Not if she positions herself right.
Relationship disaster - help
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Not if she positions herself right.
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Pics or this is a BS thread. Sounds too obvious to me. A devout Christian would allow heavy fondling after less than 2 weeks? I don't buy it.
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Surely if she's saying the L word and probing you about when you will say it after 2 weeks, huge alarm bells must be ringing?!
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I don't see a religion problem at all. People who are devoted of 2 different religions, say Christian and Muslim can get married no problem, and it happened. Let her go to Church, and let her pray each day and all that, but you don't have to.
If you REALLY like her, you will accept the fact.
About the sex bit, well, I'm sure eventually she will give in.
If you REALLY like her, you will accept the fact.
About the sex bit, well, I'm sure eventually she will give in.
Oh my god. I literally burst out laughing.
Why don't you make an effort to be just friends. I.e. no more sexual favours, start talking about other women and dismiss anything to do with marriage/love/relationship. If you have a "talk" then you'll probably make things awkward and have to find another house mate... although it may be for the best as you have made her seem like a complete bunny boiler. :/
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Is her name Debbie? My ex was exactly this. Kissing and cuddling ok, but devout Christian so no sex before marriage etc and just after 4 months, yes 4 months, she wanted to get engaged O.o wtf
She paid for your tiling?!?
I have no idea why but this part of the thread is what got my attention. Why would a lodger moving in pay for tiling on the owners house prior to even meeting them?
Not that it's any more normal after having an introduction. Sounds like she's making your place her home.
I have no idea why but this part of the thread is what got my attention. Why would a lodger moving in pay for tiling on the owners house prior to even meeting them?
Not that it's any more normal after having an introduction. Sounds like she's making your place her home.
well first off if a girl ever said to me i dont want sex before marriage id say goodbye ha!
I once went out on a crazy girl and after I dropped her up I had 10 text messages saying Ive never felt like this before i really do love you, your amazing I can feel the love with you blah blah blah... I never replied and ignored her lol that was one crazy girl
I once went out on a crazy girl and after I dropped her up I had 10 text messages saying Ive never felt like this before i really do love you, your amazing I can feel the love with you blah blah blah... I never replied and ignored her lol that was one crazy girl
I want to know more about this:
"I advertised for a lodger – i got one. Fit looking female twentysomething."
Where did you advertise? I'm just wondering where you found this girl who seems to be VERY keen that her family believes she is in a relationship, wanting you to love her after a fortnight (come on)
Something (well a lot) sounds very off. This is coming from a female
I will let the men comment on the pasty smashing and whatnot
"I advertised for a lodger – i got one. Fit looking female twentysomething."
Where did you advertise? I'm just wondering where you found this girl who seems to be VERY keen that her family believes she is in a relationship, wanting you to love her after a fortnight (come on)
Something (well a lot) sounds very off. This is coming from a female
I will let the men comment on the pasty smashing and whatnot
But you are amazing!
I think i may be cursed in relationships.
I advertised for a lodger – i got one. Fit looking female twentysomething.
Now i wasn’t at home for the first month because i was away doing a course. She moved in and cleaned the place up big time...even going so far as to put in new bathroom tiles in the bathroom.
I was a tad uncomfortable with this but said nothing.
When i moved back in, we get on fine albeit she is always buying me food stuffs and she brings some relatives over...all normal except that she had said that her cousin referred to me as the boyfriend???!
Now i will admit i find her attractive. I should add at this point –she is a devout Christian. Believes very strongly in no sex before marriage etc. (she didn’t tell me this until we were very hot n heavy btw) (she doesn’t mind doing other stuff though as long as its not actual intercourse)
But anyway we had something of a connection i thought and i kissed her. Before you can say howdy doody. ....we are kissing, cuddlying etc. Now for me this is just some fun as i have no interest in a serious relationship at the moment. (i said to her before all this that i’m leaving the country)
Problem is she thinks we are 100% serious. She is constantly trying to get me to come to church, asking me why i don’t believe in God etc. I have told her i am agnostic but this doesn’t satisfy her and she keeps bringing the subject up (to the extent that it is annoying me).
Now if she didn’t constantly push the religion onto me and didn’t have the “no sex before marriage” rule then i would be happy to go out with her as a couple.
I am obviously going to have to tell her my feelings which could possibly mean the end of any relationship. It will upset her big time...where was my first mistake you reckon? Where did i go wrong?
Ohh yeah all this has happened in the space of 1 ½ - 2 weeks. At one point as well she kinda said she loved me...when i said i liked her she pushes for details and was saying when do i think i would reach the love stage or something.....
This is a nightmare basically... ideas?
Go to Church. Get her bucked. WIN !!
Yeah by then she will have picked out her preferred curtains and a welcome mat that reads "Mr & Mrs Surfer"
