Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I so have to lol at the poetic justice of using women till "someone better comes along" and then getting one up the duff.
 
She's keeping it, we're finished.
I had no say in it..
Sort of hi, don't touch me, say your peace, I'm having it anyway, get out.

:(
 
secretspy said:
out of curiosity...how long do you guys get to know someone before you decide to make it official? as in become bf/gf?

It was a topic of conversation that came up in work today and it was interesting to hear everyone's opinions on what's too soon etc.
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for me it's always been more a case of how much time we've spent together, ie, spent 5 hours with a girl on the second date just making out, so we figured it'd be stupid not to declare ourselves a couple, another I'd traveed from reading to portsmouth twice and slept with her on the second date (also her birthdau) so we figured we were a couple.

but ideally i'd like to say maybe 2-3 weeks before you can really say you're a couple, in my instances, me and the partner had been talking online for a good couple of months, or known each other in person for a while before


and Nokin, sorry to hear that mate, always think it's unfair when the girl decides to keep it/terminate despite the man's view, just seems selfish to me, granted it's her body and all, but to not even consider the other's feelings, or the childs future =S
 
nokinidea said:
She's keeping it, we're finished.
I had no say in it..
Sort of hi, don't touch me, say your peace, I'm having it anyway, get out.

:(
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Any chance she might have set out to do this because she wants a baby, and you were just the "unlucky" sperm donor.

Or have you not been very supportive, hence her attitude. Not having a pop, just wondered due to your reaction to whats happened here, has she been given the same impression by you.

Has she said she wants you to play a part in the childs life/have you said you want to?
 
Ouch. Sounds like she was putting holes in the condoms my friend.

Anything you can do about child support? From the sounds of it, it doesn't sound as if you're going to actually be allowed to be a dad.
 
Any chance she might have set out to do this because she wants a baby, and you were just the "unlucky" sperm donor.
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I'd be lying if I said I wasn't thinking that as well.
She did rant at one point about being 35 and not getting younger..

Or have you not been very supportive, hence her attitude
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I said I'd write my thoughts down and give it to her, well that was what I went over to her place for this evening.
Basically I text her this just now so that sums up what I wrote originally (all be it I DID write the original in a very insensitive way.)

I am obviously an insensitive *******
I said I'd support you if you chose to abort it, you took that as "I want you to kill it"
I said I didn't have the money to support the child, you thought I was audacious in the way I explained it.
I said I don't want kids, you said I should have said so on the dating site.
You said it was clinically written and insensitive, I was only trying to get to the point without going round the houses about it.
No matter what I write or wrote, my feelings are not what matters right now and all I was trying to do was for you to feel at ease that I would be there for you.
But you don't want that either because of my stern view that I don't want it.
You are totally correct and for that and everything else I apologise... signed off..
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No matter what I write or wrote, my feelings are not what matters right now and all I was trying to do was for you to feel at ease that I would be there for you
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As hard as it might be for you right now, the only part of what you txt her thats important is the bit I have quoted above, and I hope when you have both had time to let things sink in (even if she has done this on purpose to have herself her baby) that the bit I have quoted is the bit you can both concentrate on.
:)
 
Sounds typical, you say one thing they think the opposite, I knew someone like that, self destructive pessimist. Always took anything you said and assumed it meant something bad.
 
nokinidea said:
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't thinking that as well.
She did rant at one point about being 35 and not getting younger..


I said I'd write my thoughts down and give it to her, well that was what I went over to her place for this evening.
Basically I text her this just now so that sums up what I wrote originally (all be it I DID write the original in a very insensitive way.)
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Sorry to hear all that dude. I guess with online dating you should have been a lot more cautious when having sex, to late saying that mind.

Dont beat yourself up so much about it, it does infact "look" like she may have instigated it, but then again she might not have.

Put your thoughts about yourself first before hers and the childs. Im sure some disagree with that and its fine, you live once and you should be happy first.

I think what you said with the text was spot on and in this situation the only thing you can be is direct and to the point, even if she is emotional right now you still have to make sure you get your opinions across.
 
rghjones said:
Probably too much of a personal question, but I was wondering if anyone here had used any "adult" dating sites?
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like the ones advertised on pof ?


haha Ive had a look for a laugh once or twice never botherd signing up they look a little to seedy for me plus what if my boss found out :D
 
rghjones said:
Probably too much of a personal question, but I was wondering if anyone here had used any "adult" dating sites?
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Yeah, it's full of fake profiles and a waste of time.

Nokinidea, you have completely spoiled the internet dating thread. :p

I appreciate the seriousness for you and do feel for you, but from an outsiders point of view following this thread, it's pretty funny. Sorry.
 
I've ran the situation by some of the girls at work and a lot of them think she set out to find a "sperm doner" from the very beginning.
One thing one of the girls at work said was that when you are a day late for your period you dont think OMFGG there and then and go and get a pregnancy test kit and book yourself a doctors appointment, you think "ahh it's a day late, it'll probably start tomorrow"..

Another thing that I remember vaguely from last night is "apparently" I was obviously not fussed about the worries of pregnancy when she mentioned she came on last month and I didn't make a song and dance about it then.
Err, why would I, women have been having periods every month... forever, why would I have needed to show some skewed emotion over it, You said you were on the ****ing pill!
No way of knowing if she had a current prescription running for the pill though is there...:/
 
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