Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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A tad off topic but where would you guys go to meet women in the real world? The bar scene is fine for drunken shenanigans but, in my experience, that's about it.
 
jp_bl_68 said:
A tad off topic but where would you guys go to meet women in the real world? The bar scene is fine for drunken shenanigans but, in my experience, that's about it.
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Best way is through a hobby or interest that involves a social aspect IMO. That gives you common ground to start with.
 
Quick question.

If you meet someone 3/4 times and you really like them as a person and of course find them attractive. Assuming you knew they felt the same way and you both felt really comfortable together is that enough to keep things going and see if anything grows of it.

Is it a bad thing to have slightly different tastes in music and interests??. I don't do a great deal in the evenings or weekends apart from going out now and again but I would like to start visiting places and travelling around a bit in my car if the weather gets nicer say at a weekend for example. The girl in question also doesn't do a great deal in the evenings and seems to have an interest in shopping and usual girly stuff at the weekends.

I can adapt to doing different things as that's what I want to start to do. When I read other peoples comments they always talk of finding common interests with someone. Is that really necessary straight away? I should imagine you will learn more about what a person likes in time and can consider taking up new activities that you both haven't done before and could possibly enjoy?

So far we both enjoy each others company. We don't even have to be talking all night and the time seems to just fly by. It just feels right and she clearly trusts me and I trust her. She likes to tease and wind me up and I like to do it back. That is pretty much all we have in common so far. Other than that she doesn't really tell me a great deal about what she likes to do but that could just be because she doesn't do much like myself. One thing I do know is she is extremely competitive. Is the fantastic feeling I get when I'm with her enough of a stepping stone to see how things progress?? am I over thinking and worrying too much again!!???
 
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R5GTT said:
If you meet someone 3/4 times and you really like them as a person and of course find them attractive. Assuming you knew they felt the same way and you both felt really comfortable together is that enough to keep things going and see if anything grows of it.
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No, if you meet someone and you both fancy each other, and feel comfortable when you around each other, then that is definitely NOT a recipe for a potential successful relationship.

Coming up in todays episode of Mind-numbingly Silly Quesitons... does chocolate melt if heat is applied? :p
 
Richdog said:
No, if you meet someone and you both fancy each other, and feel comfortable when you around each other, then that is definitely NOT a recipe for a potential successful relationship.
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Come on don't mess with my head, I had enough of that from someone this weekend :p and I'm tired! hence maybe silly questions!??
It's only because I see all this talk of having to find someone with similar interests.
 
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Come on don't mess with my head, I had enough of that from someone this weekend :p and I'm tired! hence maybe silly questions!??
It's only because I see all this talk of having to find someone with similar interests.
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Well come on... you are asking if two people find each other attractive and get along well if its a recipe for something more? My 9 year old cousin could likely answer that question.

As for the slightly "different interests" involving her liking shopping and "girly things", and you liking cars and "manly things", well, maybe you didn't have the birds and bees discussion when you were oyung, but that's kind of like the difference between a man and a woman.

Jus tout of interest... were you home-schooled by religious parents? :D
 
R5GTT said:
You're a harsh ******* but I like your honesty ;)

No I wasn't I've just got too used to single life and I over analyse stuff way too much. Thanks for your sympathy though.... ! :p
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Im only teasing chap don't take me seriously... but it sounds like you have all the recipe for success in what you wrote. :)

My biggest tip that I can ever give to anyone, learned the hard way, is always trust your instincts and make the first move, no matter how scared or nervous you feel. Women DO want you to man up and tell them that you like them, and if I had a tenner for every nice (and some verrry nice) girl i've lost my chance with due to being too much of a pussyarse to just tell her how I felt, then i'd probably be a wealthy man. Suck it up, sqaush that feeling of panic, and as calmly as possible look into her eyes (very important, don't look away), tell the girl you like her and that she is one of the most beautiful things you've ever seen (not necessarily in those words, you figure it out). At the very worst, she will be flattered and politely refuse... but normally if you are saying that to a girl then your instincts are telling you that she likes you, and the end result is a win.

Nowadays that simple formula works around 90% of the time on girls that show an interest, whether for a quick fumble or something more serious, and my confidence has grown massively as a result, as has the quality of woman I now end up seeing.
 
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At least you admit to being a pussyarse! :)

It's a fair point about instinct, I didn't trust my instincts and feelings and came close to it ending badly the first 2 times I met her because she was waiting for me to make a move and I bottled it. She then took that as me not liking her. I should have trusted my gut feeling.

I didn't see her for 2 weeks until this weekend and she was sat at the other end of the sofa and I just had to say sod it and jumped in there :p why oh why I couldn't do that before I don't know.

The eye contact thing is a good point. We seem to have that too and I did tell her some stuff. Now I just need to stop worrying about what we can do activity/interest wise and probably just be a little more assertive with her. My only fear was coming up with ideas of stuff to do when we don't really like the same things but If we are happy enough just chilling watching the TV then that's at least something.
 
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Richdog said:
My biggest tip that I can ever give to anyone, learned the hard way, is always trust your instincts and make the first move, no matter how scared or nervous you feel. Women DO want you to man up and tell them that you like them, and if I had a tenner for every nice (and some verrry nice) girl i've lost my chance with due to being too much of a pussyarse to just tell her how I felt, then i'd probably be a wealthy man. Suck it up, sqaush that feeling of panic, and as calmly as possible look into her eyes (very important, don't look away), tell the girl you like her and that she is one of the most beautiful things you've ever seen (not necessarily in those words, you figure it out). At the very worst, she will be flattered and politely refuse... but normally if you are saying that to a girl then your instincts are telling you that she likes you, and the end result is a win.
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That one paragraph perfectly summarises my greatest failings when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, that I don't trust my instincts and that I can't overcome that feeling of panic that grips me whenever I try to get the words out. I am "pussyarsed".
 
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To be fair the first cancellation was due to an issue with her ex and her children so I have to give her that one.
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That's fine, but what I mean is that... the more that there are the more you have to put up with and you have to think to yourself... do you really want that?

My point being: if someone really wants to see you they will. End of.

BB x
 
BrightonBelle said:
That's fine, but what I mean is that... the more that there are the more you have to put up with and you have to think to yourself... do you really want that?

My point being: if someone really wants to see you they will. End of.

BB x
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Yes, I agree. Having to cancel a date because of a hangover tells me a *lot* about someone!
 
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