Don't underestimate how scary it can be shaving your head for the first time. Personally I love my head shaved now, but it's scary the first time. But just go for it. if you don't like it then you can always grow it back out again. Also don't be surprised that your head looks really bright white; it hasn't been getting as much sun as the rest of your face so it will take a couple of weeks to even out.
The Rise of Lonely Single Straight Men
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Agreed. Over the past year or so I slowy went down from a 3 to a 1, did that in sync with growing out my beard a bit.
Was kind of silly in hindsight but people would always mention my beard growing out and not really my short hair. Eventually I mentioned my short hair in passing and everyone said "oh yeah, probably because of the bald patch you had coming at the back? The beard was just so much more interesting to bring up".
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I think we're in an age where women don't *need* a man so they are far more selective about who they want to be with. They don't need a man to get a home, to meet any social norms etc. Men are in an era that's different, where we do need to excel in all sorts of areas to get a partner due to this - and we can be a lazy bunch and rather than sorting ourselves out we want to rage about the way things are.
We need to think about how we view women, and how they view us. If you scoff Greggs pasties all day, are on a low income, don't look after yourself, etc etc why would a woman want you to be their partner if there's no pressure on them to take a partner?
We need to think about how we view women, and how they view us. If you scoff Greggs pasties all day, are on a low income, don't look after yourself, etc etc why would a woman want you to be their partner if there's no pressure on them to take a partner?
Good for you bud. Give it your all and although it may seem like an effort at first you'll soon settle down into a routine. There is someone out there for everyone, I truly believe that. You just have to make yourself available and open enough to spark that first conversation.
Let us all know how you get on
Soldato
I remember an ex back in the day playing this on the jukebox for my benefit ,took it as a backhanded compliment tbh.............
still, could have been a copy of American psycho
he has the Bateman look - a bit of make-up, side-burns to accentuate cheek-bones, photo-shop for skin tone, narrow his eyes -and ... voila
( social media seems responsible for propagating this young female derivative look, not a symbol of their individuality; in future generations will be seen like the Georgians almost Geisha;
ex?trend for beards seems only male reciprocation. )
thought it was going to be a trick question and the guy on the right was the model, 10 years ago,
he has the Bateman look - a bit of make-up, side-burns to accentuate cheek-bones, photo-shop for skin tone, narrow his eyes -and ... voila
( social media seems responsible for propagating this young female derivative look, not a symbol of their individuality; in future generations will be seen like the Georgians almost Geisha;
ex?trend for beards seems only male reciprocation. )
Soldato
Yup - the opposite of what I posted earlier is also true. Make a bit of effort and notice you get a bit more attention, the odd compliment - it boosts your confidence so you feel like making more of an effort, and so repeat.
Also smile more
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Good on you for taking the advice, don’t skimp on the skincare though, it’s very important and too many men skimp on it.
I did it on halloween for the first time, just in case
Tbh the great thing about shaving it off is that you can now indulge in collecting a variety of hats for all seasons and occasions
Get yourself some tweezers @nlel1975 and part the hairy sea. I'm a fellow Monobrowian and do the same.
This is subjective, but I would forego the hair clippers and go straight to a wet shave, a zero clip would feel too long for me now. It's also easy to do in the shower, with no mess to clean up.
I may still be an ugly mother trucker, but a shaved head, trimmed/separated brow and beard has significantly helped with my confidence.
This is subjective, but I would forego the hair clippers and go straight to a wet shave, a zero clip would feel too long for me now. It's also easy to do in the shower, with no mess to clean up.
I may still be an ugly mother trucker, but a shaved head, trimmed/separated brow and beard has significantly helped with my confidence.
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Whats causing the punched in the eye effect?
I’ve got a little fatty deposit under my left eye, it’s supposed to be a sign of high cholesterol. There’s a name for it which I can’t remember. It’s possible to have it removed apparently.
Have you looked at your diet? Added fitness, bet it'd improve.
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Social media has become very efficient at showing women what they could have won.
Any man resting on his laurels nowadays can expect to lose his kids and 50% of his **** and to find his ex wife shacked up with someone better looking by Christmas.
Any man resting on his laurels nowadays can expect to lose his kids and 50% of his **** and to find his ex wife shacked up with someone better looking by Christmas.
Perhaps some men are happy to be alone and single given the alternative above. Being in a relationship can be quite risky these days with the risk/reward aspect erring towards risk.
Besides, being alone does not mean being lonely.
Soldato
Precisely.
I'm happy doing my own thing. I try to look after myself, not to impress a woman, but to make me feel better/healthier. It's the wrong motivation if you're doing it to impress, you need to want to improve within yourself first.
I do what I enjoy hobbies wise. If they aren't deemed attractive by women, then I'm afraid it's tough **** because I'm not going to stop because someone else thinks they are geeky etc. Equally I'm not going to start doing things I have no interest in either, just because it looks good on an online dating profile.
There are more single and happy men than single and happy women. Thats shown with the amount of single women who are on anti-depressants.
Think it's men and women.
Both are more content than in the past to be single long term.
Let's face it, for all the issues in the world we are now a lot more accepting of going off the traditional family path.
I do think that social media/dating apps etc have raised people's standards. If this is emotional/personality it's a good thing. But a large part will be physical too.
If people want to hold out for a better looking model though.. Looks fade.
For me I'd plan to stay single simply as life is easier. No need to plan, no worries about splitting up and mortgage splitting etc etc. It's lonelier but easier.
Both are more content than in the past to be single long term.
Let's face it, for all the issues in the world we are now a lot more accepting of going off the traditional family path.
I do think that social media/dating apps etc have raised people's standards. If this is emotional/personality it's a good thing. But a large part will be physical too.
If people want to hold out for a better looking model though.. Looks fade.
For me I'd plan to stay single simply as life is easier. No need to plan, no worries about splitting up and mortgage splitting etc etc. It's lonelier but easier.