Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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People often confuse being too nice with being too boring too. Women don't want a door mat, no matter how nice that door mat is! :p

Be nice, but be confident, self assured and independent.
 
Russinating said:
Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. PoF is a bit hit and miss

RE: What's left, have you tried OkCupid?
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No need to be sorry :)

I have a profile on OKC from yonks ago, but I'm not taking that site seriously as I'm only using it to do those tests.. pretty good I have to add.

Think I'll quit using the English language dating sites as I've tried most and didn't do too well.


Russinating said:
Are you sure that's right? I've only been on PoF for 7 days (lost my old account and created a new one) and I've had more views already :confused:? How actually active were you?
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Yes, that was for five months, give or take a few people. During the first couple of months, I logged in every day to get enough points so I could change my background :o

Russinating said:
My message 'stats' are the same as fossils, ie I send loads and receive hardly any. I just thought his viewed thing must have been broken as most people will look at your profile if you send them a message or look at theirs (even if it's just to laugh at your ugliness!).
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The difference is that I set my account on 'stealth mode' - so nobody knew I viewed their profile. Too many profiles with the 'myspace angles' so as to not set the alarms off! :eek:

But of the 70 messages, very few of those resulted in profile views.
 
Scubascorpion said:
It's all in the profile pic
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On plentyoffail, I had NOBODY add me to their favourites. On Yahoo Personals HK, where most of the users have a similar ethnic background to myself, I've had people add me to their 'friend list' - similar to favourites.

Both profiles had the same main photo.
 
person said:
I use plenty of fish but to be honest im getting sick of it ... i only ever get messages off morons, the whole thing is just boreing/unappealing to me now and don't think decent men exsist on these things so i give up. Il be better off with nobody, what exactley makes people keep bothering with these things when the result is the same?
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Are you female? If so, you should be doing better as there are tons more males than females so you have more 'choice'.

As the other posters used that analogy to describe these sites, just hang in there man! You'll find someone if you don't give up.
 
Murf said:
People often confuse being too nice with being too boring too. Women don't want a door mat, no matter how nice that door mat is! :p

Be nice, but be confident, self assured and independent.
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I had to learn this the hard way. After a string of infatuations with friends in my teens, I never actually had my first proper girlfriend until I was 21, and I messed that up being inexperienced and insecure.

I've now found the balance between being the saccharin sweet guy I am deep down, with the independent and slightly cocky joker that I enjoy being from time to time.
 
Fossil said:
Are you female? If so, you should be doing better as there are tons more males than females so you have more 'choice'.

As the other posters used that analogy to describe these sites, just hang in there man! You'll find someone if you don't give up.
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Yes I am female and I wouldn't call doing well as getting messages off time wasters and fools. I think for now il just give it a rest, just don't have the will power for it at the moment.
 
I think the analogy that someone posts earlier in this thread pretty accurate.

From what I have found out with my experience, is it can be a pretty shallow market place and there is a lot of judging a book by its cover. However, on the flip side there can be some genuine people on these sites like some of the guys in this thread have experienced. In short goes with that analogy posted above.

I think where most people fall short and I know I do it myself some times, if you see a profile that catches your eye you don’t know how to break the ice.

I have a question for some of the women in this thread as I guess more often than not you get a lot more messages then most men would. Do you look for any sort of context in the ice breaker or do you go by there profile or just how they look?
 
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andyd said:
I think the analogy that someone posts earlier in this thread pretty accurate.

From what I have found out with my experience, is it can be a pretty shallow market place and there is a lot of judging a book by its cover. However, on the flip side there can be some genuine people on these sites like some of the guys in this thread have experienced. In short goes with that analogy posted above.

I think where most people fall short and I know I do it myself some times, if you see a profile that catches your eye you don’t know how to break the ice men.

I have a question for some of the women in this thread as I guess more often than not you get a lot more messages then most men would. Do you look for any sort of context in the ice breaker or do you go by there profile or just how they look?
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I would say for me its both looks/profile if a person has an amzing profile and seems interesting or like someone id want to talk to but i couldn't see myself being attracted to them then its no good. Its rare you actually find both though :( its either one or the other or none at all.
 
person said:
I would say for me its both looks/profile if a person has an amzing profile and seems interesting or like someone id want to talk to but i couldn't see myself being attracted to them then its no good. Its rare you actually find both though :( its either one or the other or none at all.
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Ahh see.

So you are saying the message they send is not so important?
I see you have mentioned attraction above. What I seem to think is missing from all this online dating is body language. As this makes up around about a massive 60% of if we are attracted to someone. If you find someone and get chatting then decide to meet up, it could be a big disappointment if the body language isn’t there.
 
andyd said:
What I seem to think is missing from all this online dating is body language. As this makes up around about a massive 60% of if we are attracted to someone. If you find someone and get chatting then decide to meet up, it could be a big disappointment if the body language isn’t there.
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This.

I've sacked off the whole online thing after Months of meeting people who I didn't click with. Online I've chatted with several women who on paper seem perfect, yet in reality haven't been as described. Initially, I limited emailing so only a couple would be exchanged before meeting, in the hope I wouldn't form an opinion before seeing what they're really like.

The last women I met came across as a completely different person when we finially met. Online she was funny, outgoing and intelligent. However, in person she couldn't hold a decent conversation and was really pessimistic. I later found out she's OK when there's time to reply but can't 'keep up the act' face to face.
 
My family are always saying "oh you'll meet someone when you're not looking"

which I've never believed!! lol. It's like the film "He's Just Not That Into You"

If you hear a story about a girl or guy who have met someone randomly and fallen in love when they least expected it and weren't looking..they aren't the "rule" they are the "exception".

It was also mentioned in my Cosmo mag as one of the writer's said:

If there's one piece of advice that irritates me most in the middle of a man drought, its: "Don't worry. You're bound to meet someone special when you least expect it." If I need a new outfit or fancy a different job, the last thing I'll do is not go looking for one, expecting it to just fall into my lap. Why should it be any different with men? And how do you stop yourself from looking - wear blinkers?
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I completely agree with her lol. It's so frustrating at times, either you find someone you like the sound of and they're not interested or vice versa.

There are a lot of time wasters out there and it is difficult to find the right match but I guess that's just how life is lol.
 
ah guys and gals, quality news ... had a date last night through a mate and everything went aces !!!! seeing her again on saturday !! :D
 
ah thanks peeps :D been chatting to her for a while and thought why not all last minute thing and then boom seemd a canny good night :)

i will destroy it Scubascorpion, in time :)
 
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