Sexual remarks at work

Salsa said:
I work in a team of 23 at work, 20 women and 3 blokes all aged 25-40. If I were to report every innuendo during my working day I would have no time to do any actual work. Yesterdays on-going topic of conversation was spent discussing favourite positions (some of which had to be acted out for clarity) and safe words after most of them went to see 50 shades.

Its banter... get over it.

/Salsa
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This + 1

I worked with 30 women and was molested and abused on a daily basis

Smashing:D
 
Kenai said:
Then the question of making formal complaints about the woman shouldn't even enter anyone's consciousness.

Awkwardness in the workplace happens, just get on with your day.

Sad to think the OP even reached the point of posting about it, my first thought was a troll post, didn't think it could be genuinely serious.
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I disagree.
I've worked for the last 41 years on factories and in offices where the majority are women and I can honestly say that I've never made a sexual remark in the workplace to a woman unless it was an accidental double entendre.
However it is quite the opposite that women over those 41 years aren't bothered about making such remarks such as 'He's too old now and probably can't get it up' and it does sometimes get uncomfortable & awkward.
Every now & then me and a fellow OCUK'er will look at each other thinking we'd rather not be present but obviously if it was attractive women saying the same stuff we'd be fighting for the toilet.
Like the OP said, what would women say if I made similar remarks?

I've been in one position in the late 80s where I was very close to making a formal complaint about a womans sexual remarks but I dealt with it verbally, ended up making her cry where she then complained about me, it all came out in front of the Manager and she got a warning.
 
I got told off in a review for calling a female colleague 'smart and beautiful' after she had really helped me to understand something others couldn't help me with. She was the kind of girl who shout out **** and other swear words across the office so I felt I was being genuinely appreciative but I was wrong.

It doesn't bother me really as I don't mind banter - unless you know someone, like I thought I did with this girl, I wouldn't chance it just in case. In my work place you can get told off if someone overhears you speaking to someone else as they can take offence and lodge a complaint.... I don't like working in a company which is so hypocritical.
 
I'm guessing that men can take that sort of banter because most men will be amused by it, it's understandable.
A women in a reversed roll could easily feel intimidated and it's understandable.

I wouldn't think of complaining although there are clear rules set out. It's a situation that is going through a transition, I hope that men don't end up castrating themselves in the work place entirely - if a women wants to make a sexual joke then live with it because the consequences will be sterile and boring 'training' sessions where everyone is too scared to say anything in case of offending.
 
Sexual remarks at work!

Reminds me of some guy that worked in the same building as myself a lot of years ago. He was moving some stuff so I asked him if he needed a hand with it, only to hear him say that he liked me, and was I up for a date!!:eek: of which I had too reply "Sorry mate your barking-up the wrong tree there" ;) However I did have a drink with him at an office party one year, and NO I do not swing that way, I was just being polite.
 
Dimple said:
I disagree.
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None of the rest of that post came close to making me think that considering lodging a formal complaint about someone telling a fireman's hose joke and other similar comments, is anything other than pathetic in the extreme.

You may feel differently, in which case I can only hope I never end up in a working environment with people who share similar sensitivities, it must be awful :p
 
Kenai said:
You may feel differently, in which case I can only hope I never end up in a working environment with people who share similar sensitivities, it must be awful :p
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Where did I say I would complain?
I've worked on factories & offices full of women for 41 years and only once nearly complained back in the 80s because this particular woman went too far.
Being groped or even being tied to a post and having my pants pulled down was par for the course in such environments.
Also remember that it depends on the person doing it, some people can carry it off and others fail miserably so I can well imagine that the woman in the OPs post was of the latter.
As an example a couple of weeks ago a couple of colleagues were going to a lecture and I told them the person presenting would have them feeling awkward, uncomfortable and squirming in their seats. They returned to tell me the person doesn't do it anymore and further enquiries found there were lots of complaints.
It wasn't sexual innuendo either, it was all about this persons humour but other people would be able to deliver the same jokes.
 
I said that the thought of complaining shouldn't even cross anyone's mind and that awkwardness is something to be brushed aside, to which you responded 'I disagree'. The implication there obviously being that you disagreed with it being unworthy of complaint
 
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