Problem With Upstairs Neighbours Young Child

Not at 2-3 am in the morning..

OP has said quite a few times its not the general noise it the 2am / 3am / 6am constant noise that's the problem.

any kid up that early making noise sounds like a problem too me. They should be sleeping through.

Such an expert are we?

Maybe there's a reason why they're up at that time?

One of my friends child has just turned 3 and has finally been diagnosed with Autism after a year going back and forth with professionals as they kept saying his tantrums and screaming etc were the signs of a child with terrible twos or being spoilt/naughty.

Some one I work with, his son at the age of 7 only sleeps for around 4 hours a day. Goes to bed normally around 8/9pm and then is up at around 1am/2am. This is every night, constant struggle for the parents due to work etc, but they do it. Doctors are trying all sorts to find what makes it happen...

It's so easy to judge isn't it...
 
Such an expert are we?

Maybe there's a reason why they're up at that time?

One of my friends child has just turned 3 and has finally been diagnosed with Autism after a year going back and forth with professionals as they kept saying his tantrums and screaming etc were the signs of a child with terrible twos or being spoilt/naughty.

Some one I work with, his son at the age of 7 only sleeps for around 4 hours a day. Goes to bed normally around 8/9pm and then is up at around 1am/2am. This is every night, constant struggle for the parents due to work etc, but they do it. Doctors are trying all sorts to find what makes it happen...

It's so easy to judge isn't it...

So therefore you're agreeing that in both of those cases there are underlying issues that need dealing with and it is indeed not "normal" behaviour.
 
So therefore you're agreeing that in both of those cases there are underlying issues that need dealing with and it is indeed not "normal" behaviour.

Define normal?

Easy to say kids should be in a routine etc, but it's not always the case.

Regardless, it's not a reason to try and get a family kicked out of their home...
 
So therefore you're agreeing that in both of those cases there are underlying issues that need dealing with and it is indeed not "normal" behaviour.

As mentioned, you’re making the point here it is not normal behaviour but instead because the child has autism.

It has not been made aware to us the kid upstairs has any kind of condition.

Regardless, it's not a reason to try and get a family kicked out of their home...

But what they are doing could potentially result in us moving out of our home.
 
Define normal?

Easy to say kids should be in a routine etc, but it's not always the case.

let's not lose track of the discussion here. We're talking about excessive noise from the neighbours and one point mentions noise past midnight. In fact, that's defined very clearly and i've already quoted it. 11pm to 7am are night hours, and

Permitted noise levels
The permitted noise level using A-weighted decibels (the unit environmental noise is usually measured in) is:

34 dBA (decibels adjusted) if the underlying level of noise is no more than 24 dBA
10 dBA above the underlying level of noise if this is more than 24 dBA

anything above that and the neighbours should be being served with warnings!
 
Wait, you had ceilings 17 foot high?! :eek:

Old houses could be rather different to modern ones, particularly the very high-end houses (they mentioned that it was a converted Victorian mansion) but in some cases more normal premises too. When I was a boy we lived in what had originally been a shop (or maybe half a shop - IIRC next door was the same layout). It had been altered a lot, but the basic structure was the same. The downstairs rooms had ceilings about 13 feet high. It made some things difficult. Changing a lightbulb was really a two person job with proper equipment, for example.

Thanks for all your suggestions.

The sound proof plasterboard is an option. Doesn't look to expensive but I also imagine this may work better for airborne noise such as TV or voices, not so much impact noise.

Again, thank for your help!

Could you mount it with a gap between the plasterboard and the ceiling? That way it would be airborne noise, at least from the ceiling.
 
Funnily enough, my issue is not with the 2 year old child who has no idea what its doing, it is with the parents who are letting it happen.

When I was a child I didn’t live in an upstairs flat. However if I did, my parents would not have been disrespectful enough to allow to run about all day, late at night, and very early in the morning.

How do you expect anyone to stop a 2 year running around exactly? Lock them up, put them in a pen? tie them down perhaps? Young children are non stop activity from the moment they wake up until they switch off. And that can be hard enough to achieve. And news flash, its only going to get worse. They get bigger and louder.
 
How do you expect anyone to stop a 2 year running around exactly? Lock them up, put them in a pen? tie them down perhaps? Young children are non stop activity from the moment they wake up until they switch off. And that can be hard enough to achieve. And news flash, its only going to get worse. They get bigger and louder.

peppa pig
 
If you can afford to pay someone elses rent - setup recording equipment to monitor sound levels, making sure it records time stamps etc, send written letter to council not even mentioning the child just noise, advise you have recorded evidence and expect a reply within x amount of days. If no reply or fob off contact solictior to write a letter for you who will quote laws and regs and should have more of an impact, if not write to your MP, don't mention children, just noise. I would be surprised if it wasn't raised further.

Regardless of how old the child is, as the child is mobile running around at 2-3am that is not acceptable and they are clearly failing to control their child unless they think it is acceptable behaviour which most people would agree it is not.
 
If you can afford to pay someone elses rent - setup recording equipment to monitor sound levels, making sure it records time stamps etc, send written letter to council not even mentioning the child just noise, advise you have recorded evidence and expect a reply within x amount of days. If no reply or fob off contact solictior to write a letter for you who will quote laws and regs and should have more of an impact, if not write to your MP, don't mention children, just noise. I would be surprised if it wasn't raised further.

Regardless of how old the child is, as the child is mobile running around at 2-3am that is not acceptable and they are clearly failing to control their child unless they think it is acceptable behaviour which most people would agree it is not.

LOL,

They may possibly prefer sleep themselves, so may not be actively encouraging running around at 2am.

The only way around this is to have the child taken in by social services or sent to the workhouse.
 
peppa pig

Yeah right. I had one (of 4) who did this exact same thing all day every day. Never stopped running or climbing, woke after a few hours, hardly slept. Had to move him to another room and sleep next to his cot to stop waking others. Needed constant attention to stop him killing himself until he was about 36 months. He's now a perfectly normal, highly intelligent stroppy 14. Some kids are just a handful.

 
I lived next door to a horrid family. Newer really spoke to them, typical chav scum. They were on housing benefits, so moved into a tiny little village, whilst the landlord was happy taking payment from the government.

The story is; I never really met them, never knew their names, but I knew all their kids names. Because I could hear her shout at them, swear at them, scream at them all hours of the day. Literally vile what she would say to these kids.

I moved out (was my nans place, she had passed away leaving the property empty, lived there whilst the new house was being built) and reported them after moving. Its a nightmare living next to neighbours which are idiots.
 
I feel your pain really do, i had problems with not young ones but with older people they where retired 60 year olds we was in a semi detatched they where drinking, crying shouting till 3 am, we would ask them to turn it down that would last a week then up volumes would go again, so i disagree with the advice of buying a semi they can be the same as flats but i supose theres only one neibour, so cut a long story short ear plugs they might work for a little but for me i ended up focusing on listenening for the noise so the plugs did not work to well.

We had a lovely house and i decided to move into a detached, that move saved me going to prison it was that bad ,save your money people can be arsholes and get out.

Good luck in the future
 
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How do you expect anyone to stop a 2 year running around exactly? Lock them up, put them in a pen? tie them down perhaps? Young children are non stop activity from the moment they wake up until they switch off. And that can be hard enough to achieve. And news flash, its only going to get worse. They get bigger and louder.

A point myself and others have made many times on here. I don't expect anyone to be able to control a 2 year old all day.

I do expect however a parent to put a stop to a child running around the house at 3 in the morning when they know it causes such noise to a family below.

If a child came up to your window and started banging on it at 3 in the morning, I don't feel your response would be that is was OK because you can't control a 2 year old.

Did you not bother reading the OP? They own the place and the one upstairs is a rental owned by a landlord.

This. Also we have spent a lot of money making our home the way we like at there is a difference in the number of bedrooms.
 
Seriously? I don't have kids of my own but spent a lot of time looking after younger family/relatives from a very young age and sure there are sometimes the odd hours where they will act out and there is little you can do (usually when they are tired) but most of the time I've never had any problem getting them to behave reasonably.
 
Hi,

Just posting to see if anyone has ever been in the same situation or has any further ideas of what we can do to resolve an issue.

Myself and my partner are both 23 and around 18 months ago purchased our first property. It’s only a small ground floor flat of a town house but our first home and something we worked hard for. First 6 months were fine, the upstairs flat is owned by a family in new Zealand and rented out. the tenants were no problem. After around 6 months, a new family moved in with a 2 year old daughter.

For the last year, we are woken at 6AM on our weekends by the child running all over the house upstairs causing horrendous banging. This goes on all day and on the weekend evening until 2-3AM in the morning. Our lights shake, our radiators wobble. The owner has had a few carpets replaced but to no avail, the banging is too much for any quality carpet to make a difference.

We have tried speaking to them, they are Romanian and do not speak very good English so it is difficult but they say it is not their problem, they cannot stop a child from playing. We have spoken to their property managers who seem to have little power in order to do anything. We have spoken to the council who as soon as they heard the fact is was a child, told us they couldn’t do anything regardless of the fact it was during unsociable hours.

I have now asked the owner of the property to serve them notice and offered to pay for any estate agent fees and missing rent in the time it takes to find new tenants who don’t have a young child. My inclination is however that he won’t go along with this.

Does anyone know what else we can do.

Not having the property long means it doesn’t make too much financial sense for us to move. We enquired about buying the upstairs property ourselves but the owner wanted far too much for it.

Very thankful of any ideas or help from anyone!

Thanks
This is a horrible situation to be in!

Again, it may sound like the OP is exaggerating, but I know first hand it can be amazingly loud!

OP do you have Lath & Plaster or Plasterboard ceilings? Are the floors concrete, or (I am guessing) joists and one of the above? The problem with most ceilings as they act like a drum skin or a hollow box and noises can reverberate horribly. Quite often the ceiling can make the issue worse!

You can reduce it by adding lots of mass to the ceiling. This is not a magic fix by any means and is expensive
Loading the ceiling with Genie Clips & DB Board/ Gypsum sound board or Resilient Bars & the above boards along with some acoustic mineral wool between the floors would help somewhat, but to be honest, I do not think it will make a life changing difference for impact noise (It definitely helps, but does not eliminate it by any means) as you get a lot of flanking down the walls. The construction of your property will play a big part in this. For example, concrete floors and breeze block walls are worse, whereas Lath & Plaster ceilings and brick walls are generally better Also budget at least £2,000 a room to do it properly if you get a co. in. You could probably do it yourself for about £1,200 for a room (my 4x3.5m lounge would be roughly this cost), but it is a tough job, as working with ceilings always is. If you have a joist & plasterboard ceiling, you could pull it all down and replace it with one of the above, or an independent ceiling.

What may work better is tackling the issue from above. Special underlays could be put under the carpet to combat this, but, it is expensive AND your neighbours/LL have to allow it. Again, it will not totally eliminate it, I promise you that.

Unfortunately, unless you are willing to build a 'box' inside your rooms, you won't eliminate it totally.

I have no idea of your finances and how much you would lose by moving, but maybe try tackling one room and see how the result is, then make a call on if you can live with it.

Let me know if you want to know more about soundproofing. I'm about to do my living room ceiling (1900 maisonette, upstairs neighbour whose TV I can hear and frequent get-togethers etc. Not the same problem as yours, but I've sought tons of advice on the issue).

At the end of the day, if it were me, (and reading the thread, you have the means and won't lose money), I would either move out and rent the place out or sell up completely. Be careful about getting into any disputes with upstairs as you have to declare this when you sell.
 
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This is just a result of the housing crisis, it's tough luck, good luck to any parent trying to get a 2 year old to do what they want.

I've witnessed my friends and sister do exactly that. One of them is a member of this forum and I've seen his child behave very well from a very young age.

Sure like any kid he has his moments but my friend would never let him behave like the child in question.
 
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