Rules of the bro code

-BA- said:
And you have to wonder who was at fault.......
Click to expand...

Not really; we both acted like a pair of complete arses. However, we weren't that close in the first place or we wouldn't have done it to each other so as I said, it wasn't a massive loss.

Nickg said:
unless your 30+ its highly unlikely that your really looking for a life partner..
Click to expand...

I got married at 29 and I was one of the last of my peer group to do so. Baring in mind that my peer group is generally career focused and have pretty much all put off kids until into their 30s, which is quite late, I think you are a little out with your timings.

I wonder what the average age of marriage is in the UK?
 
Last edited:
I guess it depends on the break up and stuff. If it was me though. I absolutely couldn't stand it. Guess if they ever did get together I would see them etc together and would need to put some distance between my self and the ex.

But also its just plain wrong. Bro code man, BRO CODE!!@£!@!
 
Nickg said:
unless your 30+ its highly unlikely that your really looking for a life partner.. your just looking for a girl, and trying to pull your mates ex so quickly is insensitive and pretty lame.

regardless of code, who will he chat to when it fizzles out? no-one if he burnt all his mates in the process...?
Click to expand...

Sweeping generalisations aside, it is only insensitive and lame because of how the other person feels about this. The relationship is over, he could perhaps just wish his mate the best and say, "Fair play to you mate, it didn't work out for me but do me a favour and don't come to me asking if she does that funny thing, you know with the..........."

Does this pathetic bro' code have a time frame? 2 weeks? 2 months? 2 years? Blah blah tbh......... If it happened to me, sure I would be narked but bro' code, come on, listen to yourselves.

Do you all walk around greeting each other, "Sup homes£ and then punching each other fists? West side........
 
Tefal said:
is she super hot, or does she just like to lead other men on/try to make you jealous?
Click to expand...


She is very good looking but also quite friendly which blokes sometimes take the wrong way. I'm not worried at all, good luck them lol.

My mate who was all over her was very drunk, still not an excuse though imo. Shame for him he's just been posted in Germany, maybe he thought it was worth a go before he left.

It wasn't.
 
simple solution:
Ask him why he is doing it and ask him if he thinks its a little insensitive to you that he's doing it. Then take according action depending on his answer
 
Last edited:
it is only insensitive and lame because of how the other person feels about this.
Click to expand...

not really though, its like you are admitting you fancied your mates misses for x amount of time and thats unhealthy.

Do you all walk around greeting each other, "Sup homes£ and then punching each other fists? West side........
Click to expand...

the funny thing is - i bet most of the knuckle scrapers are the ones who are doing their mates misses behind his back and whatnot...sweeping generalisations aside...LOL.
 
Nickg said:
not really though, its like you are admitting you fancied your mates misses for x amount of time and thats unhealthy.



the funny thing is - i bet most of the knuckle scrapers are the ones who are doing their mates misses behind his back and whatnot...sweeping generalisations aside...LOL.
Click to expand...

What the heck is wrong with having feelings for a friend's partner. Acting on them whilst in a relationship would be inappropriate but after? It's after....done....finished.

Unsure of what your reference is with regard to "knuckle scrapers" if it is one I think you might be referring to, then it is highly distasteful and not suitable for this thread or forum. Hope I have got it wrong. If it is just in reference to a general thug mentality then fair enough.
 
I'd not be happy if one of my friends hooked up with one of my ex's, especially not so if it was soon after we split.

I've got two friends who have hooked up with other friend's partners. One of said couples now live together with a 6 month old baby, and the ex doesn't talk to many of us any more. (Not out of spite, but just the awkwardness has put a wedge between us all.)

Likewise for the other couple/ex I know.

It's all grown up and logical to just sit back and say "You're split up, get over it." But logic != emotion.
 
I got with my best mates fiancee the day they split up. I then had a relationship with her for 5 years.

He thought it was hilarious. :)
 
You think thats bad?

I have a mate that keeps flirting with, Hugging, Trying to grope, Buys drinks, Cuddles into her on the sofa with my CURRENT girlfriend! :mad:
 
Dj_Jestar said:
I'd not be happy if one of my friends hooked up with one of my ex's, especially not so if it was soon after we split.

I've got two friends who have hooked up with other friend's partners. One of said couples now live together with a 6 month old baby, and the ex doesn't talk to many of us any more. (Not out of spite, but just the awkwardness has put a wedge between us all.)

Likewise for the other couple/ex I know.

It's all grown up and logical to just sit back and say "You're split up, get over it." But logic != emotion.
Click to expand...

However the bro' code would deny that couple the chance to be living together with a baby......

The awkwardness was put there by the friends who felt said code (even if you don't call it that) had been breached. To not people be happy out of misplaced loyalty to someone who should be moving on is crazy. Mates should be supporting that guy to say, "Get over it bro, plenty more fish in the sea, move on." If you reinforce someone's reservations or concerns you only serve to make them more deep seated.
 
I didn't say what they did was right/wrong.. I just simply pointed out it will come with consequences and/or complications. :) and fwiw, the baby was a trap.
 
With regards to the whole 'timeframes' thing. Surely it's when/if they say it's ok?

For the two times mentioned this has happened perhaps 1-2 days after we've split. I like to give my relationships a bit of time after they end just to cut contact and get over it, for both parties. The reason I don't want one of my mates wriggling in is because he's one of my close mates, surely that makes sense? A few months down the line he can do as he pleases, personally I wouldn't just out of respect but I don't begrudge one of them going for it. I want to see my mates happy.

He's not one of my closest friends, he's kind of a proxy-close friend. Two of my best mates befriended him in college so I have to put up with him type deal. To be honest I haven't stopped smashing him about it, but at least now I can show him this thread so he knows my views are not just my own.
 
Grissle said:
at least now I can show him this thread so he knows my views are not just my own.
Click to expand...


why do people do this? sorry for your situation, but do you really think showing him a bunch of comments online by randomers will really give him an epiphany and change his "wicked ways"?

as I said, sorry for your situation, but life goes on, forum or not, he's going to be a knobber for years to come
 
mac1st3 said:
why do people do this? sorry for your situation, but do you really think showing him a bunch of comments online by randomers will really give him an epiphany and change his "wicked ways"?

as I said, sorry for your situation, but life goes on, forum or not, he's going to be a knobber for years to come
Click to expand...

I think some people are taking this a bit too seriously, lol. It's more friendly gabber 'you ****' type stuff than me sitting down with him and having a heart to heart, leading into a deep bromance and bareback mountains.

I'm mildly annoyed at the fact he doesn't see as I do, and it's a conversation starter. Simple really. You guys (for the most part) see it as I do, so that gives me more ammo.

We're not going on Jeremy Kyle or anything. We're 21 year old blokes having fun.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom