You're not a true OCUKer til you've done one of these

Mister_Pister · 23 May 2006 at 08:42

Pickers said:
Get back in contact with the parents to be honest... You must have SOME contact details? She's still in an unknown place. Appologise to mam for getting her up at 4am. I'll bet any money the mother isnt angry at you at all, and may even offer advice/shed some light.

To be honest though me ringing up and apologising to her is like admitting what I did was wrong - which it wasnt. I never actually got her contact details the police popped round so it would involve another call to them to try and get them to put me through to the ex directory number, think it would cause more hassle then its worth

Mickey_D · 23 May 2006 at 08:42

There's only five words for her at this point.....

"Bye, have a nice life"

pyro · 23 May 2006 at 08:42

Again, I am not trying to make you paranoid, but when a girl says she hates her ex it could well mean that he did this and that to her but she still wants him. Just sit down and this about this, why would she be making such a fuss about it? She would have to be hiding something and trying to make you ignore the fact she was "missing".

Lostkat · 23 May 2006 at 08:43

I can completely understand her mother being annoyed at a visit from the cops at 4am, but that's absolutely no reason for your girlfriend to give you the silent treatment, especially a few hours before a holiday. As everyone else has said, she's being so unbelievably unreasonable. My guess, if I'm being really sceptical, is that there's something else driving this. There's another reason that she's broken contact, but she's hiding it behind this little incident. I'd suggest talking to her, but if she won't even answer her phone then there's not much point.

Stupid girl :rolleyes:

I cannot stand people who won't/can't talk about issues like adults. My ex used to give me the silent treatment. I had a sewing/embroidery machine on my 21st that he didn't agree with. He wanted me to put the money towards a car so I could go and see him (I was at Uni) or a holiday. When I did neither of these, and had what I'd wanted since I was 15, he said that I'd really upset him and that he'd rather just not talk to me for a while. It was the first nail in the coffin for the relationship. He did it again a couple of times (Christmas, New Year, all the special dates) until I got sick of him and ended it.

Zip · 23 May 2006 at 08:43

Mister_Pister said:
Her ex is in middlesbrough and she absolutely hates him - I dont think thats it. Plus if she was why spend most of the day makin up stories about being on the motorway, seems a bit far fetched. But who knows its totally baffling it could be anything really

Ring him up and ask him if she did the same thing to him.
If she did, then u know you have a nutta

pyro · 23 May 2006 at 08:45

Pickers said:
Get back in contact with the parents to be honest... You must have SOME contact details? She's still in an unknown place. Appologise to mam for getting her up at 4am. I'll bet any money the mother isnt angry at you at all, and may even offer advice/shed some light.

"What do you mean where she is at, Pister? She was with you all night!"

"Oh wait you are the other guy."

Mickey_D said:
There's only five words for her at this point.....

"Bye, have a nice life"

Listen to this man.

benneh · 23 May 2006 at 08:45

Dude she sounds like a real mentalist

, numerous problems with this really. My first thought would be what the hell?, we're going on holiday and you just decide not to turn up??!. Then of course theres the not having the balls to tell you, or let you know in any way. And finally, where did she spend the night?, and was this in some way connected. I would most DEFINATELY presume that it was. Get rid, she's a cheating **** tbh, with no balls!.

No-one with an ounce of love or respect would pull such a trick, regardless of whether they were cheating or not. Get shot br0, and kick her in the face on the way out.

P.S, the MSN message, was it from a mobile device or PC?. If it's a mobile device then WTF is she doing turning her mobile on to send you trash (probably listening to your voicemails in the process), if it's not from a mobile device then she's been somewhere that has a PC and a net connection, which lets face it is probably a blokes house.

Shikkaka · 23 May 2006 at 08:45

Mister_Pister said:
Shes not hot but I would do it for revenge

haha! That's the spirit, she got any sisters?

. Anyways what you did was right. I'd be worried sick if my misses didn't turn up on time, nevermind after that amount of time. I'd be ringing everyone to find out if she is safe, including the police as a last resort.

Can't see what her problem is apart from her poor mummy lost a couple of hours sleep.

Felix Da Housecat · 23 May 2006 at 08:46

She sounds like a handfull mate, i think you should tell her to either grow up or it's over.

Did she not think to contact her parents to let them know she got there in one piece? we always do, or even just give 3 rings so relatives know they are safe.

You would have thought that not turning up and having your phone off would start alarm bells ringing.

All the bast with it, oh and enjoy your time off, get some beers in and chill out for a while.

mc_bob · 23 May 2006 at 08:47

I wouldnt deny anything either.
You dont really have a clue whats going on. My view is.
She doesnt turn up at your house.
Disapears all night.
Uses your actions as a crappy excuse then says shes going on the flight alone.

I reckon there is someone else, sorry for saying that but it seem reasonable.
Just keep your eyes and ears open and you head clear, expect anything.

MC_Bob

Mister_Pister · 23 May 2006 at 08:48

Zip said:
Ring him up and ask him if she did the same thing to him.
If she did, then u know you have a nutta

He always used to beat her up and even worse etc although in those kind of relationships they have a hold on the other person. Im not entirely convinced its cheating to be honest, with him or anyone else because she might aswell of just done it on days we werent meeting up.

I think I agree with benneh though there is something else driving it - not sure what though

VaderDSL · 23 May 2006 at 08:48

Aye gf's can be odd.I used to go out with a girl, but I was in Manchester and she lived in Glasgow, well we met up one weekend (I had been to Glasgow once for 3 days to see her) she came to manchester for 2 hours, we met up and it was good fun, seeing each other after ages was really nice. That was in September ... I still haven't heard from her lol!!

Thing is she doesn't answer her mobile, or her flat phone or text messages. I wasn't overbearing, I probably sent 2 texts every three weeks and rang at the weekends. Sent her a card for her birthday and still nothing

Last thing she said to me was ... Miss you, can't wait to see you again (kiss) at the train station.

But anyway back OT, you were definitely in the right - I'd have been worried sick, especially as drivin down in bad weather, who knows what could have happened.

Mister_Pister · 23 May 2006 at 08:50

benneh said:
No-one with an ounce of love or respect would pull such a trick, regardless of whether they were cheating or not. Get shot br0, and kick her in the face on the way out.

P.S, the MSN message, was it from a mobile device or PC?. If it's a mobile device then WTF is she doing turning her mobile on to send you trash (probably listening to your voicemails in the process), if it's not from a mobile device then she's been somewhere that has a PC and a net connection, which lets face it is probably a blokes house.

Agree with first point. As for 2nd yeah it was from her mobile - so she managed to turn that on to have a go at me despite it being off all night. Strange..

benneh · 23 May 2006 at 08:50

Has the flight left yet?, i would be intrigued to find out whether of not she boards that flight alone (i'm thinking she wont).

Edit: Sorry if i sound a bit full on with this cheating crap dude, it just seems so logical

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Mister_Pister · 23 May 2006 at 08:53

benneh said:
Has the flight left yet?, i would be intrigued to find out whether of not she boards that flight alone (i'm thinking she wont).

Edit: Sorry if i sound a bit full on with this cheating crap dude, it just seems so logical .

I know it could be a possibility I just dont think she would do it in such a way as to leave so many weird clues. The flight goes about 10.30 or something - do you reckon if I ring the airport I can find if she checks in despite not having any exact flight details?

philstanbridge · 23 May 2006 at 08:56

What about going to the airport yourself for peace of mind? Possible?

VIRII · 23 May 2006 at 08:56

Mister_Pister said:
just hope she will realise that and be able to look past the fact the police scared her mum which I think is the only thing she's clinging to. Of course I cant really tell since ive barely got 4 words of text out of her since the incident.

Then again if her behaviour was normal and not going to cause anyone any worry her mother wouldn't have freaked either ....... so it was not you who upset her mother it was her actions that did it.

If something HAD happened to her does she think that her mother would not have wanted you to make her aware that her daughter was missing?

She doesn't have a leg to stand on and to be honest I would be more interested in where she actually was than anything else. When people do not answer their phones and drop off the radar they are generally trying to hide something. Perhaps speak to her mother and ask her if she has any idea where her daughter was last night and or why she left you in the dark.....

Either way I reckon you're about to become single for your own good.

Mister_Pister · 23 May 2006 at 08:57

philstanbridge said:
What about going to the airport yourself for peace of mind? Possible?

not now, too far away and no transport.

Mister_Pister · 23 May 2006 at 08:58

VIRII said:
Perhaps speak to her mother and ask her if she has any idea where her daughter was last night and or why she left you in the dark.....

Would love to but as I said in a previous post this would involve another call to the police to get the number as its ex-dir and since its not really an emergency now I doubt they'd do it.

benneh · 23 May 2006 at 08:59

I doubt they will tell you much over the phone dude, flight numbers etc maybe but not boarding details.

I really do think you should go down to the airport and find out what the hell is going on. Put it this way dude, if you dont, then you're left alone in the UK not knowing, for the entirity of her holiday (which believe me will feel like an eternity).

Edit, just saw your no transport post.

, then you are doomed to never knowing. If theres a train, jump on it tbh.