Stag Do000s and unfaithfulness.

The entire concept of 'stag' 'hen' nights is outdated and holds no relevance at all in todays society.

People are in relationships many years these days before getting married.

I was with my wife 5 years before we got married, and we lived together for 4 of those.


I had a stag...but i barely even considered it one as i couldn't care less for silly traditions. I arrange a night camping with my 3 best mates. I didn't want anyone else there as there are only 3 of them that i'd trust with anything - so it was only those I invited.
We camped out and just stayed up all night eating food and drinking beers and scotch. Just having a good crack and it was a great night.

My wife didn't care either so just went for some food and a few drinks with some close friends and our mothers.

I then just went for a curry with my brother and dad plus some beers seperate to my night with mates.


The wedding was in Hawaii so close friends/family just watched via Skype.




When I see the way some people go on, it makes me feel really stuck up as I look down on them and consider it to be pathetic. I'm not stuck up, but it's hard not to feel that way - I just really disagree with it.

I'm not into strip bars - but oddly enough my wife has taken me to a strip show twice. (crazy horse in vegas) but that was because she thinks the artestry to depict the women form in those shows is great.

If she was the type to go wild on a hen night, she would not be my wife...and no doubt she'd think of it the same way. If I was that kind of guy, no doubt i'd lack many of the other qualities she see's in me currently. (no idea what those are mind...haha)
 
My hen do - My friends arranged it and we went to see the dream boys (neither dreamy or boys) which was awkward, I was taken up on stage by a drag act, made to do a shot, introduce myself but thankfully was able to sit back with my friends when the strippers came on the stage - some other hens weren't so lucky.

My husband's stage - he had a stripper in one of the bars his went to where there was some motorboating and end up in a strip club where his friends paid for a lap dance.

We didn't discuss it before hand what was or wasn't allowed as we know the limits of our relationship, what I was internally happy with is pretty much what happened. I would have preferred it without the lapdance but I'm not that fussed. If any extras had been procured or the action had moved away from the main club area to a "VIP" area then we would have had some issues.
 
My worst experience on a stag was actually some random hens in an 80s club we ended up at. They were all over the place, including one of the brides pulling some guy, after trying it on with a few of us!

Amazed that people have such low morals :(
 
Ayahuasca said:
I wonder how many people have told themselves this before
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you seem bitter...

EdwardTeach said:
I think you are being a bit of a prude.

It depends on the attitude of your fiancée. My wife is not really the type to get jealous or offended and I was happy to tell her what went on on my stag do (Stripclubs in Budapest are a bit more "hands on" than UK!).

however I know it is fairly common for stags to sleep with prostitutes - personally i think that is going a bit too far
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Common? Maybe several decades ago, now people live together for years before taking it to the next stage.

I trust my other half as does she, but that's no excuse for behaving like a complete and utter ****.
 
I would think if you haven't got this sort of thing out of your system and/or don't respect the person you are marrying then the chances are your marriage is doomed from the off.
 
Ayahuasca said:
how so? I'm not naive enough to tell myself whoever I'm with would never consider cheating, you don't know what can happen. That doesn't mean I don't trust partners :)
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I wouldn't call it naive...

I wouldn't ever consider cheating on a partner. And I believe it's a mutual feeling. If circumstances changed and I felt the need to I would end the relationship before doing anything, and if the partner is half decent they'd do the same. Cheating is never an option.
 
In most cases people that are being unfaithful deserve to be cheated on. I don't buy this "Last night of freedom" BS, you gave up that freedom the minute you entered into a committed, exclusive, relationship. If you are thinking about banging some skank at the lapdance club for money on your stag do that REALLY doesn't show commitment or respect for your partner and you deserve everything you get. Karma is one heck of a ******
 
I wonder how people would keep it a secret nowadays with social media being as it is. That of course depends on what the partner thinks. Some relationships are quite open and quite accepting of this sort of thing but I do think those are few and far between. TBH if I were marrying someone who didn't get significantly annoyed or jealous at such antics then I would figure I wasn't marrying the right person.
 
BoonMonkey said:
Really?

I've found that my friends who go on about how they would like to have sex with someone else end up being the ones who cheat on their partners. Weird that.
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Not weird at all to be honest

Those who go on and on about not cheating, usually do
Those who go on about wanting to cheat, usually do
Those who just keep quiet and get on with life, usually don't

I've found out things over the years which would make your teeth itch :D
 
glen8 said:
Not weird at all to be honest

Those who go on and on about not cheating, usually do
Those who go on about wanting to cheat, usually do
Those who just keep quiet and get on with life, usually don't

I've found out things over the years which would make your teeth itch :D
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Do you mean ones who say they wouldn't, for example, in a thread like this?

Or do you mean people who just bring it up often for no reason in particular?

I can honestly say I would never. I can't understand why anyone would want to cause so much suffering to a person they are/were in love with...
 
BoonMonkey said:
Do you mean ones who say they wouldn't, for example, in a thread like this?

Or do you mean people who just bring it up often for no reason in particular?

I can honestly say I would never. I can't understand why anyone would want to cause so much suffering to a person they are/were in love with...
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oh no, people talking about it on here aren't going on and on and on about it. This is just comments in a single thread. I'm talking about people who constantly talk about how wrong it is.

I once worked with a lady (nothing special to look at, mid 30s, married with two kids) who found out about a couple at work having an affair. She constantly made snide comments, and kept going on and on and on about it. The look of disgust on her face was quite comical really.

turns out, she herself was banging one of the lads of work at lunch times

I've come across more people having secret affairs than I thought possible over the years
 
I suspect he means those who are clearly overcompensating. The ones that vehemently condemn anyone who cheats with indignation and gratuitous passion. Kind of like the preachers who keep a stash of gay porn and coke at home whilst proclaiming to their congregation that homosexuals and drug addicts go to a special kind of hell.
 
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