Who has cheated on a partner and why?

Hey hello everyone. This is El'.
In response to the OP, well i do it for the following reason.
1, im a sex nut, my highest count was 4 diff ladies in a day and known of them knows
2, Im young, wild crazy and because i can so why not?
3, I get easily bored and need a different feel after a while.
4, There is more females in the Uk than males so it can only be right.
5, The dawg in me is untamed and wild.
 
Otacon said:
Like I say, I've never done it, but I dont think anyone can definitively answer the question - because we cannot predict the circumstance.
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Ah Mr. Otacon I disagree :) I can say for sure that while I know what i'm doing i.e. no one has drugged my drink or anything lol i'd never cheat on anyone. I wouldn't drink myself to the state where I can't remember or control what I did (never have done yet anyway despite all ya old stories :p). And if I was still in a relationship and two sexy young women were offering it all to me on a plate, i'd still rather go home and get it from the mrs. and then have the feel good factor too :D

I appreciate what you're saying though. Its like stealing. Most people wouldnt even think about it, but if you were dying of starvation then stealing some food to live wouldnt seem like a bad thing. The trick is, don't get yourself into that situation ;) We all have control of our own lives.

EDIT: oh and while sex is a great thing, its by no means life threatening to most if we dont get it for a little while or have it with the same person :p So its not even comparable to stealing then lol.
 
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Iv cheated, never been caught though, i was certain i wouldnt aswell so i wasnt botherd in the slightest, why, because im young and not at the stage where i care about things like that, so knew id never feel any guilt about it, and it was hella good
 
Old Turkey said:
I find this whole ritual soooooo ........ whats the word to describe it ..... ceremonial ... its a mere formality if truth be told.

If you're in a relationship and you fall for someone else, what difference does it make whether you sleep with that person before or after you end the relationship you're in now? Chances are you will break their Heart either way. I mean, after all, after you breakup you're going to go and sleep with that person right away anyway. How does it differ from sleeping with them before hand then slinging in the towel with the relationship you were in?
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WantoN said:
It comes down to respect, pure and simple, if you can't grasp that than you obviously never offer nor receive it.
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I think hes right there, its the respect for someone you have when in a relationship, surely a shred of decency remains for you to feel for the person, unless its in a drunken stupour (I dont believe anyone is in control of their actions under the influence) then even if its only a fleeting thought you should appreciate what your about to do to someone, what commitments and promises your about to violate.

Your right Old Turkey, it is ceremonial but at the same time its acknowledging to your partnet that that commitment is over, both parties should be clear of the situation before pursuing other matters.
 
A-n-d-y said:
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Thats a really bad way to find out,possibly the worst way.

But on the other hand...new girl= shhhhhhhhhhawing. :D
 
MarkyMark said:
Ah Mr. Otacon I disagree :) I can say for sure that while I know what i'm doing i.e. no one has drugged my drink or anything lol i'd never cheat on anyone. I wouldn't drink myself to the state where I can't remember or control what I did (never have done yet anyway despite all ya old stories :p).
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Interesting that drink keeps getting brought up to provide circumstance, I guess that's because it's most common.

Did you read my post here? Could you say yourself that it wouldn't have happened?

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The trick is, don't get yourself into that situation ;)
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That is indeed the trick... for what we can control. Life has a habit of throwing you curve balls when you either dont need it, or dont expect it. I'd like to think I could remain faithful in whatever circumstance... But I cannot presume to dismiss all circumstances, because it is impossible.
 
This area of dicussion can land people & individuals in hot water ! !
I have noticed when i go out that girls are more aggressive on number of things, drink, vocalness, and yes some male totty !
Men on the other hand have seem to have clamed some what in Ladish behaivour !
This could be a sign of the times and the changing roles of gender, though i thing us men should be men, and act like men. if catch your partner cheating then its the door, with a suit case.
Plus in these times it seems very easy for people to throw in the towel on relationships, as there is more choice now, and people like to have a choice. B
ware though the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence, though it by e high maintenance grass, everything comes with a price !!
if you have a partner now, then do more things with them, go on that holiday to Asia, take up salsa dancing, join the gym together.
Do more together and enjoy one another more, do not seek things in others, as they will have attributes you will not like, for me its smoking !
 
KaHn said:
I dont want to be a grammar nazi, but that was really hard to read.

KaHn
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LOL :p


Otacon said:
That is indeed the trick... for what we can control. Life has a habit of throwing you curve balls when you either dont need it, or dont expect it. I'd like to think I could remain faithful in whatever circumstance... But I cannot presume to dismiss all circumstances, because it is impossible.
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Exactly my thoughts as I said here
 
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-Mic- said:
Thats a really bad way to find out,possibly the worst way.

But on the other hand...new girl= shhhhhhhhhhawing. :D
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I had the best time iv had in a long long time last night.

I took her back to the train station this morning before i went to work as she lives about 40 miles from me and we have been texting each other all day and we are seeing each other again this weekend:)

I cant remember if i said in my other post in this thread but i met this girl on the net. IV been up pretty much till 5AM everynight talking to her for the last week:)
 
Otacon said:
Interesting that drink keeps getting brought up to provide circumstance, I guess that's because it's most common.

Did you read my post here? Could you say yourself that it wouldn't have happened?


That is indeed the trick... for what we can control. Life has a habit of throwing you curve balls when you either dont need it, or dont expect it. I'd like to think I could remain faithful in whatever circumstance... But I cannot presume to dismiss all circumstances, because it is impossible.
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Yeah Alcohol would seem to give people the apparent best excuse so thats why I brought it up again :) Also emphasising that you saw how much I used to drink and how many times did I stray :) Zero. How many times did I want to stray......Zero.........when we used to talk after the gym about stuff in my relationship, how many times did I even think about straying, despite current circumstances........zero \:D/

As for your other post yeah I did. And I really dont mean to offend you but you know the kind of person that I am. I agree that that is a really bad situation to be in but knowing me like you do in those circumstances sex would be the last thing on my mind. I would be thinking how to move on and start trying to build a life again so to speak. Christmas 05 was a crap time for me as you well know (nothing like what ya mate experienced though) but I can't think of one time I thought about sex with everything going on. So whether I was with the said ex or not, with everything else going on and all the other problems with my mum etc. I wouldnt have contemplated cheating cause sex wouldnt change anything.

I recon this is all rabble lol, but basically what i'm saying is is that how can sex be a relief to all lifes stresses and make people want to cheat. I know it will for some people dont get me wrong. Afterall, I used to eat constantly when stressed. But on the whole, I cant see it. Its like saying, everythings gone wrong, lets get drunk lol. It doesnt help in the long run, just makes you feel good for the moment and THATs the choice people make. Temporary joy or long term happines :)
 
Sorry for the grammer, I was typing at work. Which very busy at the moment. Will hopefully less busyer in Feb, so will be albe to write some better threads.
Still i hope that people under stood the message i was trying to raise.
 
I must admitt that eing from Essex i see why we get such a bad name !
when i go out at the weekends what we see going on in the Bars & Clubs is a very loutish !
I went to Nottingham for my Stag Weekend with some friends. All i can say is that the people up there are friendly !
Friendly ut not loutish on Larger, perhaps they drink Ale !
We could have ended up with some indecent proposals from the ladies, well some were just girls !
You ask to ask your self that it is morally wrong, of course.
Also what price will this come at for a 1 night stand.
the stakes are high for what, 1 night of grap sex of which you can not rememer much as you were drunk.
The price being the potential ending of your current relationship. Being that most of us 30 year olds are living with partners, there is a lot to loss, 1 being your home !

Now if one of the girls was Claudia Schiffer, Carma Electra, Liz Hurley. Then perhaps it would have een worth it.
As you have the option of eing swallow and selling your story to the press !
 
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