Ill shampoo the stubble, then soak it in conditioner to soften it then use oil..............then a taylors shaving cream.........
Maybe your putting too much emphasis on softening the stubble and inflaming the skin. Have you tried cold water shaving yet?
Also Taylors can irritate, try a different cream/soap like Palmolive or Ingram if nothing else works.
Edit: beaten like a Nadal in the first round.