Can't believe I'm doing this...

.Sean said:
I've now got my very own OcUK relationship thread. I've got no where else to go. :(

Girlfriend of 2 years found questionable images on one of my old hard drives after she went through my PC while I was out. Came home to an "I'm sorry" text message. I asked what was up, she told me she found a folder full of naked Asian girls. :eek:

Queue a very long night of apologizing and comforting as best as I could, but it really didn't work at all. I explained to her that I forgot I even had that sort of stuff on my PC and that it meant nothing. This didn't help, she's just simply too self conscious. Her theory is that I shouldn't have to ever use pornography or look at/think about other women. She thinks that she's not perfect to me, not beautiful, etc. which is all of course not true. I think she's amazing and one of the best things that's ever happened to me. She is beautiful, I love her. Again, none of this got through to her.

Next question was if I have ever watched porn while we've been dating. I couldn't lie to her and I told her I have, but it doesn't make me some sort of scumbag or mean that I love her/think of her any less. I couldn't even explain why men do it, just that we do.

She told me she felt sick/disgusted and wanted me to leave her alone. :(

What the hell do I do now? :confused: I wish I just lied to her but I couldn't bring myself to do it..
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Tell her that you only look at porn because you don't have any sexy naked pictures and videos of HER to look at when she isn't around. Then she can either provide you with said material or STFU.
 
Yeah she needs to get a hell of a grip. She wants to 'CONTROL' you that's what the problem is. There is a lot worse than a couple of images.

Granted guys with gf's don't particularly need any material due to having the real deal, but it happens. This doesn't mean that you want what you see....

sigh
 
All men watch porn and masturbate, the only variable is how regularly. At 22 I'd imagine the average is quite high :)

She thus only has 2 options, be alone or find a liar with shame issues who'll probably beat her.

Sucks to be her.
 
My girlfriend found some links to porn sites on my laptop which I had stupidly bookmarked on IE as I never used it and the only link to it was in Start > All Programs. The bookmarks were some of the more 'random' sites too which made it all the more worse.

She had a moan and got upset for an hour or two but got over it. She even posts on this forum so if she reads this it may bring back some unfortunate memories :D.
 
Mr Joshua said:
Women like this are more trouble than they are worth.

The endless effort of trying to convince them otherwise becomes such a chore it ends up driving you insane.
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This. Trust me.

I lived with a bloke who's g/f was insufferable, she had trust issues like no other, insecure is too tame a word and it effectively turned into domestic abuse (as a group of genuinely concerned friends we sought advice and came across some 'domestic abuse checklist' of which she satisfied 12 of 16 criteria.

As bad as you feel now and as harsh as it sounds, you may well have dodged a bullet there matey.
 
My gf knows I watch porn, she's not the happiest about it but she accepts its what happens when your a 19 year old! It keeps me sane considering she lives 140 miles away and I only see her every 2 weeks when she's at uni.
 
Tell her you will get rid of the folder, if she provides you with her own material instead! OCUK will help you verify that the replacement pictures are acceptable :D
 
Women who can't deal with a guy watching porn = avoid/mental
Women who try and go through your computer/phone etc = avoid/mental

You need to find a woman who'll walk in on you watching porn and suggest that you copy what's happening on screen. Those are the best kind.
 
Somnambulist said:
Women who can't deal with a guy watching porn = avoid/mental
Women who try and go through your computer/phone etc = avoid/mental

You need to find a woman who'll walk in on you watching porn and suggest that you copy what's happening on screen. Those are the best kind.
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Easier said than done these days when 75% (wild guess) of women have confidence issues and kick up a fuss if they even catch you looking in the direction of some fit bird. Blame the media, if they aint size 0, with an airbrushed face and legs longer than goalposts they think their unattractive.
 
She sounds like she still has the belief of the perfect fairytale romance/relationship, which just doesn't exist. As said she isn't perfect, neither are you or any of us for that matter.

Your can try and make her feel better, but ultimately you have to be honest, as at the end of they day you will watch stuff again, so no point backing down saying you won't from now on.
 
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