How many DINKs here?

Part of my wishes we had had children younger, but at the same time we wouldn't have been able to have lived the life we had, travel and save up for the house / home we've got, and neither perhaps the career I've got myself into.

I'll be in my 50s with teenagers which I'm sure will be fine, but it also adds another layer of complexity. This is why I keep myself so fit and healthy, to be available to support my children as long as I can.

That said after our second I got the snip as I was very very blessed with what I had and couldn't cope with any more.
 
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Was a DINK until 34. 41 now. Wish I had my children earlier but the wife went through some unsuccessful pregnancies but we got what we wanted in the end.
Some "parents" should be DINK's! There are so many terrible parents out there with children who are unloved, which goes on to damage them mentally and emotionally.
 
Haggisman said:
Well, that depends how long your list is :p
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Mainly travelling and things that required a good degree of physicality - some holidays and times away even in country would be prohibitive with general age related factors coming into play. Neither of us are resort or beach worshippers, a holiday for us is an opportunity to get out and explore, hikes, boat trips, some climbing, etc.

413x said:
So you have the choice of kids or other things (travel is a big one).
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Yup - I can honestly say travel is the only thing I would have regretted not doing had we started a family earlier.
 
ttaskmaster said:
What aspects might they be then, and what makes you think they're positives for the people that don't want kids?
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Already been mentioned a few times in the thread, but it's mostly the intangible little things like the way their face lights up when they see you after work, the random **** they come out with, the pride when you see them achieve something through hard work and determination, having someone to teach the ways of the world (and teach you a few things themselves :D). Basically just experiences you can't get anywhere else (in exactly the same way as e.g. travelling to other cultures etc.).

Like I said - those things are more important to some people than others, neither is right/wrong/better/worse.
 
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I'm a DIK and happy about it

We both knew we wanted kids and it was just a question of when. Ended up having one after we got our house sorted. Then waited a few years before having a second and will stop there. Will probably get the snip later in the year
 
Subjecting innocent sperm and egg cells to several years of schooling and then 50+ years of drudgury at work.
I genuinely feel sorry for some of the kids starting work, as they don't even realise there are roses to smell
 
Freefaller said:
That said after our second I got the snip as I was very very blessed with what I had and couldn't cope with any more.
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This is the bit I'm stuck on. We had one. Super stoked with one but was going to get the snip, just building up the courage to become a eunuch. But then we had a scare a few weeks ago and suddenly we're now wondering if we want to have another before the scissors do their job.
 
SixTwoSix said:
Mainly travelling and things that required a good degree of physicality - some holidays and times away even in country would be prohibitive with general age related factors coming into play. Neither of us are resort or beach worshippers, a holiday for us is an opportunity to get out and explore, hikes, boat trips, some climbing, etc.



Yup - I can honestly say travel is the only thing I would have regretted not doing had we started a family earlier.
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Most people now are far fitter than they used to be. Still leading a really active lifestyle into their 60's. Tom Cruise is 60 and he isn't slowing down. We did Samaria Gorge just before lockdown with plenty of older people who didn't hold us back.

I went to America, Australia and Japan in my early twenties but with an older level head I would have much more enjoyed it as a holiday than simply looking to get drunk and hook up with girls. I skimmed through the Kennedy Space centre in half a day. That wouldn't happen now and not only that I would understand it hell of a lot better.
 
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People generally try to make the best decision they can, and that extends to having children, or not. I can see why some people choose not to have children, and that's their decision to make.

I have three kids, and my big regrets are not starting earlier and not having more. My wife and I would have liked more, but it just didn't work out.

I don't worry too much about the future state of the world, as I can't know or change that.
 
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adam cool dude said:
Most people now are far fitter than they used to be. Still leading a really active lifestyle into their 60's. Tom Cruise is 60 and he isn't slowing down. We did Samaria Gorge just before lockdown with plenty of older people who didn't hold us back.

I went to America, Australia and Japan in my early twenties but with an older level head I would have much more enjoyed it as a holiday than simply looking to get drunk and hook up with girls. I skimmed through the Kennedy Space centre in half a day. That wouldn't happen now and not only that I would understand it hell of a lot better.
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It's just a generalisation, we've seen many older active folk during our travels but we preferred to do it while we definitely had mobility, also, life can change in an instant so quickly. I'm already experiencing some unexpected back issues that may be genetic which might prohibit a lot I can do over the next decade. (this is coincidental, only recently discovered, had no bearing on our family timing decisions).
 
DINK here, definitely no Y.

Very happy with the decision. Being a pair of what I must begrudgingly call middle-aged professionals is a very comfortable existence in this country. Not having any financial stress or commitments is immensely liberating.

I have a lot of sympathy for people low down the income scales that do want to raise kids though, miserable times.
 
drakulton said:
Subjecting innocent sperm and egg cells to several years of schooling and then 50+ years of drudgury at work.
I genuinely feel sorry for some of the kids starting work, as they don't even realise there are roses to smell
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Surely that all comes down to giving them the best chances they can in life. You never know, your offspring might invent/develop something that turns them into a billionaire. Not everyone will grind it for 60 years in a minimum wage job until they drop.
 
SixTwoSix said:
It's just a generalisation, we've seen many older active folk during our travels but we preferred to do it while we definitely had mobility, also, life can change in an instant so quickly. I'm already experiencing some unexpected back issues that may be genetic which might prohibit a lot I can do over the next decade. (this is coincidental, only recently discovered, had no bearing on our family timing decisions).
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You never know what's around the corner.
With how long it takes to get on your feet now (for me, owning a home) time is precious.

Simply not enough time to do it all for most.
I've chosen no kids to experience the world and basically give me more freedom.
Others choose kids and experience that side.

Some lucky one get to do both!
 
Semple said:
Surely that all comes down to giving them the best chances they can in life. You never know, your offspring might invent/develop something that turns them into a billionaire. Not everyone will grind it for 60 years in a minimum wage job until they drop.
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I wonder what the ratio of inventor/developer to grinder is?
 
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