Sexual remarks at work
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The OP certainly has a valid argument about what would happen if it was a man using this type of "banter' but there is little he can do about it as we live in an unequal society. We should not be moaning that women can use this type of 'banter' but we should be complaining that men cannot.
Soldato
Going by the op posts, he does seem to be a bit of a fanny, just get on with life instead of moaning all the time
Ding Ding.
Soldato
We are both in the military though. You do realise that much of what is said and done in our workplace really could result in a court order in civvy Street?
Naked office anyone?
Soldato
Get over it.
This is the problem now days all these liberal limp wristers, complaining about the slightest thing.
This is the problem now days all these liberal limp wristers, complaining about the slightest thing.
Caporegime
Will you be learning from this experience and putting more consideration into how you treat women in future? Or how you react to similar comments aimed towards women in your presence?
Soldato
Womens humour is weird.
Melissa McCarthy.
Enough said.
Melissa McCarthy.
Enough said.
Associate
Isn't banter another word for harrasment?
Soldato
He'll need to make a thread first...
Soldato
bit awkward, finished the training? Move on.
and, pics of the young girl
and, pics of the young girl
I wonder if you would be this "upset" if the trainer had been an attractive young woman.
In either case she sounds like a pretty down to earth perhaps lady who even, dare I say, might be a laugh. She certainly sounds like she has more balls than you though in any case.
In either case she sounds like a pretty down to earth perhaps lady who even, dare I say, might be a laugh. She certainly sounds like she has more balls than you though in any case.
Caporegime
jesus weeps
In Scotland it is another word for anything derogatory said against the English a view shared by the red top media and the SNP government.
Man of Honour
If it's making course attendees uncomfortable then the trainer has misjudged the mood if nothing else - it might be worth pointing it out in the course feedback option that you (or the others) thought it was somewhat inappropriate. It's perfectly possible that she thought she was enlivening what could be a pretty boring topic but got the tone wrong and hadn't realised. I think a formal complaint would be a bit excessive unless after giving feedback you get a response that was offensive.
I'm not entirely sure what the ladies weight has to do with it though or her age come to that matter.
I'm not entirely sure what the ladies weight has to do with it though or her age come to that matter.
Theres really is way too much to worry about isnt there? This is whats wrong with the world lighten up ffs.
A couple days ago i was helping one of the women in reception with her printer she was having trouble grasping a few basics so I suggested that if it was a bit tricky for her maybe she should stick to making sandwiches and child bearing. She replied saying that shed be happy to if she could find a real man in the office capable of more than "have you tried turning it off and on again"
Its banter we both had a good laugh and next week ive got an appointment with hr to share it with them(joke). Seriously though isnt work hard enough without feeling like you stepping on eggshells, The girls at our place once point in a collective complaint regarding sexual harassment apparently they felt that there wasnt enough
A couple days ago i was helping one of the women in reception with her printer she was having trouble grasping a few basics so I suggested that if it was a bit tricky for her maybe she should stick to making sandwiches and child bearing. She replied saying that shed be happy to if she could find a real man in the office capable of more than "have you tried turning it off and on again"
Its banter we both had a good laugh and next week ive got an appointment with hr to share it with them(joke). Seriously though isnt work hard enough without feeling like you stepping on eggshells, The girls at our place once point in a collective complaint regarding sexual harassment apparently they felt that there wasnt enough
Report it. Just because the trainer is female does not mean she has an excuse for such comments. You can bet that the female trainees would report it if it were a male trainer. Sexism cuts both ways.
My training instructor in my last place of work was dismissed for the exact same type of comments with women in the room. He was also overweight, jolly and a good laugh. We also had an apprentice girl with a filthy mouth. When one of the guys made a joke back she reported him and he got suspended and she got moved into the job role she wanted in the first place.
Regardless I'm always very careful what I say with women in the office. In my experience the reverse rarely applies.
The most awkward one I have ever seen is an outside instructor putting jokes up on the screen in the early days of the internet. A doctor throwing someones baby against the wall and then saying something like "gotcha she was already dead". A guy in the room only a week or so before had just lost his kids in childbirth. The instructor was the only one laughing.
I think before you do any of the that stuff, you really have to know your audience extremely well. Which is why I would never do it because I would be unlucky enough to run into someone with an agenda.
I understand the frustration with double standards but I wouldn't lodge a complaint about it.
Regardless I'm always very careful what I say with women in the office. In my experience the reverse rarely applies.
The most awkward one I have ever seen is an outside instructor putting jokes up on the screen in the early days of the internet. A doctor throwing someones baby against the wall and then saying something like "gotcha she was already dead". A guy in the room only a week or so before had just lost his kids in childbirth. The instructor was the only one laughing.
I think before you do any of the that stuff, you really have to know your audience extremely well. Which is why I would never do it because I would be unlucky enough to run into someone with an agenda.
I understand the frustration with double standards but I wouldn't lodge a complaint about it.
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But really though, nobody actually cares. They are just comments. I'd have found them cringeworthy and distasteful as well, but why does that require any action beyond saying to your mate 'Blimey, that was totally cringeworthy' on the way out of the door? It has zero real impact on anything. We get so totally hung up and obsessed on this sort of stuff these days, for what?