Soldato
Actually, that's a great idea, see if you can make some money off her being a muppet!
Second Life Ruined my Marriage!!..
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Actually, that's a great idea, see if you can make some money off her being a muppet!
Uhhh, I don't think it's a big deal. So your wife was dancing with some other character in a GAME (because that's what it is) and you think the marriage is ruined? How is it different to me playing on World of Warcraft and doing a /flirt and /kiss to another character despite actually having a girlfriend?
Some people here has never played an online game before, and it's pretty blatant. If you had any experience with said games, you'd know that such things we take seriously in life like sex or relationships are absolute trivial over cyberspace. It means nothing. Just because your wife has made a new friend whose character is 'tall dark and handsome' doesn't mean she's necessarily actually has a hard on for a fake digital avatar on a game. Get real.
The real problem is MMO Addiction, which in my opinion is worse than cocaine addiction (been through both). It is a completely real addiction that has been known to wreck havoc on many peoples' lives. She needs help for that. It is the long hours of the day on the computer and away from you that is ruining the relationship. Not prancing around with some fake video game person whose real identity she doesn't even know. You are looking for something to pin the shortcomings on, but don't feel it's sensible enough to blame the game on, instead chosing to point the finger at some 12 year old on Second Life. It's Second Life itself that's the problem.
You need to talk to her and try to get her to realize she is spending far too much time on the game, and that it is straining the marriage.
Some people here has never played an online game before, and it's pretty blatant. If you had any experience with said games, you'd know that such things we take seriously in life like sex or relationships are absolute trivial over cyberspace. It means nothing. Just because your wife has made a new friend whose character is 'tall dark and handsome' doesn't mean she's necessarily actually has a hard on for a fake digital avatar on a game. Get real.
The real problem is MMO Addiction, which in my opinion is worse than cocaine addiction (been through both). It is a completely real addiction that has been known to wreck havoc on many peoples' lives. She needs help for that. It is the long hours of the day on the computer and away from you that is ruining the relationship. Not prancing around with some fake video game person whose real identity she doesn't even know. You are looking for something to pin the shortcomings on, but don't feel it's sensible enough to blame the game on, instead chosing to point the finger at some 12 year old on Second Life. It's Second Life itself that's the problem.
You need to talk to her and try to get her to realize she is spending far too much time on the game, and that it is straining the marriage.
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What is there not to get? You need to read it yourself mate. And my post. Flirting and stuff like that in a game means absolutely nothing. I can tell you've never played on MMOs ever. I once again reiterate the real problem is the vast vacuums of time spent on the computer.
Actually, that's a great idea, see if you can make some money off her being a muppet!
watch the videos in my post bbc made documentary about it and its it like your situation. in previous page
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Soldato
You should sign up to Second Life and confront your wife online, you might hit it off again.
Soldato
get someone on MM to send you a stick of dodgy ram, install it in her pc, and watch how she cant get it to work.
then see how she reacts.
then see how she reacts.
Soldato
OR...
Offer her some nice nights out for meals, for cinema, for bars etc..
if she chooses the pc over that, then you know shes a fruitloop
Offer her some nice nights out for meals, for cinema, for bars etc..
if she chooses the pc over that, then you know shes a fruitloop
Heh. Create a 7 foot tall dark, tanned, spanish matador and see if she'll fall for you.
Soldato
I agree that the huge amount of time can cause problems in relationships, but you missed the following points:
-They've already split up
-They weren't just dancing, they spent 12+ hrs, which culminated in them having sex (albeit virtually), followed by her retreating to her bedroom for what appears to be "certain activities"
And I laughed at your part about having not played MMOs. I play far to much, as I mentioned in my previous post, played UO for 3 odd years, Neocron for 2 years, been playing WoW since closed beta... etc.
Relationships can be formed easily in MMOs, I know several people who's relationships have ended because one or other of the partners has met someone online, either in a chatroom, or in a game.
I've met lots of people in games who I would consider real-life friends, because I've actually met them, I would never consider spending a whole day having virtual sex with someone, simply out of respect for myself, and certainly not if I was in a relationship at the time.
Actually your post makes me wonder if in fact you've ever played an MMO
I did a long time ago!... Never made it off of the Orientation Island!... Got Bored... Veeeeeeeeery Bored!... Its like life but easily editable!... wheres the fun in that!..
Plus we've only got one PC that'll run it!... and she's hogging that one!
Soldato
If she aint clued up on hardware, sabotage it
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Hehe, yeah, it's dire, played it for 5 mins to "test" for a lecturer, made me glad I didn't waste the bandwidth trying it out at home.
I really pity them :/
Even I know people can be totally different on MSN and forums than real life. For example, I'm far more true to myself on MSN than the forum. Even then, thats not quite the real me.
Best idea is to say the modem broke and see what she does. Alternatively she may not give a damn about second life and finds it amusing herself.
Soldato
Why?