Asked for daughters hand over email...
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Did you get a reply from the dad yet? I assume you have, this isn't the sort of thing you let hang around in your Inbox unread for a couple of days 
Did you get a reply from the dad yet? I assume you have, this isn't the sort of thing you let hang around in your Inbox unread for a couple of days
Yeah he did, I think it got lost within the rage posts lol, was at the top of page 3 or 4 I think.
I confess, I haven't read the thread, don't need to. EPIC FAIL!! At at least you asked.
Would you call it off if he said no?
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No, but that wasn't the point I was making. As I have stated, bold, in your quote.
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Right just to try and clear things up. I never made this thread to either make my choice of communicative methods feel right or wrong. I simply thought it was quite funny and if you look at many of the posts at the beginning, it was a joke and as expected there were plenty of /facepalms and epic fail images. I didnt create this so I could argue and justify the finer points of respect or how out-dated the concept was, I chose to do it that way, when I thought about it, it seemed quite a daft/funny way to do it and I thought I would share.
The father IS NOT a member on here....
The wife to be, knew that I had done this and was quite supportive and I even passed the email by her first as she wanted to know what I was going to say.
The father replied within a few hours, thanking me for asking for his opinnion and agreed to discuss the finer points with his wife and I this Sunday.
My wife to be, spoke to her father, who mentioned that I had been in touch with him...she pretended to not know...he said he had some good news to talk about this weekend and she said he sounded happy.
Right just to try and clear things up. I never made this thread to either make my choice of communicative methods feel right or wrong. I simply thought it was quite funny and if you look at many of the posts at the beginning, it was a joke and as expected there were plenty of /facepalms and epic fail images. I didnt create this so I could argue and justify the finer points of respect or how out-dated the concept was, I chose to do it that way, when I thought about it, it seemed quite a daft/funny way to do it and I thought I would share.
The father IS NOT a member on here....
The wife to be, knew that I had done this and was quite supportive and I even passed the email by her first as she wanted to know what I was going to say.
The father replied within a few hours, thanking me for asking for his opinnion and agreed to discuss the finer points with his wife and I this Sunday.
My wife to be, spoke to her father, who mentioned that I had been in touch with him...she pretended to not know...he said he had some good news to talk about this weekend and she said he sounded happy.
To be fair mate, whatever people say here, we don't know you, your missus or her father. It all seems to have worked out well, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. Good luck to you both.
Indeed, the realities are never as black and white as they come across. However, I would still make the point of asking him in person, even if you have to explain why you are doing so.
Oh, and congratulations
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Thank you
I quite agree, thats why the thread was fine while it was just a load of people saying epic failz and lulz and the like.
When it gets to the point when people suggest I have no balls or am missing a spine, or even to the degree that a mod felt the need to star out something they deemed as a 'personal attack' then its going a bit far
It's so obvious you have just fabricated the 'everyone is happy' story as you couldn't handle the OCUK burn.
I for one, shall not be fooled by it.
Well it's only respect if you care what he says isn't it?
I agree about lack of respect nowadays and think it's a big problem, but I still won't be asking my girlfriend's dad if I can marry her, it seems a bit pointless
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Yes, IMHO it is wrong to ask at all.
I did not ask my wife's parents we told them it was happening as a fait accompli. Again, this is my opinion, but in 2009, but fathers do not own daughters: in my case my wife was 30 and I was 27 - we were old enough to make our own decisions - and not live by the approval of our parents. If you follow Raymond's logic then my wife should have asked my parents permission as they had brought me up too.
Fortunately, all involved were extremely pleased in my case
Who said it's anything to do with approval? It's just a mark of respect. It's just showing the father that you consider him an important part of your partners (and your own) life to include him in your plans. I suspect any man who is asked these days is well aware it's not about permission, it's just a conversation, man to man, about someone very important to you both.
I would expect a guy to come to me should he marry my daughter. Again, not for permission, because i have no doubt that it's not required, but because this man will be replacing me as the most important man in my daughter's life... therefore he should be able to address me as an equal.
I would expect a guy to come to me should he marry my daughter. Again, not for permission, because i have no doubt that it's not required, but because this man will be replacing me as the most important man in my daughter's life... therefore he should be able to address me as an equal.
But is this not what I am saying? I addressed them as equals by telling them the decision my (now) wife and I had made together. None of this two guys going out for pint to discuss the possession of a women.