The Rise of Lonely Single Straight Men

I know this is the single male thread, but though I would offer some balance/laughs from stories my sister keeps telling me about weird guys that she keeps meeting via dating sites.

Context - She's 44, With 22 year old son and 16 year old son. She recently left a long term relationship.

1) She went on a few dates with a guy, and it seemed to be going well. Eventually she asked him around to her house. My sister answered the door and this guy turned up with another woman sat in his car. My sister couldn't understand why he bought another woman along to a date, and this "friend" of his was equally baffled as to why she was there because the guy had just told her they had been invited as a couple to a new friend of his. Turns out he was hoping for a threesome, despite not telling either lady anything about it. His "friend" was absolutely appalled as it turns out she had recently started dating this same guy. My sister didn't even let him in the door.

2) She went on quite a lot of dates with decent looking bloke (I've seen a picture), who sounded like he had his head screwed on, had a business of his own (barbers) and was a similar age to her. However a few alarm bells rang when he told her he had been engaged 14 times. Even more alarm bells went off when she was feeling tired one night and didn't fancy going out. This bloke didn't believe her and wanted a video call to confirm she was at her house! (She was). Despite this she continued to see him until the other day he asked her for £2000 to pay his rent!

3) She met a guy and they want for a walk together. The guy spoke only about his recently deceased wife, and at the end my sister said "Look you clearly haven't gotten over the death of your wife" and he said "My parents thought I should get out dating again"!

4) Finally, the other day she met a teacher who seemed a bit boring but she said the date went well. A few days later he messaged her admitting he was in to "dogging and swinging". She won't be seeing him again.
 
VincentHanna said:
I know this is the single male thread, but though I would offer some balance/laughs from stories my sister keeps telling me about weird guys that she keeps meeting via dating sites.

Context - She's 44, With 22 year old son and 16 year old son. She recently left a long term relationship.

1) She went on a few dates with a guy, and it seemed to be going well. Eventually she asked him around to her house. My sister answered the door and this guy turned up with another woman sat in his car. My sister couldn't understand why he bought another woman along to a date, and this "friend" of his was equally baffled as to why she was there because the guy had just told her they had been invited as a couple to a new friend of his. Turns out he was hoping for a threesome, despite not telling either lady anything about it. His "friend" was absolutely appalled as it turns out she had recently started dating this same guy. My sister didn't even let him in the door.

2) She went on quite a lot of dates with decent looking bloke (I've seen a picture), who sounded like he had his head screwed on, had a business of his own (barbers) and was a similar age to her. However a few alarm bells rang when he told her he had been engaged 14 times. Even more alarm bells went off when she was feeling tired one night and didn't fancy going out. This bloke didn't believe her and wanted a video call to confirm she was at her house! (She was). Despite this she continued to see him until the other day he asked her for £2000 to pay his rent!

3) She met a guy and they want for a walk together. The guy spoke only about his recently deceased wife, and at the end my sister said "Look you clearly haven't gotten over the death of your wife" and he said "My parents thought I should get out dating again"!

4) Finally, the other day she met a teacher who seemed a bit boring but she said the date went well. A few days later he messaged her admitting he was in to "dogging and swinging". She won't be seeing him again.
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Can't help that some are just mentally ill and lack common sense and intelligence to understand what a long term relationship needs.
I guess some people truly are stupid in that area.

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VincentHanna said:
I know this is the single male thread, but though I would offer some balance/laughs from stories my sister keeps telling me about weird guys that she keeps meeting via dating sites.

Context - She's 44, With 22 year old son and 16 year old son. She recently left a long term relationship.

1) She went on a few dates with a guy, and it seemed to be going well. Eventually she asked him around to her house. My sister answered the door and this guy turned up with another woman sat in his car. My sister couldn't understand why he bought another woman along to a date, and this "friend" of his was equally baffled as to why she was there because the guy had just told her they had been invited as a couple to a new friend of his. Turns out he was hoping for a threesome, despite not telling either lady anything about it. His "friend" was absolutely appalled as it turns out she had recently started dating this same guy. My sister didn't even let him in the door.

2) She went on quite a lot of dates with decent looking bloke (I've seen a picture), who sounded like he had his head screwed on, had a business of his own (barbers) and was a similar age to her. However a few alarm bells rang when he told her he had been engaged 14 times. Even more alarm bells went off when she was feeling tired one night and didn't fancy going out. This bloke didn't believe her and wanted a video call to confirm she was at her house! (She was). Despite this she continued to see him until the other day he asked her for £2000 to pay his rent!

3) She met a guy and they want for a walk together. The guy spoke only about his recently deceased wife, and at the end my sister said "Look you clearly haven't gotten over the death of your wife" and he said "My parents thought I should get out dating again"!

4) Finally, the other day she met a teacher who seemed a bit boring but she said the date went well. A few days later he messaged her admitting he was in to "dogging and swinging". She won't be seeing him again.
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Pics with Hovis so we can balance this thread out with all the single men photos
 
People have become too picky with the age of the internet and dating apps, insta etc. Expectations are too high. Divorce used to be a taboo subject but now, it sometimes feels like I know more divorced people than I don't, so people accept it and don't want to work through difficult relationships and instead just get a divorce coz... "life's too short" mentality. People go out less and work from home more. We form less relationships generally, especially with the opposite sex as we don't end up places in common where we are around each other for them to form.

Instead, the emphasis is to go on a date, which right from the off sets behaviours which are not necessarily normal and are altered for said date, which puts more pressure on it. I also think with the rise of dating apps, there is always that thought that there are plenty more fish in the sea, since that "sea" is so easily accessible for the next date. It makes for a landscape these days where longer term relationships just aren't as appealing or expected, especially for those thought of as "older" which increasingly these days seems to be becoming a lower and lower age. It feels like anyone past 30 these days is viewed differently.
 
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VincentHanna said:
I know this is the single male thread, but though I would offer some balance/laughs from stories my sister keeps telling me about weird guys that she keeps meeting via dating sites.

Context - She's 44, With 22 year old son and 16 year old son. She recently left a long term relationship.

1) She went on a few dates with a guy, and it seemed to be going well. Eventually she asked him around to her house. My sister answered the door and this guy turned up with another woman sat in his car. My sister couldn't understand why he bought another woman along to a date, and this "friend" of his was equally baffled as to why she was there because the guy had just told her they had been invited as a couple to a new friend of his. Turns out he was hoping for a threesome, despite not telling either lady anything about it. His "friend" was absolutely appalled as it turns out she had recently started dating this same guy. My sister didn't even let him in the door.

2) She went on quite a lot of dates with decent looking bloke (I've seen a picture), who sounded like he had his head screwed on, had a business of his own (barbers) and was a similar age to her. However a few alarm bells rang when he told her he had been engaged 14 times. Even more alarm bells went off when she was feeling tired one night and didn't fancy going out. This bloke didn't believe her and wanted a video call to confirm she was at her house! (She was). Despite this she continued to see him until the other day he asked her for £2000 to pay his rent!

3) She met a guy and they want for a walk together. The guy spoke only about his recently deceased wife, and at the end my sister said "Look you clearly haven't gotten over the death of your wife" and he said "My parents thought I should get out dating again"!

4) Finally, the other day she met a teacher who seemed a bit boring but she said the date went well. A few days later he messaged her admitting he was in to "dogging and swinging". She won't be seeing him again.
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Whatever dating apps your sister is using. She needs to stop using them, clearly full of weird men. :D

jaybee said:
Instead, the emphasis is to go on a date, which right from the off sets behaviours which are not necessarily normal and are altered for said date, which puts more pressure on it. I also think with the rise of dating apps, there is always that thought that there are plenty more fish in the sea, since that "sea" is so easily accessible for the next date. It makes for a landscape these days where longer term relationships just aren't as appealing or expected, especially for those thought of as "older" which increasingly these days seems to be becoming a lower and lower age. It feels like anyone past 30 these days is viewed differently.
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Dating apps only gives the illusion of choice but its never a true reflection of the amount of dates which actually happen. Never mind, which turns out to be successful.
 
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VincentHanna said:
I know this is the single male thread, but though I would offer some balance/laughs from stories my sister keeps telling me about weird guys that she keeps meeting via dating sites.

Context - She's 44, With 22 year old son and 16 year old son. She recently left a long term relationship.

1) She went on a few dates with a guy, and it seemed to be going well. Eventually she asked him around to her house. My sister answered the door and this guy turned up with another woman sat in his car. My sister couldn't understand why he bought another woman along to a date, and this "friend" of his was equally baffled as to why she was there because the guy had just told her they had been invited as a couple to a new friend of his. Turns out he was hoping for a threesome, despite not telling either lady anything about it. His "friend" was absolutely appalled as it turns out she had recently started dating this same guy. My sister didn't even let him in the door.

2) She went on quite a lot of dates with decent looking bloke (I've seen a picture), who sounded like he had his head screwed on, had a business of his own (barbers) and was a similar age to her. However a few alarm bells rang when he told her he had been engaged 14 times. Even more alarm bells went off when she was feeling tired one night and didn't fancy going out. This bloke didn't believe her and wanted a video call to confirm she was at her house! (She was). Despite this she continued to see him until the other day he asked her for £2000 to pay his rent!

3) She met a guy and they want for a walk together. The guy spoke only about his recently deceased wife, and at the end my sister said "Look you clearly haven't gotten over the death of your wife" and he said "My parents thought I should get out dating again"!

4) Finally, the other day she met a teacher who seemed a bit boring but she said the date went well. A few days later he messaged her admitting he was in to "dogging and swinging". She won't be seeing him again.
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What dating sites is she using?!
 
Guys and girls like that on apps/sites exist in droves sadly. My mrs pretty much gave up on them purely because the number of weird people messaging/stalking or basically just plain wronguns was unreal,

Dating apps are quite funny though, I remember one I matched with who didn't have much or a profile description other than job being a lawyer, so naturally I asked about what field, how long etc given that was the only real info to go off, a good way to start.... "why do people always ask about my job first it's really off putting"

I'm like.... *unmatch* after saying something along the lines of why not actually put some useful details about yourself in your profile then so people have a grasp of what things can start a conversation about, nobody has a crystal ball.

Another one once told me there's no way I am 5ft 8" tall because when we met, I was apparently barely taller than her (she was 5ft 2") - I told her that next time she goes to meet a guy then take a tape measure along because her spacial awareness for judging the size of things is toilet. On the flipside my mrs thought I was actually taller than 5ft 8" but that was before I took off my high heels for the night.

A lot of people are up themselves or have a major insecurity complex on these apps/sites.
 
mrk said:
Guys and girls like that on apps/sites exist in droves sadly. My mrs pretty much gave up on them purely because the number of weird people messaging/stalking or basically just plain wronguns was unreal,

Dating apps are quite funny though, I remember one I matched with who didn't have much or a profile description other than job being a lawyer, so naturally I asked about what field, how long etc given that was the only real info to go off, a good way to start.... "why do people always ask about my job first it's really off putting"

I'm like.... *unmatch* after saying something along the lines of why not actually put some useful details about yourself in your profile then so people have a grasp of what things can start a conversation about, nobody has a crystal ball.

Another one once told me there's no way I am 5ft 8" tall because when we met, I was apparently barely taller than her (she was 5ft 2") - I told her that next time she goes to meet a guy then take a tape measure along because her spacial awareness for judging the size of things is toilet. On the flipside my mrs thought I was actually taller than 5ft 8" but that was before I took off my high heels for the night.

A lot of people are up themselves or have a major insecurity complex on these apps/sites.
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It's scary and sad how many unpleasant people there are around.

The last time I nearly went on a date last year, the guy seemed ok.

We got talking when I was out walking my very new mini sausage puppy and he asked for my number.

The first and only red flag I needed, was after one week of texting back and forth, he wrote that he missed me!!

I was like, hell NO.
 
Thing is she is 44 so I guess she is looking for guys similar age. Most of the decent guys at that age will be happily married and tied down. At this point of the spectrum you will end up with the complete weirdo's that still live with their mum or have gone through countless relationships because they are just plain weird.
 
Tired9 said:
Song for you sorrowful singles.


It's not a **** take, the songs message is to stop thinking and do stuff, online dating is not in person..

Also one of the most amazing female vocals of all time.

;)

Read about Laura Branigan, amazing woman.

Hopefully it inspires.

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This is the ultimate single mans video.

 
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