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When we stopped foraging 10,000 years ago.
**The Mental Health Thread**
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When we stopped foraging 10,000 years ago.
I can relate. I don't think it was anxiety as such this morning, more just stressing but then it got me worked up a bit so then I was getting panicky. I keep rescue remedy in my bag now so took some when I got to work and feel a little better now.
Has the doctor suggested anything for your anxiety?
Same for me I think. Kids back at school getting up early. Dog needed the vets too which always makes me nervous just got stressed up and a bit panicky over everything. I take escitalopram but otherwise I just do some breathing and try and let it pass and keep busy.
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I suffer from generalised anxiety disorder which often leads to social anxiety, depending on my mood, mindset and who I'm in the company of. I also struggle with depression from time to time.
Thinking back to when I was a kid this is something I have always suffered from - back before mental health was a thing and worthy of discussion
Until both became recognised medical conditions, I had no explanation to why I was feeling the way I did.
Now I have information, like minded friends and context, everything makes much more sense.
While depression is horrible I find it much more manageable than anxiety. While I'm having a panic attack there is no rationale - nothing can be said to change the way I feel.
Unfortunately I only have three coping mechanisms. If anyone has found others please share!
1. Remove myself from the situation entirely (rarely an option)
2. Take diazepam (the wonder drug when things get really bad)
3. Push on through knowing the feeling will pass
When I'm at work option 3 is my only option.. by that point people have looked at me and thought "WTF is wrong with that guy?"
My first real panic attack was when I was 18 working as a shop assistant in a busy retail environment. The customer who I was serving looked at me got really angry and shouted in my face "YOU'RE NOT EVEN LISTENING, ARE YOU?" then continued to **** me off when I had to escape to the staff room.
A few years later I was at a metal gig in Glasgow, could feel the panic setting in before we arrived then by the time I got inside the venue I was ill. I remember going into the toilets, one guy looking at me, laughing then saying to his pal "did you see the look on that guys face?" pointing at me to save any doubt
Pretty sure both experiences contribute greatly to my social anxiety today.
Thinking back to when I was a kid this is something I have always suffered from - back before mental health was a thing and worthy of discussion
Until both became recognised medical conditions, I had no explanation to why I was feeling the way I did.
Now I have information, like minded friends and context, everything makes much more sense.
While depression is horrible I find it much more manageable than anxiety. While I'm having a panic attack there is no rationale - nothing can be said to change the way I feel.
Unfortunately I only have three coping mechanisms. If anyone has found others please share!
1. Remove myself from the situation entirely (rarely an option)
2. Take diazepam (the wonder drug when things get really bad)
3. Push on through knowing the feeling will pass
When I'm at work option 3 is my only option.. by that point people have looked at me and thought "WTF is wrong with that guy?"
My first real panic attack was when I was 18 working as a shop assistant in a busy retail environment. The customer who I was serving looked at me got really angry and shouted in my face "YOU'RE NOT EVEN LISTENING, ARE YOU?" then continued to **** me off when I had to escape to the staff room.
A few years later I was at a metal gig in Glasgow, could feel the panic setting in before we arrived then by the time I got inside the venue I was ill. I remember going into the toilets, one guy looking at me, laughing then saying to his pal "did you see the look on that guys face?" pointing at me to save any doubt
Pretty sure both experiences contribute greatly to my social anxiety today.
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bro your not alone, i went through hell and back, now I'm ok it can and will happen, Tyson fury is the ultimate example
Does anyone have any experience of finding CBT privately? After 18 months of psychodynamic counseling not making much of a dent I need to change. But it's a nightmare trying to find someone. Just endless lists of people on the BACP website which I'm really not sure I trust. Can it be done with an actual psychiatrist instead?
I suffer from generalised anxiety disorder which often leads to social anxiety, depending on my mood, mindset and who I'm in the company of. I also struggle with depression from time to time.
Thinking back to when I was a kid this is something I have always suffered from - back before mental health was a thing and worthy of discussion
Until both became recognised medical conditions, I had no explanation to why I was feeling the way I did.
Now I have information, like minded friends and context, everything makes much more sense.
While depression is horrible I find it much more manageable than anxiety. While I'm having a panic attack there is no rationale - nothing can be said to change the way I feel.
Unfortunately I only have three coping mechanisms. If anyone has found others please share!
1. Remove myself from the situation entirely (rarely an option)
2. Take diazepam (the wonder drug when things get really bad)
3. Push on through knowing the feeling will pass
When I'm at work option 3 is my only option.. by that point people have looked at me and thought "WTF is wrong with that guy?"
My first real panic attack was when I was 18 working as a shop assistant in a busy retail environment. The customer who I was serving looked at me got really angry and shouted in my face "YOU'RE NOT EVEN LISTENING, ARE YOU?" then continued to **** me off when I had to escape to the staff room.
A few years later I was at a metal gig in Glasgow, could feel the panic setting in before we arrived then by the time I got inside the venue I was ill. I remember going into the toilets, one guy looking at me, laughing then saying to his pal "did you see the look on that guys face?" pointing at me to save any doubt
Pretty sure both experiences contribute greatly to my social anxiety today.
Feel the same most of the time,
Unfortunately coping mechanism wise is the hardest part but i tell myself regularly now that its okay to let my guard down and let people see im not really okay. If i need to sit down i will, if i need 10 mins for a quick drink to relax i will go do so freely. Its all about understanding of your friends/colleagues and people around. More people than ever are starting to understand anxiety issues and its no longer just "made up".
Don't feel you have to hide a panic attack if your not okay u cannot help that. Have afew to relax and get yourself together and then carry on. Don't forget with employers they have to be seen to make reasonable adjustments for mental health and if you have a panic attack as long as u do anything management have informed you to do in such situation then they cannot hold it against you.
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I hope this doesn't come across as patronising but I've read the threads regarding what you have been through and I think you have done a great job just coming out the other side of it given what you have been dealt. I hope things look up for you soon.
Check into the persons background more, often if there on BACP then they will have a website you can dig into
I had Transactional Analysis therapy which i found online as i had childhood issues which cause a lot of my issues. Do a lot of digging online you will find someone who works for you
I'm just finding it impossible to choose. There's literally hundreds in London of varying price and description. I just want CBT, to be set homework and for someone to hold me accountable. I don't see how I can really learn what theyre like from a brief description on a website.
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Thanks bud and you’re completely right. Being honest, making others aware especially employers and colleagues lets you set your own boundaries and regain some control of the situation.
When I was 18 I put a face on to preserve credibility and ego. Now i’m 35 I think about all of this differently. I have friends who have gone through the absolute worst, yet have come out on top by admitting things weren’t right and getting help. One was brave enough to speak to charities, write to city councillors, politicians then featured in a damning report highlighting the lack of mental health services and professional support in her city. Change happened and continues to happen off the back of her efforts.
Speaking to others has made me realise, people with mental health conditions generally know more **** than those who don’t.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and all that.
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If the brief description on their website sounds like they might do what you want, contact them and arrange to phone with them, most will be happy to talk through how they work, ask what you're hoping to get from their help etc, and it'll give you a chance to get a feel for whether or not they are someone you could work with. We don't click with everyone we meet and it'll be the same with a counsellor, therapist etc but if you can find one that is a good fit for you it can do wonders.
Had a semi decent few days but woke this morning at 6am feeling really panicky and anxious. This Corona virus is not helping as I’m overthinking way too much. I do try and avoid as much as I can but I also like watching the news which it is all over so it’s difficult.
It is a blip and I’m trying to push on but it’s horrible when things have been not too bad for a few days but I suppose that’s the nature of the beast. I’m pretty sure if Corona was not around my Anxiety would have latched to something else as it has before. Just need to breath deep and keep moving forward.
Hope everyone is doing as best as they can.....
It is a blip and I’m trying to push on but it’s horrible when things have been not too bad for a few days but I suppose that’s the nature of the beast. I’m pretty sure if Corona was not around my Anxiety would have latched to something else as it has before. Just need to breath deep and keep moving forward.
Hope everyone is doing as best as they can.....
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I've gone through a fair few changes in the last year including moving to Scunthorpe with the Mrs (She's from here and moved back for family reasons) and left my friends behind in Manchester. We've now decided to split up and remain friends but it has been a difficult time for me. The only thing keeping me going has been being back at the gym again to increase my cycling fitness whilst its cold outside and windy, have also taken up Yoga which I'm finding useful for the quiet time as it's one of the few times I'm not really thinking about anything.
Really do feel a little lost and helpless at the moment and the Dr has doubled my Citalopram to 40mg which has helped but doesn't stop the depression, as someone mention previously it just helps keep the severe lows at bay. Financially I'm not in the best position and for the short-medium term at least a move back to Manchester is just going to be too stressful for me and I do really like my new job in Scunthorpe (Biomedical (Blood Sciences) Assisant so going to stay on and get my training done for that before considering any long term options.
A couple of friends now of my mental health issues and others now about the split, I struggle with telling one person everything but my friends have been brilliant and I'm going to visit Manchester as often as I can to help me a little more.
Really do feel a little lost and helpless at the moment and the Dr has doubled my Citalopram to 40mg which has helped but doesn't stop the depression, as someone mention previously it just helps keep the severe lows at bay. Financially I'm not in the best position and for the short-medium term at least a move back to Manchester is just going to be too stressful for me and I do really like my new job in Scunthorpe (Biomedical (Blood Sciences) Assisant so going to stay on and get my training done for that before considering any long term options.
A couple of friends now of my mental health issues and others now about the split, I struggle with telling one person everything but my friends have been brilliant and I'm going to visit Manchester as often as I can to help me a little more.
Have you looked into talking therapies ? Talking to someone who understands how you feel, What you are going through and can give advice and techniques to help you. In a lot of areas you can self refer or your Dr can refer if not. I have found it really helpful myself.
No, my Dr in Manchester did suggest it but I decided to try medication and opened up to a handful of friends about how I was feeling and had support from there. I do think that talking to someone may help though so will discuss it with my Dr if I continue to struggle. Feeling rather empty at times too and just have little interest in doin anything when I'm home. At work it's different but I guess that's because I'm accountable to someone else and pride myself on being as good a team member as possible, when it comes to helping myself I usually neglect it instead and don't have the desire. I'm hoping and think that after moving house tomorrow and when work becomes easier with more training that everything will settle down and be less overwhelming.
Definitely follow up the talking therapies or CBT I was very on the fence but found being able to talk openly about how you are feeling with a professional whom you do not really know a great help. Friends have been great too but in a different way if that makes sense. I found the combination of medication and talking therapies to be very effective.
Keep yourself busy but also accept that you will feel low at times and let it exist but not control you. I have found the key to be acceptance and allowing yourself to realise the anxiety/depression is there and should be acknowledged but not control you or stop you carrying on. I still find it really hard at times and I have setbacks but I have a lot of tools to help me through that I have learnt from therapy.
Moving house is stressful enough on its own and work and other stresses will add to that and before you know it you are overloaded. Once you have moved and settled hopefully a big stress will be removed so coping should be easier. It sounds like you enjoy your job so that’s good.
keep strong and remember when you feel your worst the only way you can go is up.
Keep yourself busy but also accept that you will feel low at times and let it exist but not control you. I have found the key to be acceptance and allowing yourself to realise the anxiety/depression is there and should be acknowledged but not control you or stop you carrying on. I still find it really hard at times and I have setbacks but I have a lot of tools to help me through that I have learnt from therapy.
Moving house is stressful enough on its own and work and other stresses will add to that and before you know it you are overloaded. Once you have moved and settled hopefully a big stress will be removed so coping should be easier. It sounds like you enjoy your job so that’s good.
keep strong and remember when you feel your worst the only way you can go is up.