was but her house, her rules, just have to accept it.

thats not the same, yes you were under there roof, but hes just being annoying on purpose in my eyes.

Stiff_Cookie · 10 May 2007 at 00:02

Balddog said:
Ok so you could equally have said another set of parents both agreed on potatoes for dinner that night..What a completely pointless thing to say..No more than an attempt to try and bring emotion to your side of the argument..

Im sorry, where did I say you could or could not do anything? I suggested that was the reason you decided on that completely irrelevant analogy instead of another completely irrelevant analogy..Nowhere did I give you any command or chastise you for reading another thread.

Estimate you? What?
Im sorry, but I have thought a lot of your posts over the years..I took a break from this forum and ive come back to see you making posts in a very different fashion. I decided to mention that..Live with it.

The point is valid whether or not I used potatoes or leaving a child alone.

Why mention at all where you think I got the analogy from? What does it matter at all?

The reason you decided to mention it is because you figured that I would care. Now you are hurt because I dont care.

Neoni · 10 May 2007 at 00:03

hilly said:
Guys lay of the guy, he's done nothing wrong.

Neoni, best of luck with the relationship, if you really want it to work, then it can.

Respect the step dads decisions (don't get on the wrong side of him) and it'll blow over. Ignore the rest of the people on here who are criticising you for nothing.

Keep treating her well and her step dad will see what her mum and dad sees.

if you can, nip home from uni to feed the dogs, or get a neighbour too.

Good luck with everything mate.

Thankyou very much

theleg · 10 May 2007 at 00:04

VIRII said:
But as we are trying to explain the step fathers behaviour rather than simply condemn it out of hand on the basis of a teenagers angst at not being able to sleep with a 16 year old girl this weekend then we can examine possibilities.

Im not condemning it...but its unfair to suggest that his actions are whats right and the other parents are wrong. Or that his opinion is the norm...People will have different opinions on this, even the girls own parents...It all depends on their relationship with the girl and boy and on the maturity levels of the young couple.

Neoni · 10 May 2007 at 00:04

Balddog said:
for the record, im with VIRII..theres no way in hell id allow a daughter of mine to sleep with a guy at 16...if it was under my control....whether he was 19 or 16 or any age for that matter..

but could you stop it from happening? no! you can show them the risks involved etc, but the more you try to keep them away the more they rebel no?

VIRII · 10 May 2007 at 00:05

Neoni said:
thats not the same, yes you were under there roof, but hes just being annoying on purpose in my eyes.

As long as a parent has responsibility for the child I don't think it matters to them whose roof it is. Why would he be annoying on purpose? How is making it hard for you to get laid just him being "annoying"?

Hilly · 10 May 2007 at 00:05

Neoni said:
Thankyou very much

No worries mate, you come across as a very decent guy.

My gf is three years younger than me (20 - 23) all I can say is stick with it, keep doing what you are doing, and respect the wishes of her Step dad, as you don't want to make enemies

theleg · 10 May 2007 at 00:05

Stiff_Cookie said:
The point is valid whether or not I used potatoes or leaving a child alone.

Why mention at all where you think I got the analogy from? What does it matter at all?

The reason you decided to mention it is because you figured that I would care. Now you are hurt because I dont care.

Its not valid at all..Its just pointless...It doesnt matter, but seeing as you dont control what I post, it doesnt really matter what you think. I can post my opinions in my posts if I wish. You are apparently allowed to post wild tangents, so am I...

No mate, I posted it to inform you...I dont know you and I dont know, or care, whether you care.

theleg · 10 May 2007 at 00:06

Neoni said:
but could you stop it from happening? no! you can show them the risks involved etc, but the more you try to keep them away the more they rebel no?

Apparently this guy can stop it happening...Isnt that why youre annoyed?

Beansprout · 10 May 2007 at 00:07

Kell_ee001 said:
Sorry but I don't think he's doing anything wrong here. He doesn't want his 16 year old daughter staying at her 19 yr old lads house while his parents were away, what's unreasonable about that?

I doubt I would have been allowed to either, although tbh it wouldn't have acrossed my mind to even ask.

I wouldn't have wanted my siblings to look after someone else's house when they were 16 :eek:

Mind you as their older brother I tend to think I'm superior in every way

VIRII · 10 May 2007 at 00:07

Balddog said:
Im not condemning it...but its unfair to suggest that his actions are whats right and the other parents are wrong. Or that his opinion is the norm...People will have different opinions on this, even the girls own parents...It all depends on their relationship with the girl and boy and on the maturity levels of the young couple.

The OP can not understand why the stepfather has issues with their relationship, I am merely trying to show him a different perspective, possibly the stepfathers perspective in the hope that he'll be able to see things from the other side.
It is not as though I can stop the OP seeing the girl or anything, he posted that he couldn't understand the actions of the stepdad. I am trying to offer possible reasons.

Neoni · 10 May 2007 at 00:07

VIRII said:
As long as a parent has responsibility for the child I don't think it matters to them whose roof it is. Why would he be annoying on purpose? How is making it hard for you to get laid just him being "annoying"?

your jumping to conclusions, im not trying to get laid. i like her company, she comes over when the house is empty, and we cook tea etc, and watch tv, then i walk her to her door everynight. sounds like a right badass 19 year old doesnt he? sitting at home with gf, enjoying the company.

theleg · 10 May 2007 at 00:08

VIRII said:
The OP can not understand why the stepfather has issues with their relationship, I am merely trying to show him a different perspective, possibly the stepfathers perspective in the hope that he'll be able to see things from the other side.
It is not as though I can stop the OP seeing the girl or anything, he posted that he couldn't understand the actions of the stepdad. I am trying to offer possible reasons.

Im sure he can understand the reasons..but he is also just a kid so probably doesnt wanna accept those reasons

VIRII · 10 May 2007 at 00:10

Neoni said:
your jumping to conclusions, im not trying to get laid. i like her company, she comes over when the house is empty, and we cook tea etc, and watch tv, then i walk her to her door everynight. sounds like a right badass 19 year old doesnt he? sitting at home with gf, enjoying the company.

So what is your problem then? The stepdad doesn't want her alone at your parents house with you when your parents are away. What is the problem with that?

Mr Jones · 10 May 2007 at 00:10

Stiff_Cookie said:
The reason you decided to mention it is because you figured that I would care. Now you are hurt because I dont care.

That made absolutely no sense to me and rather off topic.

VIRII said:
I would not want to be responsible for someone elses teenage daughter. Would you? It must be very much a case of a rock and a hard place.

Now this will depend on when did the step-father comes into the picture.

If like mine, he comes into the picture when I'm already in mid-teens, then he should lay off abit on the resposibility he should carry (which mine is).

My step-dad came into the picture when my little bro is 8ish, now he is holding more responsibility of him than me - which he should.

Will definitely be different because he's responsibile for a girl, but you know my meaning?

Neoni · 10 May 2007 at 00:11

the step dads attitude is wrong. i didnt want to get into reasons.

beckys brother who is in the army, comes home and gets yelled at by the step dad like a child, the step dad argues with the mother about her smoking, its like he picks arguments over nothing... the other week he said if becky ever comes home with a tattoo or piercing ill be unconscious for 2 hours.

i merely stated that i was going to the tattoo parlour to have more work done, becky was coming to watch, as she has never seen the process in a parlour, was that attitude needed?

Neoni · 10 May 2007 at 00:11

VIRII said:
So what is your problem then? The stepdad doesn't want her alone at your parents house with you when your parents are away. What is the problem with that?

she was here tonight with just us two in, he knew this...shes staying friday? but not saturday?

Stiff_Cookie · 10 May 2007 at 00:12

Dr Jones said:
That made absolutely no sense to me and rather off topic.

It wasnt directed at you so it wouldnt make sense now would it?

VIRII · 10 May 2007 at 00:12

Dr Jones said:
Will definitely be different because he's responsibile for a girl, but you know my meaning?

Yup, like I said earlier we do not know the full family dynamic.

Pretty ****** Off!!

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