What is defined as cheating?

Neodite said:
Im willing to bet you spent more time flirting with other women more than you flirted with your gf... just because you with them, dont mean the fun stops, have fun with your partner, not other people
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Suppose it depends on your level of flirting. Rude jokes was about as far as I'd ever go.
 
I would class cheating as from Kissing to going all the way as you only flirt when you want something.
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But that "want something" isn't always sex you know. I flirt for many reasons.

1: To get served quicker at a bar.
2: To get good service in a restaurant.
3: To get good advice when buying something from a shop.
4: To get a good deal when buying something from a shop.
5: When requesting a favour from someone (works a charm on my wifes sister - free babysitting!).

ETC.

None of the above I would consider cheating.

Are you serious
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Yes, I asked my wifes sister out before I met my wife. The sister was in a relationship at the time (I didn't know) so it's obvious to my wife that I find her sister physically attractive. I'd never act on it now though and my wife knows this. Doesn't mean we don't have the odd joke about it though. My wife also went out with my best mate for a few months - I have no worries about her going back to him (maybe because he's engaged to my wifes sister! haha, makes it sound like we all live in a small Welsh village with only 10 residents!).
 
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sara said:
3) Feminine-Wiles Flirting - come on guys, if you could bat your eyelashes and lean a bit further forward at a bar to get served faster - you would.
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On one hand I'm glad I no longer drink.

On the other, I'm even more keen to get bar work :).
 
amigafan2003 said:
Yes, I asked my wifes sister out before I met my wife. The sister was in a relationship at the time (I didn't know) so it's obvious to my wife that I find her sister physically attractive. I'd never act on it now though as my wife knows this. Doesn't mean we don't have the odd joke about it though.
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This. I guess some people just aren't as secure and trusting in their relationships as others.
 
Would be interested to know the female perspective on the whole sexual innuendo stuff, I never do it as all the women I have ever hung around with look and act in an uncomfortable manner when someone makes that kind of comment, and generally they are a little silly as well. What do the women here think?
 
If it was flirting with a mate and I knew she meant nothing by it, i wouldn't mind, its flirting with people she doesn't know which really winds me up...I dont know what my wife is like when she is out with her mates and not me, but it's something you have to live with and trust comes into it...
 
It's not always how much flirting you do either tho, its how much attention you show them, while doing it, freindly or not
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This is true. If you're out with your wife/gf but pay more attention to your female friend then you have problems.
 
I'm suprised that majority of the lads here thinking gf flirting with another male is ok :confused:
 
stinamoo said:
Depends on the comment, and the (seeming) intent. I'd be uncomfortable if I thought someone was being pervy or creepy, but my housemates get away with saying some shocking things because they're funny and I know they don't mean any of it.
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really, they do mean it :o
 
anticonscience said:
Would be interested to know the female perspective on the whole sexual innuendo stuff, I never do it as all the women I have ever hung around with look and act in an uncomfortable manner when someone makes that kind of comment, and generally they are a little silly as well. What do the women here think?
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Me and a guy I used to work with would have little competitions to see who could get in the most innuendos throughout the day. It was quite funny, mine were always tame compared to his, but I know how the male mind works so I just laughed it off!
 
I cant believe that some people dont trust there other halfs to do a little flirting, its just harmless fun, what a boring world we would live in if no one ever flirted :(
 
vonhelmet said:
Doing something you wouldn't do if your other half was there is cheating. If they'd be fine with it, it's not cheating. This is of course very subjective, so you better be sure of your partner's views before you start messing about.
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Pretty much this. So it really is going to depend on the couple.
 
Some people here should join the American Anti flirt group :-)

1. Don't flirt: those who flirt in haste oft repent in leisure.
2. Don't accept rides from flirting motorists - they don't invite you in to save you a walk.
3. Don't use your eyes for ogling - they were made for worthier purposes.
4. Don't go out with men you don't know - they may be married, and you may be in for a hair-pulling match.
5. Don't wink - a flutter of one eye may cause a tear in the other.
6. Don't smile at flirtatious strangers- save them for people you know.
7. Don't annex all the men you can get - by flirting with many you may lose out on the one.
8. Don't fall for the slick, dandified cake eater - the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.
9. Don't let elderly men with an eye to a flirtation pat you on the shoulder and take a fatherly interest in you. Those are usually the kind who want to forget they are fathers.
10. Don't ignore the man you are sure of while you flirt with another. When you return to the first one you may find him gone.
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sara said:
There are different /kinds/ of flirting, fo' sho'.

1) Carry-On Flirting - you know, making innuendos out of anything. Nudge-nudge, wink-wink, say no more! Oo-err missus.

2) Joke-Flirting With People Who'd Knowingly Never Get It - I do this a lot as a joke with workmates (most of whom are 40+, married with children), or some older gentlemen (like really old, 60/70+) because it gives them a nice little twinkle in their eye..!

3) Feminine-Wiles Flirting - come on guys, if you could bat your eyelashes and lean a bit further forward at a bar to get served faster - you would.

4) Flirting With Intent - because you really fancy someone, want them to flirt back, want to be suggestive and hopefully engage in some other, closer activity. This is the one that's cheating. Also known as 'leading someone on'.
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Totally agree with this, only the 4th one is bad if you're in a relationship. Low cut tops and standing on my toes have helped me get served in many a busy pub ;).

I count cheating as anything physical. I caught a friend kissing someone other than his girlfriend once, and when I confronted him he said that kissing didn't count as cheating, only sex did :eek:.
 
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