The job bit seems to be important depending on your age. I have gone back to studying (at 27) and have said so in my profile. Almost every message I send gets a profile visit in return, but other students reply much more frequently than employed women. I imagine they're done dating guys who can't pay for the nicer things (and I don't mean to imply that they're only after money - but that professional adults tend to like fancy restaurants, etc, and it would be a strain on the relationship if only one partner could afford it).
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we can be poor together!
could you give me feedback on my profile? please. Sending messages but......
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=15584657
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=15584657
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I too am studying at the grand old age of 28, and have stopped myself from making a move over the last year on girls I've liked because of it. Call me sexist, old fashioned or naive, but as the bloke I feel I should be in a position to be the one to pick up the tab on dates etc. And although I'm getting paid to study, it's not a lot, and I just don't have the disposable income to throw around like that.
As I say, it's probably a weird, throwback attitude that I have.
As I say, it's probably a weird, throwback attitude that I have.
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I'm a professional adult, and it's not all about fancy restaurants etc. I like Nando's. And McDonald's McDonald's, Kentucky Fried Chicken and a Pizza Hut!
Nandos, I've decided I don't get it. I went there for the first time when I met my currently girlfriend (on POF), and in total I have now been 3 times. Now, admittedly I stick with the chicken burgers, but I will say that it's not all that. The chicken isn't great, the sauces and the chips are nice though.
But, for £7-8, I can definitely think of other places I'd rather go.
BURGER KING > KFC > McDonald's, btw.
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Get extra hot wings then come back and say you don't get it
Also get some chips and garlic bread/sweetcorn and some peronnaise sauce.
I would always have enough money on me to pay for two people on a date. But I would expect the other person to at least offer to pay their portion and would take them up on it most of the time. Especially on a first date, no one should assume they are getting a free meal IMO. My friends tell me I'm really tight, but I just think it's a respect thing.
I've just had a girl message me that I'm not really interested in. How do I let her down gently? I don't want to be one of "those" people who simply don't reply as its incredibly rude.
She asked me what my favorite bands are, should I tell her and then see what her response is?
She asked me what my favorite bands are, should I tell her and then see what her response is?
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I don't think it's rude. I have had girls being "polite" to me before and I just found it confusing initially. You really have two options, ignore them or reply saying you aren't interested but thanks. Anything else is leading them on. I have ignored some. Don't feel bad about it.
Thanks for the advice mate. I'm on OKCupid and it displays on a persons profile if they reply to messages very often. I don't want my profile to change to "replies selectively" so I might just reply, maybe make an excuse up or something.
I had a go on there. I never took much notice of how often they replied. But I see where you are coming from, you want to appear approachable.
ApeZ, what will you do if they ask you what you are doing in the evening? Just in general "oh isn't it cold today" type chat.
I'm a professional adult, and it's not all about fancy restaurants etc. I like Nando's. And McDonald's McDonald's, Kentucky Fried Chicken and a Pizza Hut!
This needs to be accompanied by doing the dance that goes with the song....
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