Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I haven't been on match for months (as i'm meant to be getting to know someone) but I found that the majority of the guys just didn't bother to put much effort into messages.

Fair enough if you're not interested that's fine, but if you like the sound of someone and you're the one who has initiated the contact, than you should take the time to try and get to know a bit more about them.

There are so many people out there who don't know what they want, have unfinished business with their ex or are just after a relationship for the wrong reasons.

It's so frustrating that sometime's i really do feel like giving up.

True gentleman are few and very far between. If a girl finds one she sure as hell should keep hold of him!
 
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It's so frustrating that sometime's i really do feel like giving up.

True gentleman are few and very far between. If a girl finds one she sure as hell should keep hold of him!
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What was my ex gf's excuse then :( ....."i was too nice" :( i miss her :( even tho she turned into a
 
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I used to get shot down constantly because I was "too nice", I was brought up to be a perfect gentleman, but when I realised none of the girls I ever met never saw me as anything but "a cute friend" or just plain wierd, I figured there's a limit to just how nice someone can be lol.
 
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I used to get shot down constantly because I was "too nice", I was brought up to be a perfect gentleman, but when I realised none of the girls I ever met never saw me as anything but "a cute friend" or just plain wierd, I figured there's a limit to just how nice someone can be lol.
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The problem is that just as someone can be too much of a ****, you can also be too much of a gentleman. Toe the line and you can do no wrong. I would never be purposefully horrible to a woman, but I can on occasion be a complete git... and this coupled with me being naturally generous and not too bad a egg, is something that girls seem to really like.

It's only bee a development over the last 6 years though, before that I was uber-nice and never got laid much... at least not the girls I wanted to sleep with. I'm happy to report that it's definately a changeable thing.
 
This is a small extract from a book from Neil Strauss and i believe its bang on.

Limiting Belief: Women aren't attracted to nice guys. They like jerks.

REALITY: This is one of the oldest myths about dating. And, fortunally, it's inaccurate. The dating dichotomy isn't actually between nice guys, or good boys and bay boys. It's between weak guys and strong guys. Women are drawn to men who demonstrate strength - not necessarily physical strength, but the ability to make them feel safe. So if you're a nice guy, you still can be nice.But you must also be strong.
However, make sure you know what nice means. Most guys who define themselves as "too nice" only behave nicely because they want everybody to like them. So, if this is you, get off your high horse. Don't mistake being fearful and weakminded for being nice.
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Richdog said:
The problem is that just as someone can be too much of a ****, you can also be too much of a gentleman. Toe the line and you can do no wrong. I would never be purposefully horrible to a woman, but I can on occasion be a complete git... and this coupled with me being naturally generous and not too bad a egg, is something that girls seem to really like.

It's only bee a development over the last 6 years though, before that I was uber-nice and never got laid much... at least not the girls I wanted to sleep with. I'm happy to report that it's definately a changeable thing.
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exactly my point, I never even got more than a peck on the cheek, and all the years of failing gave me massive self confidence issues, powered through that, learned to relax around girls, and several years (And several exes) later, I've grown to be quite formidable lol, and once girls have gotten to know me as more than a "friend" and more of a mate, then a lot of them flirt with me more and a number of us use each other to bounce our egos off to improve our self esteem :)
 
I seem to be banging on the race drum quite often in this thread :p but this article was pretty interesting...

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andyd said:
This is a small extract from a book from Neil Strauss and i believe its bang on.
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yup, sadly I was too nice befause that's how I was raised, have a moron for a brother who's rude and obnoxious most of our youth, so I became the polar opposite, and became in reality a wuss when it came to people, but as I said, improved my self confidence many years ago and havn't looked back :)
 
I use plenty of fish but to be honest im getting sick of it ... i only ever get messages off morons, the whole thing is just boreing/unappealing to me now and don't think decent men exsist on these things so i give up. Il be better off with nobody, what exactley makes people keep bothering with these things when the result is the same?
 
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