Second Life Ruined my Marriage!!..

Havent read the whole thread but just cancel the internet or if she isnt clued up with IT then change the ADSL password so she cant get on and plead ignorant!!
 
The programme you want to be showing her was broadcast on 1/8/08 if Google is correct

"Wonderland: Virtual Adultery and Cyberspace Love "
BBC2, 9.50pm; not Scotland

Another oddball, observational documentary about cyber addiction, and the effect it has on people’s lives. Thankfully this is not about pornography but the computer-based virtual world called Second Life, where, once you’ve signed up, you can create a character for yourself, and live out your dreams along with three-and-a-half million other “residents”. Most of the participants in this film are depressed, insecure or just plain lonely, and it’s clear that the consequences of fantasy addiction, particularly for the addicts’ families, can be terrible.

By all means show her but if I were you I would be saving my self esteem and kicking her out and citing her unreasonable behaviour. Take control, stop being so passive and reactive. Take charge, you'll feel better when you are not feeling powerless. Use the carrot you mentioned earlier in the thread, remove it from your bodily orifices and start wielding it!!! ;)
 
KittensCake said:
Of course playing Second Life for that amount of time is a problem, but you have to ask why she is playing it so much, and judging by the information in the OP, the reason is because of this guy. Whatever is causing her addiction is the real problem, not simply the fact that she is addicted to the game. They are causally related.

You said it means nothing, but it clearly does, as it is potentially the cause of the addiction. Obviously she feels some kind of connection and attraction to this guy.
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Exactly what I would have said, but probably worded better :p
 
triggerthat said:
Get rid.
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Sure, just terminate 4 years of marriage and x years of being together for a problem that probably can be fixed by third-party counseling.

This is probably the reason why divorce is so common as people just quit at the first sign of trouble. If you want the easy life then don't get married. Marriage is supposed to be for life, and although I understand this is not always possible, running at the first sign of trouble is not the best way of running a marriage.

Sometimes what doesn't kill the relationship makes it stronger and sometimes it cracks the foundation so much it cannot be saved, but not trying is stupid.
 
Haggisman said:
I agree that the huge amount of time can cause problems in relationships, but you missed the following points:

-They've already split up

-They weren't just dancing, they spent 12+ hrs, which culminated in them having sex (albeit virtually), followed by her retreating to her bedroom for what appears to be "certain activities"

And I laughed at your part about having not played MMOs. I play far to much, as I mentioned in my previous post, played UO for 3 odd years, Neocron for 2 years, been playing WoW since closed beta... etc.

Relationships can be formed easily in MMOs, I know several people who's relationships have ended because one or other of the partners has met someone online, either in a chatroom, or in a game.

I've met lots of people in games who I would consider real-life friends, because I've actually met them, I would never consider spending a whole day having virtual sex with someone, simply out of respect for myself, and certainly not if I was in a relationship at the time.

Actually your post makes me wonder if in fact you've ever played an MMO :rolleyes:
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I was suffering from Neocrack for playing Neocron for 4 years! Oh the good old days where the servers actually had people on them. :(
 
Simian said:
If anyone can get through to her.. They can!.. I'm having no luck
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Have you considered that it's your personality and the way you aact which is causing her to be so depressed that she has to go to the internet and flirt with faceless people in other countries in order to find some sort of comfort?

I'm not trying to be harsh, but experience has taught me that there's always two sides to a story...
 
The media likes to portray its only men doing this kinda thing and here we have proof that women do infact do this all the time.

If my missus was doing this I would smash the bloody computer up. Ive never seen the appeal in these online chat forums like yahoo or this second life thing. I watched some of that program when it was on, cant remember what channel it was but I just thought it was sad and reminded me of another program where people had rubber dolls and were doing all sorts of whacked out stuff to them.
 
WTF! She needs to realise just how weird she is! Get her outside to figure out there are more important things in life than some computer game / cyber fling. I feel sorry for your Simian, but you've got to get a hold of the situation and sort it out (thats if you can stop hating her and possibly want to get back together again?).
 
Tell her to get a job ! :p that way she cant spend 8-12hrs on it

NA NA NA NA WHY DONT YA GET A JOB !
 
She has a job and still manages 8-12hrs or was the 8-12hrs while she was on holiday ?
Sorry i must have misread the OP my bad :p

My question still stands mind
 
Simian said:
She has got a Job... She's on 'Holiday' this week!.. What great place to spend it!... O a flippin Computer!!..
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You tried taking her out for meals or anything when you get in from work?

maybe do something to drag her off the computer and show more interest in you?

i spent ages on the pc.. far too long, but my lass could always drag me off if she was in her sussies!
 
Hedge said:
i spent ages on the pc.. far too long, but my lass could always drag me off if she was in her sussies!
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You're not married then I take it? If my wife walked in in her suspenders whilst I was on the computer I'd tell her to get dressed properly and go get me some beer and chips. :D

You do know that married people don't have sex? ;) :p Well not real sex, virtual is OK!
 
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