This is also with AMD on a less dense process, with Zen 2 vs whatever Intel have next AMD will have a seemingly on par or even better process. Many dies vs one die is winning for AMD with a fairly hefty process disadvantage, when the processes are on par if anything the gap between Zen 2 and the successor to Skylake-SP could be even bigger. If AMD are winning enough business to be financially viable, the extra die space available with 7nm could make AMD add a vastly more lanes to their interconnect link to start going after 4 and 8 way systems, though the volume of them and the requirement of an extra die to tape out might make it not all that worthwhile, those extra links would be a complete waste of die space on every other platform. But that is the good thing about infinity fabric, it's completely scaleable as it was designed to just put in as much as you want or need.
By all accounts GF are using a IBM's 7nm process which largely is the same as Intel's coming 10nm process (atleast on paper - GF seem to manage to screw up even 1:1 copies of another companies node somehow) the 7nm process has some slight advantages but largely they will just make it a little easier for designing purposes and have little impact on realworld performance or yields, etc.
You are massively underestimating Intel though - they've been working on all the stuff relevant to IF and so on for years (doesn't take 2 seconds of googling to find dozens of whitepapers they've published on that kind of stuff and pdfs detailing where they've worked with other companies on developing similar features etc.) they've just been artificially holding it back and trickling in feature updates to their own advantage - for instance there are changes in the way cores communicate that emerged in Knights Landing that they'd done all the work on years back and could have released much earlier.