What bothers me is her perceived "martyrdom" of how it's so hard for her to go through this, and how she's discovered her true self etc...
Not really love. You were married with kids and decided life was a bit boring for you and you wanted a bit of nookie in the side.
If a bloke did the same and wrote a book about it, he'd be utterly chastised for abandoning his family and responsibilities to get his leg over.
Do you not think that for some people sex is an important part of a relationship?
As for the last part the only people who'd think that are the same ones throwing insults at this woman, or people who probably want to do the same.
I'd suggest people who believe a guy wouldn't 'get away' with this or that he'd be attacked for it go and inform themselves by reading or listening to some sex positive people actually talk about their experiences and the thinking behind it.
She is a horrible despicable immoral woman. If it had been an open arrangement from the start fair enough but it wasn't.
I am going to strip this all back and there are three fundamental elements and you can bet they were at the absolute front of her mind despite the rhetoric.
1) she wanted to legitimise multiple affairs and vindicate herself from all responsibility.
2) she wanted a divorce but knew that adultery would result in her losing a considerable financial entitlement in a divorce settlement so by legitimising this and her husband's acceptance she retained her security.
3) if this is the type of person she was, no wonder her husband was beaten from the start. I would say this was total emotional blackmail and abuse through the relationship towards him certainly in the latter stages. She knew it and dominated the control.
Way to assume the worst. Is there anything in the article to back up anything you suggested?
Read the husbands view if you haven't. He clearly wanted to stay with her and try and make it work but he's a one woman guy and the idea of letting his wife get involved with other people wasn't something he wanted. For some reason he's considered weak for this
Hardly abuse, they were in counselling, he was aware she'd been unhappy for a while... He's an adult and responsible for his own wellbeing, she made a decision for her own wellbeing and clearly it wasn't compatible with him.