The Rise of Lonely Single Straight Men

arknor said:
It's amazing how women can over look any faults in a guy as long as they can pay for everything.


It still seems rare for men to do it but there's been a few younger guys dating old women in the papers in the last decade, I don't even think they were rich just people who owned their own house :eek: and probably had a little bit in savings

Maybe it's a good strat must be a few million old biddies living alone with only 10-20 years left that own a house worth 400k or whatever.

get with them, get married look after them for their last 10-20 years and inherit the wealth, then use that wealth to hook up with a young one after.

They probably don't even want much more than someone to be around and stop them feeling so lonely.


loads of old married couples sleep in separate beds anyway? so you could probably convince them thats normal :p
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Single men are where they're supposed to be. I was single for about 5 years after my first proper long term relationship failed in my late 20s. I wanted to date women, but did nothing to make it happen, I just went about hoping it would happen instead of creating opportunities.

I began online dating in my early 30s and had lots of dates. Sometimes we hit it off, sometimes we didn't. Sometimes she didn't like me, sometimes it was vice versa. I worked on just enjoying dating women and having fun while looking for a long term relationship.

I'm 45 now and have been with my partner (who I met via a dating site) for 8 years. We're happy together, so all good, but I tremendously enjoyed dating lots of women in my 30s when I knew what I was doing!

Single men who are complaining about not being able to date women need to make the changes necessary to be happy in their own skin, confident around women and not afraid of rejection. They need to make themselves datable.
 
arknor said:
Maybe it's a good strat must be a few million old biddies living alone with only 10-20 years left that own a house worth 400k or whatever.

get with them, get married look after them for their last 10-20 years and inherit the wealth, then use that wealth to hook up with a young one after.
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As a point of note, this used to be commonplace for young women in Europe well into the 1800s: they would marry an older man who would live for a decade or so to care for him in his dotage then he would die and she would inherit and become a very eligible lady. Unfortunately sometimes the old goat would live into his 90s!
 
bainbridge said:
Single men are where they're supposed to be. I was single for about 5 years after my first proper long term relationship failed in my late 20s. I wanted to date women, but did nothing to make it happen, I just went about hoping it would happen instead of creating opportunities.

I began online dating in my early 30s and had lots of dates. Sometimes we hit it off, sometimes we didn't. Sometimes she didn't like me, sometimes it was vice versa. I worked on just enjoying dating women and having fun while looking for a long term relationship.

I'm 45 now and have been with my partner (who I met via a dating site) for 8 years. We're happy together, so all good, but I tremendously enjoyed dating lots of women in my 30s when I knew what I was doing!

Single men who are complaining about not being able to date women need to make the changes necessary to be happy in their own skin, confident around women and not afraid of rejection. They need to make themselves datable.
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I can see the appeal in all honesty.

I've told my other half that if anything was to happen to her I wouldn't want to meet anyone else, I just want to be left the **** alone.
 
bainbridge said:
Single men are where they're supposed to be. I was single for about 5 years after my first proper long term relationship failed in my late 20s. I wanted to date women, but did nothing to make it happen, I just went about hoping it would happen instead of creating opportunities.

I began online dating in my early 30s and had lots of dates. Sometimes we hit it off, sometimes we didn't. Sometimes she didn't like me, sometimes it was vice versa. I worked on just enjoying dating women and having fun while looking for a long term relationship.

I'm 45 now and have been with my partner (who I met via a dating site) for 8 years. We're happy together, so all good, but I tremendously enjoyed dating lots of women in my 30s when I knew what I was doing!

Single men who are complaining about not being able to date women need to make the changes necessary to be happy in their own skin, confident around women and not afraid of rejection. They need to make themselves datable.
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Online dating was very different 8-15 years ago.
 
SPG said:
Bang on about the nails. Unless of course she has a Russian accent and therefore minted or with connections. Either way best avoided.


Duck lips
Nails
Huge fake boobs
Small dogs
The colour pink
Any clothing item that says boutique.
Long hair.
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Just described the last girl I dated.

Boobs on finance of course, not a bad job either and lives with her mum. So no idea why she can't save enough to buy them outright - probably spent on clothes and the small dog.
 
bainbridge said:
Really?

Admittedly I'm out of the loop, but I don't think it would be different.

Can you enlighten me?
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It really is, when you get older the whole thing changes. I get messages offering to be my sugar baby, loads and loads of profiles with what they wont accept (mostly, no tories, minimum heights, must be funny, must be adventurous etc) whilst unwilling to do most of these things themselves. Been blocked for asking simple questions, like 'So how long are you travelling for?'. One girl was house sitting, which was confusing and when I questioned she just got very hostile. This isn't one instance, it's repeated behaviour. I mean, maybe it's me but it seems common amongst any peers my age who are also single.

Girls claiming they're average (or literally writing 5 or 6/10 - whilst very seriously obese.)

Turned up to many dates where the girl was no where near their online persona (or weight). One girl was nowhere near what she looked like, I'm sure it might not even been her photos. That was easily the worst date I'd ever been on.

When I've jokingly entertained the sugar baby thing, they're legit wanting £500+ sent to them for no reason. So many folk living this disilliousned life that they don't need to do anything.
 
Begbie said:
It really is, when you get older the whole thing changes. I get messages offering to be my sugar baby, loads and loads of profiles with what they wont accept (mostly, no tories, minimum heights, must be funny, must be adventurous etc) whilst unwilling to do most of these things themselves. Been blocked for asking simple questions, like 'So how long are you travelling for?'. One girl was house sitting, which was confusing and when I questioned she just got very hostile. This isn't one instance, it's repeated behaviour. I mean, maybe it's me but it seems common amongst any peers my age who are also single.

Girls claiming they're average (or literally writing 5 or 6/10 - whilst very seriously obese.)

Turned up to many dates where the girl was no where near their online persona (or weight). One girl was nowhere near what she looked like, I'm sure it might not even been her photos. That was easily the worst date I'd ever been on.

When I've jokingly entertained the sugar baby thing, they're legit wanting £500+ sent to them for no reason. So many folk living this disilliousned life that they don't need to do anything.
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I'd like to read more of your experiences, it's a slow day!
 
Begbie said:
Just described the last girl I dated.

Boobs on finance of course, not a bad job either and lives with her mum. So no idea why she can't save enough to buy them outright - probably spent on clothes and the small dog.
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Sounds like she has no father in her life or any male role model as that's a stupid way to manage their life.
 
Bassmansam said:
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If the guy on the right sorted out his hair and got some more sun (and sleep!) then actually, why not?

Problem is, lack of confidence makes you feel like it's not worth bothering to make an effort, so you don't, which results in looking like ****, which knocks your confidence more, which means you make even less effort... and repeat. Been there, done that, it's not an easy rut to get out of, but it is possible.
 
Haggisman said:
If the guy on the right sorted out his hair and got some more sun (and sleep!) then actually, why not?

Problem is, lack of confidence makes you feel like it's not worth bothering to make an effort, so you don't, which results in looking like ****, which knocks your confidence more, which means you make even less effort... and repeat. Been there, done that, it's not an easy rut to get out of, but it is possible.
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Yep. The guy on the right could make a lot more of himself with a good diet, exercise, decent haircut and (can't see his clothes) dressing well. David Gandy on the left is a professional model so while he obviously started life with an advantage, had worked to improve even that starting point.
 
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