relationship problems :/ whos in the wrong?

Davepen said:
Dude, he's 16!
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So?

I think most of us learn from a very early age simple language skills and that if someone says no, you can shout and moan all you want like a child but if they don't want to, they don't.

It seems all he did was find it very hard to understand what she said and was in denial, then lashed out in a last ditch effort.

From what he explained it sounds very simple, nothing developed because of distance and she decided to be with someone else and said no to him.
No doubt, each and everyone one of us would at least attempt to try recover what we have with someone we "like" but there's a point you stop.
 
ChrisJSY said:
So?

I think most of us learn from a very early age simple language skills and that if someone says no, you can shout and moan all you want like a child but if they don't want to, they don't.

It seems all he did was find it very hard to understand what she said and was in denial, then lashed out in a last ditch effort.

From what he explained it sounds very simple, nothing developed because of distance and she decided to be with someone else and said no to him.
No doubt, each and everyone one of us would at least attempt to try recover what we have with someone we "like" but there's a point you stop.
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I came on here to ask for advice. This is not a last ditch lash out. I a genuine question for genuine advice. Yes maybe i phrased the OP wrong, but i have already said that. I am only 16 which means i dont know exactly what to do, which is the whole reason i came on here. I am sorry about the spelling and puntuation, but im tired and trying to write this quickly as i have work to do too.

I dont see the point in just having a go. Im not saying you have to be nice, but constructive critisism would be a lot more helpul.

But to the constructive replies thank you again, it helps.
 
ChrisJSY said:
So?

I think most of us learn from a very early age simple language skills and that if someone says no, you can shout and moan all you want like a child but if they don't want to, they don't.

It seems all he did was find it very hard to understand what she said and was in denial, then lashed out in a last ditch effort.

From what he explained it sounds very simple, nothing developed because of distance and she decided to be with someone else and said no to him.
No doubt, each and everyone one of us would at least attempt to try recover what we have with someone we "like" but there's a point you stop.
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crap... no means yes and yes means harder. :D


seriously though at 16 i had no idea what the opposite sex was going on about.... and tbh i still dont and i am 16.5 now
 
gjrc said:
crap... no means yes and yes means harder. :D


seriously though at 16 i had no idea what the opposite sex was going on about.... and tbh i still dont and i am 16.5 now
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must have been very different when I was 16.....
 
Another vote for Magnolia's 4 step guide.

$loth said:
This, women will come and go don't get hung up on one.
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Unless they're the crazy stalker, bunny boiler type. But she seems to young for that so your safe. Put another post up when you meet one and we'll help you out. ;)

4T5 said:
Poor lad.

OP.
Hasn't your Mum got any fit friends that can Educate you ?
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+1 Aim high dude. Older women at your age are a blessing, an experience that must be lived. Trust me. Plus the lads at school/college will think your a legend. Trust me I know.
 
hellarda said:
'the only reason we weren't going out was the distance' yes we weren't going out per se, however we were treating each other as if we were. we talked for ages every night. i have seen her a few times since the summer, and i was meant to be seeing her next sunday.

we were treating eachother as if we were going out. everytime we were together we were out in town, we were acting as a couple.
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You're not listening to what people are trying to tell you.

hellarda said:
well she was treating me as a bf more than i was treating her as a gf so.....

yeh ok cheers
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Girls are like that, one minute they are into you the next there not. Some have suggested to cut contact, at your age I would suggest the same thing because you simply cannot handle this properly.

Not that I expect you to follow anyones advice here, you're 16 so you automatically know better than everyone else.
 
4 step guide.

Don't waste the best years of your life obsessing about some girl who has already shown her true colours. Cutting all contact is key, then make yourself get out and meet more people!
Many of us learnt this the hard way - you can't turn back the clock, so make the most of now :)

You will meet someone 10x more awesome if you follow the 4 step plan I am certain.
 
Just (as if there was any need) to re-iterate the other points here, OP move the heck on and make the most of your youth without wasting time in "yearning" mode. As a great rapper once said: "life is one big p***y waiting to be *****d".

So don't be the former (e.g. p***y), and make sure you do a whole lot of the latter (yep) to whatever you choose to devote your energies to (figuratively speaking ofc).

Capisce?
 
Greenlizard0 said:
Go back to school and learn about punctuation, spelling and grammar. Then buy a map to find the the sacred caps lock button.
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JanesyB has been permabanned for a post like this. Well, not just this but 'apparently' it's against the rules as it adds nothing to a thread. (And I realise that this post doesn't either)

http://dl.dropbox.com/u/11422169/email-2.png

To stay on topic. OP, you weren't an item so it doesn't concern you.

She wasn't going to not doing anything with anyone else just because you like her and live 2 hours away and weren't going to pursue anything with her.
 
hellarda said:
I dont see the point in just having a go. Im not saying you have to be nice, but constructive critisism would be a lot more helpul.
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We are not all having a go, we just want you to see reason and the brutal honest truth can help. If nobody else is going to call you out for being a bleeding dramatic then how can you know that?

Simply put, you over reacted like a queen. Arguing over someone not wanting to be more than friends!?



Hellarda said:
...she is now telling me that she doesnt want to be anything more than friends..
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See, that's when it should have ended.
You said nothing happened, you only texted.

I can't imagine how you'd feel if you actually had a girlfriend that actually left you. Now we can just imagine.

Lastly don't forget you decided to share this on a general discussion forum, some of us are bound to, well, err... poke at you. There's wisdom within it though. Mostly from those who've been through it before and see it time and time and time again through friends, acquaintances, hearing about it and reading on forums ;)

Don't worry, you're on the majorities side of things when it comes to getting over it.
 
ChrisJSY said:
I can't imagine how you'd feel if you actually had a girlfriend that actually left you. Now we can just imagine.
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i have had a gf, and i was in exactly the same situation then. literally exactly the same, however that took two years to sort out. the only way i got over was because i started getting to close to this girl. i wouldntve got over the last one without her.....

sorry for getting grouchy, school has a weird effect on me atm :/
 
As you grow older friend zone usually means.

I like to use you for the ego boost you give me but i'm not willing to give you a leg over and would rather tell you my problems about some other douchebag i'm banging and use you when I feel down as my emotional tampon.

Simple my friend.

Cut contact not worth you're effort. Ahh 16 such an innocent age when you think all woman are pure and arn't out to use you.
 
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