I would also have trouble staying with anyone who wasnt happy with the person I am, and thought I could do with "losing a bit" and wanted to change me, because to me that just says that its them with the insecurities and not me.
FWIW I can't stand stick thin girls who look like they're malnourished, but there's a threshold where I find size offputting.knip if the comments are offending you then it's best you don't respond to them... this is a light-hearted thread posted in by blokes having a laugh about the weird and wonderful world of online dating and as such there's going to be a few comments thrown in of that sort of nature, and there's not much need for changing the tone with serious debates on weight and over-analyzing everything to be honest. Many men, myself included, are attracted to specific types of women... some big... some small like myself and kroot etc. it's not shallow, it's not pre-meditated... it's just cold, hard fact caused by your natural pre-disposition to certain looks.
I would also have trouble staying with anyone who wasnt happy with the person I am, and thought I could do with "losing a bit" and wanted to change me, because to me that just says that its them with the insecurities and not me.
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Most of the posters above have put it far more eloquently than I could have.
Weight / size is a very important part of feeling attracted to someone for me.
A woman gaining weight is the same person inside maybe, but they are no longer a physical attraction to me, so that in my mind at least makes them a different person.
My last two long term girlfriends have both been dam intelligent and slim, that is EXACTLY what I look for in someone, because that's EXACTLY what I like.
So yea, when on the POF where the main attraction is the picture, dam right I'm going to pick the stick insect over the walrus!
EXACTLY the same as it would be in a pub, club or anywhere else, there has to be a physical attraction to make you want to go up to someone and strike up a relationship.
something ?, don't you mean someone ?
I don't see any harm in a compromise by way of a couple getting fitter or whatever to ensure they remain attractive to one another. Anything that makes you both more agile is bound to be a plus
Why would it be a stupid thing to do? I can't see any reason really.
). I think the stigma is disappearing, as it generally used to be something that eyebrows were raised over - God help you if you mentioned internet dating at a dinner party a few years back It still raises eyebrows to be honest... but then you casually point out to the people criticising that they have no girlfriend and aren't likely to for the near future, while I am chatting to and organising dates with hot professional women. They usually go a bit quiet after that.
. All the girls I meet through the normal channels don't seem to have any ambition except to get as wasted as possible; my ex (who I met at a pub) gave up her (part time) job and wanted me to support her . It's probably something to do with the high proportion of slackers and malingerers in my immediate area 
.These are the type of women I hate who are just after your money. A lot of the girls I know are just like I need to marry a rich blokemy ex (who I met at a pub) gave up her (part time) job and wanted me to support her
I feel like Angus Higgins after all those brackets...
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