Sex After Marriage????

bibalasvegas said:
I'd date a girl who didn't want to have sex before marriage if I really liked her (and thought there was a chance of making it to marriage!). Are you a christian because if not I can't really understand the rationale behind the decision. Not having one night stands or short term relationships I can understand, but no sex before marriage full stop seems a bit pointless to me seeing how many divorces there are nowadays.
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There are a few benefits to consider, it's the best (and only) failure free contraceptive available, no risk of STD's...
 
I think its a pretty backward view akin to 'women belong in the home' and as a result the sort of girl who thinks it isnt the sort I'd tend to date :)
 
Couldn't hack it tbh. I'm married and I firmly believe in 'try-before-you-buy'. Anyone used to having sex is going to struggle with someone who hasn't before marriage as sex-drive would get in the way of the relationship. You then end up with a plaonic friendship, rather than a marriage in the biblical sense as two virgins in mid/late twenties are going to have the sex-drives of a trappist monk.

Then again, sex after marriage....not as often tbh!!!
 
supernova9 said:
The whole "you don't know someone and whether you're suited to be with them for life until you've had sex with them" argument doesn't really wash with me. So many couples use that, but when you ask them if they have joint bank accounts, they don't. They share the sex, but not the money. Both can be equally as important in a relationship, I've seen marriages and relationships hit the rocks over money, so why not that too? Usually it boils down to the fact that sex is way more fun than giving someone else your money.
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I'd rather be guessing what's in their bank account than be guessing what's in their pants.
 
Dolph said:
There are a few benefits to consider, it's the best (and only) failure free contraceptive available, no risk of STD's...
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If you're that worried, just have check-ups beforehand. The other thread said they shove something down your willy though so...
 
[TW]Fox;11545092 said:
I think its a pretty backward view akin to 'women belong in the home' and as a result the sort of girl who thinks it isnt the sort I'd tend to date :)
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It’s not really akin to that, and I think you will find it is the girls own choice.

MrSix said:
It's an old fashioned way of thinking that is simply passed on from generation to generation with no logical grounds on which to base it.
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There are a fair few beneifts, and as Dolph has mentioned great way to avoid STDs.

A little less promiscuity would have avoided this whole generation of social delinquents (Chavvs) that have been bred by teenage mothers not fit to look after their kids.

Not withstanding contraception campaigns, stopping it at the source remains the best solution, whereas sex is seen as just that and hence a never-ending tribe of kids born from kids.
 
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A relationship is based on many levels and one of them is physical closeness. It stems from sex. The more compatible you are in your desires, the closer that part of your relationship will be. Good sex ends arguments, reconciles couples. Bad sex causes resentment and distance. No matter how good your friendship is and how strong your spiritual love, sexual incompatibility destroys relationships.

So suppose two good virgins wait until their wedding night and one of them hates it and one loves it. Disaster. Seriously.

You need to know how sexually compatible you are with each other and not finding out before you get married is as bad as not living together.
 
If you think sex is a special thing only worthy of being reserved for your husband after marriage


.... you're gonna be so disappointed. It's your call though. Personally I think it's a rather silly stance to adopt.
 
supernova9 said:
I'm a Christian, 23 years old, male. Lost my virginity with a girlfriend November last year, I wasn't her first and kinda felt this pressure to do it to keep her in a way. At the time I thought it was the right thing to do, but we broke up about February time. If I could take back any one thing I'd done in my life, it would be that.

There will be many people who'll tell you to do it, but you know if it's right for you or not, don't be pressured into doing something like that. If the person won't accept it or won't date you because of it, then are they really someone you're looking to date?

Yes there are people out there who'll wait, it's just a case of finding them.
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you sure that your GF didnt leave you because you were crap in the sack? not trying to sound harsh, but the person who believes in "sex after marriage" nonsense wouldnt have any experience, so partners wouldnt hang around for long
 
mrk1@1 said:
There are a fair few beneifts, and as Dolph has mentioned great way to avoid STDs.

A little less promiscuity would have avoided this whole generation of social delinquents (Chavvs) that have been bred by teenage mothers not fit to look after their kids.
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A great way to avoid STD's? Are you kidding me?

That's like saying...."here you are Mr Hitler, have our country, it's a great way for us to avoid dying!".

But it's actually worse...

And also, don't talk such piffle...you're telling me that the sole reason for Chavs (one V thx) is because of promiscuity? I think not. We've always had scrotes in this world, they're born because of ill educated scutterbuckets, who happen to like a good humping. Making them believe in no sex before marriage would simply lead to more teen marriages and therefore more benefits for them.
 
MikeTimbers said:
Sexual promiscuity doesn't cause unplanned children; stupidity causes unplanned children. In this day and age there is no excuse for an unintentional pregnancy.
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Well er yes it does. No sex, no kids. The problem is kids who are too young to fully understand the consequences or choose to ignore them feel no socials barrier to sleeping around.
 
FishThrower said:
you sure that your GF didnt leave you because you were crap in the sack? not trying to sound harsh, but the person who believes in "sex after marriage" nonsense wouldnt have any experience, so partners wouldnt hang around for long
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Seeing as she didn't end it, yes I am sure. And anyway, everyone loses their virginity at some point, and when they do I doubt they're any good at it, why does whatever belief you hold about sex before marriage affect that? If your logic holds true then everyone who slept with a virgin would leave pretty soon after. Doubtful at best.
 
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