Your Neighbours

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There's a house at the end of my street just like this but thankfully it's nowhere near me so I don't need to be concerned but I feel sorry for the residents who live close by as neighbours as everything about the house says "trouble". Loads of CCTV cams illegally pointing in all directions, always different BMWs and Audi's and old work vans parked outside every time I drive past, washing line erected in the driveway/front garden, loads of kids bikes outside, curtains always closed, and a lawn that looks like it hardly ever gets mowed. I've never seen who actually lives there but I doubt it's a nice family :D

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You talk about people being rude and trolling, but many of your posts have come across as antagonistic especially in Home & Garden and La Cuisine. Maybe have a reset and just let any negative interactions you have had in the past stay there.
 
Oh right.
Well when you see them, just smile, say hi, and carry on about your day. It's not really any more complicated than that.

My advanced course includes such topics as:
- How to nod politely when your neighbour starts telling you a boring story.
- How to accept a delivery for someone else, and then give them the parcel later.
- How to make inane and repetitive comments about the weather.

But I'm afraid it's a paid subscription.
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You talk about people being rude and trolling, but many of your posts have come across as antagonistic especially in Home & Garden and La Cuisine. Maybe have a reset and just let any negative interactions you have had in the past stay there.

That sounds fair to me. I've just pressed the reset button and I'll try to be a bit friendlier/less blunt. Job done.
 
In my opinion its best to avoid any wars with the neighbors no matter how much they pee you off because it just makes everything 10 times worse. I have to put up with all sorts from loud endless yapping and shouting from the house opposite me to very late hours to getting neighbors BBQ smoke coming through my windows and there toxins like air fresheners and incense.

I use a white noise device so I can sleep at night.
 
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I have to put up with all sorts

I've not raised any issues with the problem neighbour in my block yet but barking dogs and noise at night would probably push me over the edge and force me to go and complain or send a letter. Thankfully dogs aren't allowed here and all the residents are reasonably mature so nobody would tolerate noise between 9pm-9am. I'm glad I'm over 50 now so I can rent quiet properties like this as I seriously don't think I could cope living around young couples and young families and single nutters who don't care about anyone other than themselves.
 
We've got a relatively new neighbour with a very yappy dog - literally some days when they let it out at 7am it will constantly yap yap yap for ~3 hours non-stop and again in the evening, I think the thing is actually daft or suffering from dementia or something* - fortunately we are just far enough away it isn't a real problem but a couple of times now one of the nearer neighbours has got in a shouting match with them.

Unfortunately I think it is the older women's "baby" and she won't do anything about it.

I was hoping once it was more used to the area it would quieten down but doesn't really seem to be the case.

* The other day it was out in the rain constantly slipping off the same corner of the path into a dip there and confused as to the way out and for ages trying to get back onto the path rather than up the grass behind it that sloped out of the dip and around, eventually going up the slope only to walk around the path again and slip right back in... repeat.
 
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new neighbour

This is my biggest worry at the moment more so than the current mildly annoying resident in my block. There's only 1 flat left empty and it's the one directly above mine. A few weeks ago the landlord came to show the flat to a young-ish lad and his dad and they were stomping around up there like a herd of elephants. The noise through my ceiling was very disturbing and they were only up there for 10 minutes so I can only imagine how much worse it would be if the lad actually moves in and has his mates, girlfriend, and family visiting.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he didn't like the property or his application failed but he shook hands with the landlord in the car park when he was leaving and they were talking outside for 5 minutes so it's not looking good for me is it.
 
This is my biggest worry at the moment more so than the current mildly annoying resident in my block. There's only 1 flat left empty and it's the one directly above mine. A few weeks ago the landlord came to show the flat to a young-ish lad and his dad and they were stomping around up there like a herd of elephants. The noise through my ceiling was very disturbing and they were only up there for 10 minutes so I can only imagine how much worse it would be if the lad actually moves in and has his mates, girlfriend, and family visiting.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he didn't like the property or his application failed but he shook hands with the landlord in the car park when he was leaving and they were talking outside for 5 minutes so it's not looking good for me is it.

How long has the upstairs flat been empty while you have been living below it?
 
This is my biggest worry at the moment more so than the current mildly annoying resident in my block. There's only 1 flat left empty and it's the one directly above mine. A few weeks ago the landlord came to show the flat to a young-ish lad and his dad and they were stomping around up there like a herd of elephants. The noise through my ceiling was very disturbing and they were only up there for 10 minutes so I can only imagine how much worse it would be if the lad actually moves in and has his mates, girlfriend, and family visiting.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he didn't like the property or his application failed but he shook hands with the landlord in the car park when he was leaving and they were talking outside for 5 minutes so it's not looking good for me is it.
Unfortunately that is just one of the joys of living in a flat.
 
How long has the upstairs flat been empty while you have been living below it?

I've just been offered my 3rd renewal of a 6 month shorthold assured tenancy so it's been empty for 12 months to the best of my knowledge and I've never heard a sound up there. I pity anyone who takes on that flat though as they will have to be next door neighbours with the problem resident who sits out on the upstairs landing everyday and evening with her lager drinking scouse mates screaming, shouting, and heckling, and generally being very irritating. I bet nobody has lived in the flat above me for longer than 6 months while that loud/crazy scouse woman has been in this building !
 
I was so glad when the problem neighbor under me moved out 2 years ago. There were times when I actually feared for my safety because of the company he kept, threatening looking gangs going in and out of his flat, they would stink the block out with weed smoke and spit all down the steps. There noisy bass music thumbing up into my flat, they would MC late at night and make beats. I put up with that for just over 4 years and suddenly he vanished and somebody else moved in who is very quiet.
 
This is my biggest worry at the moment more so than the current mildly annoying resident in my block. There's only 1 flat left empty and it's the one directly above mine. A few weeks ago the landlord came to show the flat to a young-ish lad and his dad and they were stomping around up there like a herd of elephants. The noise through my ceiling was very disturbing and they were only up there for 10 minutes so I can only imagine how much worse it would be if the lad actually moves in and has his mates, girlfriend, and family visiting.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he didn't like the property or his application failed but he shook hands with the landlord in the car park when he was leaving and they were talking outside for 5 minutes so it's not looking good for me is it.

And now I've got Alexei Sayle in my head:

the people who live upstairs from me, I can't understand what they're doing! Y'know I listen, and all I can hear is this weird noise and it goes voom voom, BLAT-NN BLAT-NN, voom voom, BLAT-NN BLAT-NN, and it sounds, right, it sounds like two elephants on a motorbike riding round and round, while a seal bangs a kipper on the table! I went upstairs to complain, and the door was answered by this elephant in a crash helmet! Standing behind him is this seal going "WHAT IS IT NOW, RALPH?"
 
I was so glad when the problem neighbor under me moved out 2 years ago. There were times when I actually feared for my safety because of the company he kept, threatening looking gangs going in and out of his flat, they would stink the block out with weed smoke and spit all down the steps. There noisy bass music thumbing up into my flat, they would MC late at night and make beats. I put up with that for just over 4 years and suddenly he vanished and somebody else moved in who is very quiet.

I've never had to deal with anything that extreme but I'd contest the tenancy contract and ask to leave immediately if drugs and violence and anti-social behaviour were an issue. Biggest problem in my block is a few alcoholics but none of them are violent or nasty. They've always been very pleasant and sociable with me and always willing to help (post my letters/take packages etc) so I treat them the same way. The only reason I don't kick off with them over the stuff that annoys me is because I know they're probably semi-drunk most of the time and not totally compos mentis so they don't actually know what they're doing or saying.
 
I've just been offered my 3rd renewal of a 6 month shorthold assured tenancy so it's been empty for 12 months to the best of my knowledge and I've never heard a sound up there. I pity anyone who takes on that flat though as they will have to be next door neighbours with the problem resident who sits out on the upstairs landing everyday and evening with her lager drinking scouse mates screaming, shouting, and heckling, and generally being very irritating. I bet nobody has lived in the flat above me for longer than 6 months while that loud/crazy scouse woman has been in this building !

I suppose, rather than the potential tenant walking around "like a herd of elephants", you may a bit more sensitive to it given you've had no-one above you since you have lived there.

Unfortunately, as @tom_e has said - that's just something you'll need to get used to
 
For most of my life I've rented and moved around a lot and lived in exclusive/detached homes where I never even met any of my neighbours or even saw their faces to know who they were. Things changed not long ago and I can't afford that luxury lifestyle anymore so I've been forced to interact with very close neighbours much more lately. I'm doing okay but it's a struggle always trying to keep the peace and be nice so I'm just wondering how you lot deal with your neighbours and prevent wars over "issues"?
good neighbours are worth their weight in gold, it can be the difference between loving where you live and being in a hell hole....... <touch wood> I have always been blessed with good ones (Though i like to think that in part that is down to us as well...... we are good to them, they are good to us).

when i 1st bought the house both sides were elderly, when they got too old to manage themselves i cut their hedge, and even made them christmas lunch on their final xmas in the home (no comment on why their child - in his 40s - didnt help out).. in return, they sometimes baked us cakes or sausage rolls, or gave us excess veg from the garden and even some flower seeds.

then when they passed we had much younger neighbours, different for sure and i know one side had a huge bust up with his other neighbour. I kind of understand why, they had kids who were polite and friendly.... but noisy, and its true some of their friends are rough around the edges with some spicy language, and a few times a year they have very raucous house parties which go on to the early hrs (truth be told had we not had our lad i would have gotten to know them more and then been able to join them!).

but to be honest.... life is about give and take and so long as its only a few times a year (and its a friday or saturday night) then good on em, and they were friendly enough, YOLO and am sure i make a bit of a row on occaison...... So the way i see it its all about give and take.

of course if you really get asshat nieghbours there is not much you can do, and every time we get new ones it is a genuine worry........ just do your best to be reasonable and if they do something which you do need to complain about try to do it tactfully.
 
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