£10,000 And I Don't Want It!! Arrghhhh!
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i can understand where you are coming from OP.
i would be very uncomfortable in that situation. i can earn my own money and my pride would force me to refuse something i would really like!
however, maybe take a step back and look at from another point of view. he obviously value his past relationship with you and now earns more money than he can sensibly spend. buying trinkets gets old fast but here he is with an opportunity to make an old friend and his family happy with what he considers very little money.
maybe talk to him and voice your concerns so he can put your mind at rest that he doesn't expect anything in return and that he genuinely only wants to give you a gift, a gift that would mean a lot more to you than it would if he spent it himself on an expensive toy.
i would be very uncomfortable in that situation. i can earn my own money and my pride would force me to refuse something i would really like!
however, maybe take a step back and look at from another point of view. he obviously value his past relationship with you and now earns more money than he can sensibly spend. buying trinkets gets old fast but here he is with an opportunity to make an old friend and his family happy with what he considers very little money.
maybe talk to him and voice your concerns so he can put your mind at rest that he doesn't expect anything in return and that he genuinely only wants to give you a gift, a gift that would mean a lot more to you than it would if he spent it himself on an expensive toy.
A little bit more info would be nice. What is your current financial situation? Are you struggling to make ends meet each month? Are you comfortable? have a car, house etc and holiday each year or something?
TBH cash it, find highest paying account you can, put it in there and forget about it until you REALLY need it.
TBH cash it, find highest paying account you can, put it in there and forget about it until you REALLY need it.
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charity, but if it were me I would have taken it no problem on the basis I would have done the same if I was rich. £4k a day? fk me some people are way over paid. Nothing wrong with sharing the wealth, unless it's communism that is.
Thinking the same thing.
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Cash it in and use it for your childrens college fund or something.
Seriously, if that's only 2 days pay to him, he is happy to do it.
Seriously, if that's only 2 days pay to him, he is happy to do it.
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While I would say give it back I can see why he may have given you the cheque.
You were best mates for 10 years! Had you not been friends maybe he would not have been such a success. He must have had friends since 1996 but the friends you have at certain times of your life can influence somtimes what seems like small changes that change the direction of your life.
I realise you don't wish to accept the cheque but if I were him I would give £10,000, maybe more to friends I have know through out my life.
I guess he gave you the cheque to thank you for being such a good mate back when you had no money. He may feel guilty about how much he earns and it's his way of helping others BUT people he knows rather than just unknown strangers.
I know people with money who wouldn't give away £100, if you give the money back it would be just another £10,000 in his bank balance.
He hopes you put the money to better use than he would. With the money he's got now how can he be sure who are REAL friends are? Should you accept the cheque I would buy him a small gift but try to think of something that has sentimental value.
Whatever ever you decide I wish you both the best for the future.
You were best mates for 10 years! Had you not been friends maybe he would not have been such a success. He must have had friends since 1996 but the friends you have at certain times of your life can influence somtimes what seems like small changes that change the direction of your life.
I realise you don't wish to accept the cheque but if I were him I would give £10,000, maybe more to friends I have know through out my life.
I guess he gave you the cheque to thank you for being such a good mate back when you had no money. He may feel guilty about how much he earns and it's his way of helping others BUT people he knows rather than just unknown strangers.
I know people with money who wouldn't give away £100, if you give the money back it would be just another £10,000 in his bank balance.
He hopes you put the money to better use than he would. With the money he's got now how can he be sure who are REAL friends are? Should you accept the cheque I would buy him a small gift but try to think of something that has sentimental value.
Whatever ever you decide I wish you both the best for the future.
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cash it in - he wants you too, and think nothing of it.
WOW - thanks for the replies and yes i still can't believe how lucky i am. I've talked it over with my friend today and told him my thoughts and reservations. He finds it hilarious. 'spend it. enjoy it!' he kept telling me.
So after much thinking and persuading it's been decided that i will cash the cheque and we are going to put £5000 each into my 2 kids trust funds and my friend is happy with this. I didn't want to think i owed my mate something as i thought he was just coming to visit for a drink and a catch up. It was very surreal.
To answer some other questions he contacted me through Facebook and i do think he is lonely. He's divorced with 2 little kids and lives alone. Although he told me "I'm pretty encouragable with woman " so i guess he's not that lonely!. He travels around the world a lot , a couple of days in a different country every week.
Anyway , that's one of the strangest weekends I've ever had. Bank 1st thing tomorrow then transfer the cash over into the trust funds.
So after much thinking and persuading it's been decided that i will cash the cheque and we are going to put £5000 each into my 2 kids trust funds and my friend is happy with this. I didn't want to think i owed my mate something as i thought he was just coming to visit for a drink and a catch up. It was very surreal.
To answer some other questions he contacted me through Facebook and i do think he is lonely. He's divorced with 2 little kids and lives alone. Although he told me "I'm pretty encouragable with woman " so i guess he's not that lonely!. He travels around the world a lot , a couple of days in a different country every week.
Anyway , that's one of the strangest weekends I've ever had. Bank 1st thing tomorrow then transfer the cash over into the trust funds.
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Well, if he's lonely, spend as much time with him as you can, like old days. He'll appreciate it big time.
Money can change people for the worse most of the time, it's good to see it hasn't changed him.