Who has cheated on a partner and why?

Dirk said:
Can we archive this thread and dust it off in say 40 years? I'd love to see who has stood by their promises to 'never' cheat. I wonder how many would have sworn '.....until death do us part', only to wind up divorced within 5 years.

I feel most sorry for those decent human beings here who stick to their word while, unknown to them, their wives unashamedly take advantage of their trusting nature by sleeping with their best friends/brothers/random guys etc.
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Can I be omitted from this because after 25 years of clean marriage I think I've proved it.

However, my mates keep saying that one day I will regret it because weekly I get some amazing sexual offers. I'm a fat, bald dwarf but for some reason when I get behind a microphone with my rock band some women (and guys) see me as a sex symbol. Even I'm shocked at some of the things they want to do to me. I get all ages too from a couple of 18 year old girls to young couples, old couples, gay couples, grandma's and I always say no. I don't have to go looking for it but I never cross that line.
 
DRZ said:
Have you ever done anything even remotely immoral? You always post good advice about how to be good at everything you do etc but surely there must come times where everyone is less than perfect!
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The OcUK forum is not a place to air your imperfections as a human being. I'm not referring to anyone in particular, rather the whiter than white, holier-than-thou culture that's developed in here over the last year or so.

If these forums were representative of the UK, we'd apparently be living in utopia.
 
manor said:
When I was in my late teens (geez, trying to remember so far back now) I thought nothing of having 3 girls on the go at the same time.
Thankfully I grew out of that stupid stage in my life.
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Player :D

as for me, never cheated but being at diff uni's to my girlfriend, temptation nearly gets hold of you at times.
 
Although i've never been in the situation, I honestly can say I wouldn't cheat on who I was with. My morals are too strong to see me hurt someone so needlessly. Even if it was out of spite, it's pathetic. All you're doing is coming down to their level. Not everything in life is about sex.
 
kreeeee said:
I cheated when I was given an offer I couldn't refuse by 2 women.

...plus I was drunk.
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that's not cheating, they cancel each other out :D

i've never cheated on my girlfriend. hopefully i never will, it's one of the reasons i dont get very drunk anymore...i get a bit easy when i'm really drunk :(

i didnt even cheat on my ex, even when i found out she'd been cheating on me for like a year. just dumped her sorry ass instead!

i pretty much despise cheating, but i can understand the appeal of it. sometimes the temptation is pretty big, but i take that as a test of my character. it's unrealistic to say that you'll never be attracted to someone of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship...but it's a great way to find out what sort of person you are. not saying that being a cheat is being a bad person...but it's not being a very nice person imh(onest)o
 
I snogged a women whilst out with my mates whilst I was in a fairly long term relationship. Nothing came of it, I didn't tell her and that was that.

I have never cheated on my wife but on saying that I have been having lots of dreams recently where I am cheating on her!
 
AndyBorzi said:
I have never cheated on my wife but on saying that I have been having lots of dreams recently where I am cheating on her!
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:( i have those. dont you just wake up feeling like crap?
 
I have never and will never cheat on my finace, i love him far to much to hurt him like that, i have been on the recieving end of a cheat and its not nice at all, but i love and respect my OH and i couldnt imagine kissing anyone other than him!!!

Jen x
 
AndyBorzi said:
Not crap but kinda worried that I am having those dreams - something subconcious?!
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yeah, that too...sometimes it takes me a little while to realise that it was actually a dream. i once went til about lunch time thinking it was real, then my girlfriend called me, and i was like "why are you calling me?!" i soon discovered that it was a dream and felt like a dumbass for being upset all morning!! :o
 
I have never cheated, and certainly dont condone the most blatant, hurtful infidelity... But I too don't believe it's as black and white as 'I choose not too and that's the end of it'.

Given the 'right' circumstances, people are capable of a lot more/worse than cheating.
 
I cheated on my ex-wife for 2 years leading virtually a double life. In the end I confessed because I realised I wasn’t in love with her and that I love someone else. That and the fact my girlfriend was expecting my daughter.

Confessing was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m not proud of what I done but at the same time I don't regret it.


The thing is you can't help who you fall for. Circumstances, feelings, emotions, sex etc are changing all the time and we all go through stages thinking that “life’s greener on the other side” or trying to improve on what we have. It’s in our nature. We all take things for granted and that includes our partners, which I think is a big mistake. Nothing in life is guaranteed and you make the most of what you have. That was the biggest lesson I learnt last year.

It’s foolish to say “I’d never do it” and I’d never say I’d not do it again because I don’t what lays ahead for me. All I will say, is that I’d do anything not to get into a position were I would put my loyalty at risk and jeopardise my relationship.
 
fatiain said:
"Why go out for hamburger when you got steak at home?" Paul Newman iirc.
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sometimes a hamburger tastes so good, though...doesnt it?

edit: wait, we aren't talking about food, are we?
 
I cheated a few years ago, felt terrible after and confessed everything to my then current G/F. Split up with her (my doing) with her usieng something along the lines of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" which was how I felt.

Went out with the girl I cheated on her with for 2 years, that was punishment enough!

To this day I regret ever going it, even though I broke up with her a day after. Luckly we are still friends and I value that more than anything in the world.
 
Never cheated and never will.

Like a few people on here I've been on the recieving end, and would never put someone I cared about through that. It has never even crossed my mind in the past and I can only see negative things come from it.
 
Can I jump on the moral high bandwagon?

I currently, like many others, have a stable long term loving relationship. No it's far from perfect because when you have been in a relationship for a long time there will be problems and niggles. Loving couples work through these hard times and move on to the good times afterwards. Weak people will cheat to get their satisfaction rather than work for the good of the relationship.

I would like to say I won;t cheat. This resolve has as of yet not been tested, but at them moment a very nice supply teacher is testing me.

If she offered I am affraid I would cry like a baby and do the dirty on the woman I love. The consequences of the my actions would be hurt, pain, and possibly divorce all because of one act. Is it worth it? No. No way. Never!

Would I do it? I'd say it would take some serious will power not to. Couldn;t keep it a secret and I would tell her straight away.

Thankfully the situation has not happened and will never...
 
Mr Huddy said:
Confessing was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m not proud of what I done but at the same time I don't regret it.
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I hear that, that was the hardest part of my life, telling my girlfriend who had never done a wrong thing against me that I had cheated on her. I just felt like ****, I wanted her to hit me, because I just wanted her to show her anger as opposed to bottling it up inside her.

I just wonder if I am stuffed, because "once a cheater always a cheater", and I dont want to be in that boat :(

Excuse me while I go evaluate my life :(
 
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