2023 - how's it been for you?
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Soldato
Cheers. It was caught early'ish. So no detectable spread. Had a kidney whipped out and two thirds of the way through a course of chemo just in case!
Thanks, Hades. Best thing I did was talk, got me through some bleak times.
It's all made me strangely more confident in a relaxed kind of way. Hard to explain.
Soldato
Worse year of my life.
Got covid last year, dropped my oxygen to 73%. I recovered from covid. But my oxygen levels never fully came back.
So I've spent the year in bed.
I'm hoping I'll recover next year at some point.
Got covid last year, dropped my oxygen to 73%. I recovered from covid. But my oxygen levels never fully came back.
So I've spent the year in bed.
I'm hoping I'll recover next year at some point.
8 year relationship broke down early part of the year, tried to commit suicide, ended up with crisis team and many months worth of counselling. Life got easier during Summer, albeit still with those difficult memories. Now Christmas is coming and looking forward to spending much needed time with family.
A year of two halves
A year of two halves
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I know someone who went into stage 3 and he fully recovered, rang the bell about 6 months ago. I also know a stage 2 and 1 right now and both going through recovery and is doing good.
Head up high.
Mine was similar. Testicular cancer. Removed. Then radiotherapy. Completely changed my outlook on life too, in a positive way. Most problems become just minor issues after that.
Glad it's probably sorted. Take care.
Soldato
I had just retired in january 2018 and thought I'd get the GP check on my prostate. No big issues, just a reluctance to wee. Later after a couple of high PSA results and not one but two biopsies I was confirmed with a cancer.
Just before Covid hit I had the whole prostate removed, any later and I could have been faced with a wait. I have no real side effects, i recovered my bladder function early (a main concern), and now at 71 live a normal fairly fit life. I just have six monthly blood checks and It too has made me feel more relaxed.
To anybody going through this you have my sincere best wishes.
Just before Covid hit I had the whole prostate removed, any later and I could have been faced with a wait. I have no real side effects, i recovered my bladder function early (a main concern), and now at 71 live a normal fairly fit life. I just have six monthly blood checks and It too has made me feel more relaxed.
To anybody going through this you have my sincere best wishes.
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Great year
Paid a chunk of mortgage off after cashing in endowment that was due to end 2024
Ticked jerusalem and tel aviv off bucket list and took religious uncle along for the ride
Started a new job with a brilliant company increasing take home by a third
Got the new hybrid estate car I've been wanting for years
Got 2 sunny holidays booked for next year already
Paid a chunk of mortgage off after cashing in endowment that was due to end 2024
Ticked jerusalem and tel aviv off bucket list and took religious uncle along for the ride
Started a new job with a brilliant company increasing take home by a third
Got the new hybrid estate car I've been wanting for years
Got 2 sunny holidays booked for next year already
Started well. Ended crap. Family doing well. Massive pay rise for the wife at beginning of the year so planning loads of home changes and travel for 2024. Got to go to events for work and travel. Promotions and new projects for me.
December, wife decides she wants to focus on herself. End relationship of 15 years 2 weeks before Christmas. All her reasoning sounds like a midlife crisis at 40 but she says she is fine and won’t seek help. Started counselling for myself so I can get through and focus on my kids. 2024 shaping up to be a challenge.
December, wife decides she wants to focus on herself. End relationship of 15 years 2 weeks before Christmas. All her reasoning sounds like a midlife crisis at 40 but she says she is fine and won’t seek help. Started counselling for myself so I can get through and focus on my kids. 2024 shaping up to be a challenge.
Not a great year but could be worse.
Had lingering effects from COVID all year though nothing serious - first 3 months had bouts of mild to moderate fatigue and also took 3 months for sense of smell to recover, 12 months on digestive system is still mildly irritable, quality of sleep isn't great (probably due to digestive system often a touch unsettled), still randomly get fatigue but fairly rare now. Nothing major but it is a bit of a drag with it always lingering in the background. I think it also had an impact on insulin production/use as for a bit I started to get pre-diabetes like symptoms but that seems to have mostly gone away.
Work has been increasingly frustrating as people generally seem to care less and less about doing a good job since things started to get back more towards normal from the pandemic.
Grandad died early in the year - the last of that generation of my relatives so kind of the end of an era, interestingly he was the oldest of that generation but lived the longest.
Had lingering effects from COVID all year though nothing serious - first 3 months had bouts of mild to moderate fatigue and also took 3 months for sense of smell to recover, 12 months on digestive system is still mildly irritable, quality of sleep isn't great (probably due to digestive system often a touch unsettled), still randomly get fatigue but fairly rare now. Nothing major but it is a bit of a drag with it always lingering in the background. I think it also had an impact on insulin production/use as for a bit I started to get pre-diabetes like symptoms but that seems to have mostly gone away.
Work has been increasingly frustrating as people generally seem to care less and less about doing a good job since things started to get back more towards normal from the pandemic.
Grandad died early in the year - the last of that generation of my relatives so kind of the end of an era, interestingly he was the oldest of that generation but lived the longest.
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Crap, we got smashed by a cyclone.
Soldato
Bit of a meh year really. Avoided redundancy by skin of my teeth, for another year anyway. Paid another 25k off the mortgage. Got a new kitchen. Got two new kittens. Nothing really bad happened. A win I guess.
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I think that this year has been one of the best I've had in years, perhaps a decade. However, the first half of the year was pretty rubbish with the last 6 months a real turnaround.
1. Hated my job and was terribly underpaid. I am an early career process engineer and had real fear that I was being deskilled and had wasted my degree. However, I have a new job at a great company, doing exactly what I wanted to do and have nearly doubled my remuneration.
2. My young son was doing very poorly in school, behind in most topics and frequent reports of terrible behaviour. On waiting list for several neuro diverse conditions. This period was very upsetting and demoralising. However, a new school year and teacher (plus all the early years teachers left) and he gets great feedback, many school awards and is back on target for all topics. What a difference a summer holiday makes...
3. The wife has gone back into teaching following a career break and has doubled her salary. In combination with my pay rise we have been really pretty wealthy, the first time we've ever felt this way. Money does not make you happy but it certainly makes things easier.
I'm hoping 2034 will be a continuation of the second half of 2023 and that my family and I will have a good life going forward.
1. Hated my job and was terribly underpaid. I am an early career process engineer and had real fear that I was being deskilled and had wasted my degree. However, I have a new job at a great company, doing exactly what I wanted to do and have nearly doubled my remuneration.
2. My young son was doing very poorly in school, behind in most topics and frequent reports of terrible behaviour. On waiting list for several neuro diverse conditions. This period was very upsetting and demoralising. However, a new school year and teacher (plus all the early years teachers left) and he gets great feedback, many school awards and is back on target for all topics. What a difference a summer holiday makes...
3. The wife has gone back into teaching following a career break and has doubled her salary. In combination with my pay rise we have been really pretty wealthy, the first time we've ever felt this way. Money does not make you happy but it certainly makes things easier.
I'm hoping 2034 will be a continuation of the second half of 2023 and that my family and I will have a good life going forward.
Soldato
Pretty mixed bag but a lot of good stuff happened, so ending the year feeling great:
Started a new job under my old boss as I was stagnating in a role that didn't fit me. Change was needed but I was less than happy about the small payrise despite now line managing and looking after facilities/relationships. Also not thrilled about working full time on-premises. Still love the people in my company but the pressure right now is almost untenable and will continue until at least June 2024.
New job accelerated the move into a house we bought in 2022 and were dragging our heels to renovate. Since moving out of a house share and into our own place, my relationship of 10 years turned a corner and we are happier than ever. For at least 6 years I had been uncertain whether I should stay in the relationship, but now we are just thrilled to have our new little bubble together. Sure makes it easier to leave work behind at 5.30pm
Made decent progress on home renovation but still tons more to do - the longer I'm here the further away finishing seems. But hopefully 2024 will be mostly spent sorting the house and not spending time at work.
Moving house meant I saw my mum a lot more as we stored some bits at hers for a while. This is good as she's 73 and finally showing signs of being old/fragile. She had some kind of accident this year (wouldn't tell me what) where she had 2 black eyes and injured arms. Sister looked after her for a week and kind neighbours took over, but still worrying.
Fell out with my father in law during the house move and did some permanent damage to our relationship. Grim times involving some threatening behaviour but we've moved on without addressing it as we can't just turn our backs on family.
All in all I'm happy for today and hopeful for tomorrow. Low level depression is always hanging around and work politics is fairly **** but thankfully both those issues can be ignored when I'm busy with nice people!
Started a new job under my old boss as I was stagnating in a role that didn't fit me. Change was needed but I was less than happy about the small payrise despite now line managing and looking after facilities/relationships. Also not thrilled about working full time on-premises. Still love the people in my company but the pressure right now is almost untenable and will continue until at least June 2024.
New job accelerated the move into a house we bought in 2022 and were dragging our heels to renovate. Since moving out of a house share and into our own place, my relationship of 10 years turned a corner and we are happier than ever. For at least 6 years I had been uncertain whether I should stay in the relationship, but now we are just thrilled to have our new little bubble together. Sure makes it easier to leave work behind at 5.30pm
Made decent progress on home renovation but still tons more to do - the longer I'm here the further away finishing seems. But hopefully 2024 will be mostly spent sorting the house and not spending time at work.
Moving house meant I saw my mum a lot more as we stored some bits at hers for a while. This is good as she's 73 and finally showing signs of being old/fragile. She had some kind of accident this year (wouldn't tell me what) where she had 2 black eyes and injured arms. Sister looked after her for a week and kind neighbours took over, but still worrying.
Fell out with my father in law during the house move and did some permanent damage to our relationship. Grim times involving some threatening behaviour but we've moved on without addressing it as we can't just turn our backs on family.
All in all I'm happy for today and hopeful for tomorrow. Low level depression is always hanging around and work politics is fairly **** but thankfully both those issues can be ignored when I'm busy with nice people!
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@Pawnless Endgame whats wrong with your eyes?
Soldato
Total loss of all hair ( head & body ) , diagnosed with Pernicious Anemia & "high risk" Prostate cancer ( gleason 8/10 )
Not a fan of 2023 at all
Not a fan of 2023 at all
Soldato
Decent. Moved abroad after a few years of planning.
Documentation etc is now all pretty much sorted and we’ve settled on a plot of land and house.
2024 will be a big year for us I think with the build starting and hopefully finishing.
Documentation etc is now all pretty much sorted and we’ve settled on a plot of land and house.
2024 will be a big year for us I think with the build starting and hopefully finishing.