Anyone else notice that 'ghosting' is getting more and more common? I'm on about 10 in a row, must be going for some kind of record!
Yes, it shows how bad mannered and cowardly people are these days. When they think that's acceptable.
Anyone else notice that 'ghosting' is getting more and more common? I'm on about 10 in a row, must be going for some kind of record!
Yeah it's just straight up rude, if you're no longer interested in someone then just let them know so they can move on to the next one!Yes, it shows how bad mannered and cowardly people are these days. When they think that's acceptable.
Or it could be that she’s suffering from postnatal depression?
Unlikely as he said she was the same 5 years ago and before she gave birth.
Sounds like an attention seeking loony from your post but as always it’s only one side of the story. Do you ever compliment her or do a nice deed without being asked/forced? It’s not that uncommon that people stop bothering with the romance after a few years and the relationship becomes more like friends who have sex now and again.
The problem is from her side, she now says i have made it worst cause i actually brought it up and confronted her about it. I said nothing through the pregnancy and bit my tongue and obviously showed i wasnt happy but got with it.
Therefore now all she is saying, is I am making her worry and hence she will keep pushing to fix it but my pushing she will just do the opposite in reality.
Do you still love her? Sounds like you've reached your limit and things have changed for you.
@Matutu Am sorry to hear things have been so tough, some women are insane, I know!
It sounds like she's trying to over compensate for the hell she's put you through but with the fact it takes about 18 months after pregnancy for a woman to feel themselves again she's clearly feeling insecure. My daughter is 11 months and the missus just isn't happy about her body and doesn't even really want to talk about rude things. Just as well really with being in physio rehab.
You're in a bind but ultimately how things progress depend on you both, try your best to reconnect if you still love her. If its a struggle suggest couples councilling, if she refuses don't allow youself to be miserable you'll end up resenting each other. Don't be a dick but take that break if you need it. Trust me I know.
My Mrs is too soft on him which I have said to her time and time again but nothing changes. I'm gonna be honest, I can't stand him, he's driving a wedge between me and her. I pray for the weekends without him, we're much happier, it shows.
She's picked up on my feelings towards him and I've been honest with her but the brat needs punishing. Xbox removed, iPad confiscated, fed to the dogs , questionable if the last ones legal?
It's tough because I'm not his Dad, but I can feel myself losing it with him.
Are you and your wife on reasonable terms with the father? Could try to discuss it with him, if possible ask the father if he acts up that way with him? Careful with this though because your wife could go all "You're siding with my ex partner and not me".Anyone else in a similar situation? The Mrs has 2 lads from her marriage, they're 7 and 9. We have a 5 month old child together, live together etc.
We're currently on maternity pay which is crippling us but we're getting by. The kids don't go without, we moved to a bigger house, they have a bedroom each, we treated them to an Xbox each in their rooms, they had none of this before we were together.
The eldest is being an ungrateful spoilt little brat, every time we have to do something other than what he wants to do, he throws everything in our faces, we don't do anything for him, he has nothing. He seems to forget about the iPad, Xbox, school trip at nearly £300, the kick boxing every week he wanted to do, all of which is tough on maternity pay.
He's a bright kid but he's bossy, manipulative (he'll tell his Dad he's not allowed to do kick boxing for an example), he also regards himself as an elder.
My Mrs is too soft on him which I have said to her time and time again but nothing changes. I'm gonna be honest, I can't stand him, he's driving a wedge between me and her. I pray for the weekends without him, we're much happier, it shows.
She's picked up on my feelings towards him and I've been honest with her but the brat needs punishing. Xbox removed, iPad confiscated, fed to the dogs , questionable if the last ones legal?
It's tough because I'm not his Dad, but I can feel myself losing it with him.
Removing the ipad and xbox sounds like a good start, see how he responds.Anyone else in a similar situation? The Mrs has 2 lads from her marriage, they're 7 and 9. We have a 5 month old child together, live together etc.
We're currently on maternity pay which is crippling us but we're getting by. The kids don't go without, we moved to a bigger house, they have a bedroom each, we treated them to an Xbox each in their rooms, they had none of this before we were together.
The eldest is being an ungrateful spoilt little brat, every time we have to do something other than what he wants to do, he throws everything in our faces, we don't do anything for him, he has nothing. He seems to forget about the iPad, Xbox, school trip at nearly £300, the kick boxing every week he wanted to do, all of which is tough on maternity pay.
He's a bright kid but he's bossy, manipulative (he'll tell his Dad he's not allowed to do kick boxing for an example), he also regards himself as an elder.
My Mrs is too soft on him which I have said to her time and time again but nothing changes. I'm gonna be honest, I can't stand him, he's driving a wedge between me and her. I pray for the weekends without him, we're much happier, it shows.
She's picked up on my feelings towards him and I've been honest with her but the brat needs punishing. Xbox removed, iPad confiscated, fed to the dogs , questionable if the last ones legal?
It's tough because I'm not his Dad, but I can feel myself losing it with him.
He's living under your roof, and if you're co-parenting, you and the mother should be setting boundaries and supporting each other as a united front. What happens at his Dad's house is nothing to do with what happens at yours. Does his mum not realise she's letting the kid down by not setting boundaries and reminding him that he's the kid, not the adult? He's playing you against his mother and against his father to get his own way - and you're all letting him. You're all being outsmarted by a seven year old. Time for you and the mother to get your act together, because you're not doing the kid any favours in the long run, and it's damaging your relationship with the mother.
Are you and your wife on reasonable terms with the father? Could try to discuss it with him, if possible ask the father if he acts up that way with him? Careful with this though because your wife could go all "You're siding with my ex partner and not me".
You told us that you told your wife those things but what was her response?
Removing the ipad and xbox sounds like a good start, see how he responds.