you're completely wrong, he wasn't a tiny little picked on by bullies 3 foot nerd with superman glasses. he wasn't built like a tank, but show me one comic where he's smaller, dressed as peter parker, than all the other friends, teachers and people? its like clark kent, he's a nerd, but a big built, tall, good looking nerd that the chicks like as both superman and clark kent. spiderman was the same, mary jane and him were always friends, he gets mary jane, whose billed as the super hottest chick ever, as peter parker. he also gets a lot of other chicks who lust after him as both peter parker and as spidey.
try not basing your opinions of what spiderman should be from the films.
EDIT:- from what i recall of spider, firstly because he's a genius, he made quite a few things to help him do his thing, which never comes into the films. also, he's supposed to be a sarcastic, witty guy who angers people in fights with what he says to throw get them to make mistakes. again something that just doesn't appear. he was a lack of confidence, geeky but tall and good looking guy who once he gets his powers gains confidence and gets the chicks but none of that comes across in the films at all. his sarcasm and how he talks to his enemy's is probably the funniest/best part of the character and its entirely missing, but thats fair, the writers(crackheads) can barely come up with normal dialogue, asking them to be witty would be entirely unfair. i mean they only make millions of dollars.
lest we forget gwen stacy( i remember from checking wiki and some sites, but when reading remember it from the cartoons too), his college girlfriend, who the green goblin kills. then he bangs mary jane, then the hot Black Cat, and flirts with every chick in the cartoon. nope, he's a small goblin geek with black hair who, dances?