Stag Do000s and unfaithfulness.

glen8 said:
Not weird at all to be honest

Those who go on and on about not cheating, usually do
Those who go on about wanting to cheat, usually do
Those who just keep quiet and get on with life, usually don't

I've found out things over the years which would make your teeth itch :D
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I have to agree with BoonMonkey I find it quite the opposite, but my convictions are a lot stronger than a lot of people's - some blokes I know are more into the show offy "being a lad" sort of thing and follow their penis sort of behaviour when the cat's away so to speak... I just couldn't ever live with myself or the guilt (or would want to) but then I believe in marriage and everything it stands for so I'm not your typical bloke.

However I think I get what you mean, some people over compensate to hide behind a false pretence. :)
 
^ you sound like a normal person though

if I met someone who kept going on about either how wrong it was, or how they wanted to do it, I'd be thinking something wasn't quite right.
 
Freefaller said:
I have to agree with BoonMonkey I find it quite the opposite, but my convictions are a lot stronger than a lot of people's - some blokes I know are more into the show offy "being a lad" sort of thing and follow their penis sort of behaviour when the cat's away so to speak... I just couldn't ever live with myself or the guilt (or would want to) but then I believe in marriage and everything it stands for so I'm not your typical bloke.

However I think I get what you mean, some people over compensate to hide behind a false pretence. :)
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I totally believe you and what you are saying, however, your wife posts on here if I'm correct. So your views are always gonna be as safe as possible on subjects like these.
 
I completely understand what you're saying now glen, I sort of misunderstood what you meant.

Yes some people over compensate - some people like to make a point so loud, that they hope it can distract people from their true thoughts/feelings.
 
having sex on your stag do is just a no no

what kind of person does that? and goes through with the wedding? wow.....a relationship built on lies from the get go

it is different after a good few years, and lots of factors then come into play

i'm not saying it's right.....cheating is never right......but if the relationship has broken down, and both parties are basically not speaking to one another and don't want to make a go of it, then one of them 'might' go out and do something stupid

i once knew of a bloke who lost his father, and his best mate within a few months......turned to drink and had a one night stand. That in my eyes was depression (which in itself is a mental illness). Like I say, i'm not saying it's right but there are reasons for people's actions. Self loathing is another one, they do it to basically hurt themselves.

Having an affair BEFORE getting married.....well, I'm not sure there is a reason for doing that
 
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Freefaller said:
I completely understand what you're saying now glen, I sort of misunderstood what you meant.

Yes some people over compensate - some people like to make a point so loud, that they hope it can distract people from their true thoughts/feelings.
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This.

At first I assumed that Glen meant people saying they wouldn't on here for example would actually end up doing so!
 
Easy way to clear this up..

How would you feel if before you're married, your fiance has quite a nice tight pasty which you obviously intend explore for the rest of your life.

However suddenly after your married, you go down there and its like throwing a hotdog down a hallway.

All because on her hen night, she had abit too much fun with the New Zealand All Blacks team.

If that seems ok to you, then go for it. If not, stay clear.
 
Strip clubs aren't my thing at all. I know why I'm there. I know why they are there. Not for me

Personally I think it depends how you see it. If you see it as harmless fun that's one thing. If it's your last chance to have fun sexually probably not the marrying type.

And by fun I mean a dance, private dance, standard stuff.
Kissing or more is too far. I know if I found my gf had done more I wouldn't be happy. In fact I'd probably not want to go through with it
 
I tend to use a very simple rule to the question "Is this cheating?"

If you are not prepared to tell your partner about it, then it is probably cheating.
 
glen8 said:
Not weird at all to be honest

Those who go on and on about not cheating, usually do
Those who go on about wanting to cheat, usually do
Those who just keep quiet and get on with life, usually don't

I've found out things over the years which would make your teeth itch :D
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I find the exact opposite, the people that are being quiet are the ones doing something wrong, hence avoiding drawing attention to themselves.
 
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