How many DINKs here?

potatolord said:
I have three kids, and my big regrets are not starting earlier and not having more. My wife and I would have liked more, but it just didn't work out.
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Same here, but with 1 established and 1 on the way. I feel like there's room for another after the one currently in the oven but I don't think it'd be particularly fair to put pressure on being pregnant close to 40.

Why did you want more, by the way?
 
Currently a DINK and it’s pretty good - we’ve done a lot of great travelling but I don’t think I’ve been ready until now.

I don’t really want to miss out on the experience of children and it’s something that should keep on ‘giving’ until the end of your days.

There’s no doubt that the early years (and many after) are insanely hard.

I think of it like an ‘investment’. Horrible early years with some bright moments, but cool stuff later on - seeing them play their first instrument, or graduation, or doing whatever they choose to do and hopefully doing well. That’s something I’d like to see one day :)
 
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Zefan said:
Same here, but with 1 established and 1 on the way. I feel like there's room for another after the one currently in the oven but I don't think it'd be particularly fair to put pressure on being pregnant close to 40.

Why did you want more, by the way?
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Yeah, there's more risk for an older mum, for sure.

Mainly, I just like having small children about. Also, my two youngest (girls) would have loved to have a baby to fuss over. Selfishly, I'll miss things like the first day of school, teaching them to read and ride a bike (and learning to shoot arrows myself, as my boy wanted to do that). All the little things, which are actually the biggest things of all.

Thinking I will never hold another baby of mine is something that makes me a little sad. And I am, as my wife often tells me, not a very reflective person!
 
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People have to factor in risk too, it's not always as easy as 'just have a kid'.

Two of my friends with no underlying health issues nearly died in childbirth, one with her first, another with her second. Both unsurprisingly stopped after that, both were touch and go for a while.
 
potatolord said:
Yeah, there's more risk for an older mum, for sure.

Mainly, I just like having small children about. Also, my two youngest (girls) would have loved to have a baby to fuss over. Selfishly, I'll miss things like the first day of school, teaching them to read and ride a bike (and learning to shoot arrows myself, as my boy wanted to do that). All the little things, which are actually the biggest things of all.

Thinking I will never hold another baby of mine is something that makes me a little sad. And I am, as my wife often tells me, nor a very reflective person!
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Crazy but this all sounds so cliché to me.
I guess no kids for me might be right after all.
Trying to do what your parents failed to do for you but your version/interpretation
I'm not having a personal dig, I'm having an existential crisis :p
 
adidan said:
People have to factor in risk too, it's not always as easy as 'just have a kid'.

Two of my friends with no underlying health issues nearly died in childbirth, one with her first, another with her second. Both unsurprisingly stopped after that, both were touch and go for a while.
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Yup, very true! My other half had similar, had to have an emergency C-section, and I very nearly lost both of them. Needless to say, I had the snip as soon as everything had settled down :p
 
I think really people should focus on cleaning up the planet both environmentally and economically before even considering having kids otherwise you're literally dooming them to a devastatingly grim future
 
Minusorange said:
I think really people should focus on cleaning up the planet both environmentally and economically before even considering having kids otherwise you're literally dooming them to a devastatingly grim future
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Not having kids means I can burn my abstract carbon credits on myself.

Environmentally, not having kids is the biggest impact you can have on "going green".

This is no longer valid however if we got to a point where the next generation was truly, carbon neutral.
But that's not going to happen.
 
Efour said:
Crazy but this all sounds so cliché to me.
I guess no kids for me might be right after all.
Trying to do what your parents failed to do for you but your version/interpretation
I'm not having a personal dig, I'm having an existential crisis :p
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I don't mind being a cliché, as long as we're happy and my kids grow up to be decent people with the skills and confidence to do their best.

Like I said earlier, people make the best decision they can, so you have probably done that.

My parents did their best, and I am not trying to make up for any failure there. I just do my best, according to what I know.

No problem- I'm not taking it as a dig. We just want different things, and that's OK.
 
413x said:
This is no longer valid however if we got to a point where the next generation was truly, carbon neutral.
But that's not going to happen.
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Environmental impact isn't just being carbon neutral, it's also about not destroying ecosystems for new builds, the issue we have with plastic that everyone conveniently wants to ignore, only having a finite amount of resources to extract on the planet and many other things which impact the environment and the animals that live in it, it's a simple fact that, the more people there are, the less environment there is because we must live in our concrete jungles
 
potatolord said:
All the little things, which are actually the biggest things of all.
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I told myself during pregnancy I wont be one of those annoying parents who get overly hyped at their child doing something all kids do... Irony has a funny way as I am now that parent.

Whenever my girl does something for the first time I feel like I'm raising a prodigy. She's just starting to master walking and I'd be a liar if I said I wasn't literally jumping for joy when she managed to do several wobbly steps that even a drunkard would be ashamed to do. It was the same when she started weaning. She dipped something in some tomato sauce recently and it broke me - in a good way.
 
DINK, and not overly concerned about platinum87's opinions, which he generally peddles as facts.
 
Haggisman said:
Like I said - those things are more important to some people than others, neither is right/wrong/better/worse.
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And like I said, it's not a positive if you don't want it in the first place.

Pawnless Endgame said:
My bad, my bad :p TWin Income No Kids (TWINK) was the phrase / word my mum gave me, so she didn't know and obviously I didn't know either and didn't think any more of it.
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You're a TINK, then...

adam cool dude said:
Most people now are far fitter than they used to be.
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Really?
I went to the high street the other day and most people looked either overweight or just outright fat *******. Not exactly what I would consider to be fit.
Old people might be doing alright, but that's the result of a healthy lifestyle until recent times combined with medical science improvements.

drakulton said:
I wonder what the ratio of inventor/developer to grinder is?
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I guess it depends whether you're a TWINK on Grinder...
 
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