Join the club, make me feel better?

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I wouldn't feel too self conscious about going out alone either, load of people do it our days, once you get towards the dance floor its hard to tell who’s with who anyways.
 
FoxEye said:
I've been at work, but I'm catching up with all the replies I've missed :)

I must say, even tho everything I posted is 100% true, I've had a right good laugh reading the replies ;)

I'm not going for a hooker, guys. As some others have said, this would be emotionally devastating for me. The idea that I have to pay someone to "pretend" rather than finding a real woman who's into me would be the last straw.
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No no no, your looking at it all wrong, she aint there to pretend, shes there to provide a service, have a giggle, then tell her to sling her hook when your done.
 
britboy4321 said:
How are your 'standards'. They probably need lowering.
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No I'm not aiming too high ;) It's more like I haven't picked up the gun in the first place :p

Actually I find most girls attractive. A lot of the time, even the ones that my mates say are "plain" or unattractive.

As for personality, well, I've never actually got to know a woman's personality beside my mum's. Since my time in a girl's company is mostly awkward silence -or saying something that I had no intention of saying but it just didn't come out right - I generally don't get to spend more than five minutes with any girl :p

Sounds pathetic, is pathetic. But I hope it's curable.
 
Just put yourself out there on all the dating sites. Lower your usual standards and get your schlong wet. Use ugly girls as practise, then when you find the right girl you will be a clit commander.
 
FoxEye said:
I've been at work, but I'm catching up with all the replies I've missed :)

I must say, even tho everything I posted is 100% true, I've had a right good laugh reading the replies ;)

I'm not going for a hooker, guys. As some others have said, this would be emotionally devastating for me. The idea that I have to pay someone to "pretend" rather than finding a real woman who's into me would be the last straw.
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OK serious reply: what hobbies/interests do you have other than computer stuff? If "none" then that's cool as we are on a nerd forum and I don't have many either!
 
DM said:
No no no, your looking at it all wrong, she aint there to pretend, shes there to provide a service, have a giggle, then tell her to sling her hook when your done.
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I know you're not being totally serious, but sex isn't the only thing I'm looking for. It might be part of it, no doubt :p

But mainly for me I'm looking for someone who could actually like me, accept me, want to be with me... and when I look in the mirror I see a big problem with that. I don't like me, and I see no reason for anyone else to either.

Now where did I put that "My Chemical Romance" album?
 
OP you seem to be forgetting to link the picture you said you were uploading a while back.

On a side note, what everyone else has says. If you don't leave the house how do you expect anything to change! Find some friends who like going to a nightclub and go with them? Amazing things happen when your drunk! I imagine you'd have a lot more confidence cause you just wouldn't care what your saying, and so you wouldn't be shy.

If thats not your scene, join a club or something? I dunno, but best of luck to you!
 
I might not say a night club. Then he'd get the "older pervey guy" image about them!
If you do head out make sure it's a club/bar aimed at your own demographic and no the students/orange things wearing no clothes demographic.
 
Also I should say, because this is being suggested a lot, I'm an angry drunk.

My mood generally gets worse, life seems more hopeless, unfair, brutal after a few drinks. Whilst other people get friendlier, I get more paranoid and self-conscious.

I don't want to irritate you guys by rejecting all your suggestions, but I don't think getting drunk will work for me. Unless I'm just drinking the wrong stuff!
 
FoxEye said:
No I'm not aiming too high ;) It's more like I haven't picked up the gun in the first place :p

Actually I find most girls attractive. A lot of the time, even the ones that my mates say are "plain" or unattractive.

As for personality, well, I've never actually got to know a woman's personality beside my mum's. Since my time in a girl's company is mostly awkward silence -or saying something that I had no intention of saying but it just didn't come out right - I generally don't get to spend more than five minutes with any girl :p

Sounds pathetic, is pathetic. But I hope it's curable.
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NO its not pathetic, and its curable.
You are a shy man.

Is it the way you look ? or is it your style ? that makes you nervous ? you have to find out what makes you look cooler than the coolest dude out their ?
 
Angry drunk, lay off the Stella! Seriously though it does make things a bit trickier if you can't get some dutch courage to help the conversation flow.

I'm curious you mentioned your mates, have you spoke to them about this? Can they not help you out, be your wingman on a night out or are they in a similar situation?

Have you ever tried meeting a girl in an internet chat room first then meeting in real life, you seem completely socially able from your posts here, might be a good way to break the ice and build that initial confidence.
 
dekez said:
Angry drunk, lay off the Stella! Seriously though it does make things a bit trickier if you can't get some dutch courage to help the conversation flow.

I'm curious you mentioned your mates, have you spoke to them about this? Can they not help you out, be your wingman on a night out or are they in a similar situation?

Have you ever tried meeting a girl in an internet chat room first then meeting in real life, you seem completely socially able from your posts here, might be a good way to break the ice and build that initial confidence.
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I don't actually do anything with my friends. So I guess they're more like acquaintances. Some of them I used to go on nights out with, years ago, then they moved away or something like that (or got married and don't go out either!)

I actually don't have that much to do with anyone any more. So I guess before finding a girlfriend I should probably make and associate with some normal friends.

I haven't been on a night out for about 10 years.
 
dekez said:
Angry drunk, lay off the Stella! Seriously though it does make things a bit trickier if you can't get some dutch courage to help the conversation flow.

I'm curious you mentioned your mates, have you spoke to them about this? Can they not help you out, be your wingman on a night out or are they in a similar situation?

Have you ever tried meeting a girl in an internet chat room first then meeting in real life, you seem completely socially able from your posts here, might be a good way to break the ice and build that initial confidence.
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This is good advice. I'm sort of the same. Give me to much and who knows, but a little bit really does help the flow. Nothing worse than being stone cold sober.
 
Jimmyboyo said:
"HI, I ADDED YOU ON FACEBOOK. YOU DON'T KNOW ME, BUT I'M NOT CREEPY, HONEST"

Not sure how you can do that without sounding like this =/
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i got some random girl asking me why i removed her from my facebook a few months back lol.

i should have trolled her for a bit but just told her she hads the wrong one of me
 
Iv had another cunning plan, what you need to do is attend one of them divorced singles and separated nights AKA grab a granny, its impossible to fail there.
 
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